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To think that surely known coercion invalidates medical consent ?

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Coercion · 13/06/2023 12:49

If all medical professionals are aware that a patient is being coerced/forced and this was in their medical notes then any consent given is invalidated ?

Im in a situation where it being told that’s not The case - that if I signed then it’s valid consent despite the fact they recorded on multiple occasions my disclosures of abuse and being forced, coerced and threatened. They even witnessed it and noted it.

Im told ‘ultimately you were an adult and consented’

This isn’t right is it ?

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VeterinaryCareAssistant · 14/06/2023 15:10

Readyplayerthr33 · 14/06/2023 08:49

There comes a point though, when you have to move on.

This awful thing happened, but you were an adult. You could have picked up the phone in hospital yourself and called the police. You could have called women’s aid or even your council and presented as homeless. You were an adult. You gave consent, you went to the appointments.

It is time to let it go and move forward. You’re not going to be able to undo it. You won’t be the person you were before. But you can be the person you are now and live the rest of your life fully, and have whatever experiences you want to have and children you want to have. It’s time.

This ^^

I think the reason you can't let go of this is because as you've got older you're realising that an 18 year old doesn't need permission from their mother to go out, own a phone or make life changing decisions.

Coercion · 14/06/2023 21:11

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 14/06/2023 15:10

This ^^

I think the reason you can't let go of this is because as you've got older you're realising that an 18 year old doesn't need permission from their mother to go out, own a phone or make life changing decisions.

I was locked in some days and I couldn’t just pick up a phone. I remember on one occasion being locked in and kicking the door handle to try and break the lock and I couldn’t do it as wasn’t strong enough. I tried to get out of a window but couldn’t as it was an upstairs one. She left that door handle broken for years and would tell anyone who would listen it was criminal damage by me and how she couldn’t afford to fix it

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Chipsahoy · 14/06/2023 21:23

Therapy. Lots and lots. You deserve to be heard and your pain validated and helped to heal and move on.

BittenontheBum · 14/06/2023 22:42

@Coercion I'd like you to know I hear you, believe what happened to you was appalling and abusive.
I am also having therapy for PTSD. It's very difficult isn't it? I often don't want to go, but I have waited so long (35 years & 2 years on a waiting list) and always feel a sense of achievement when I leave the house to go.
Good luck with your journey, everyone deserves to be happy 🌺

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