Sell up and move next to DB ?

[Highfivemum]

So been a hard year with a lady in my village. There was another thread on this. Who mistook me for someone else and made my life a misery. All died down know but it left me feeling awful. My DB who I adore and is my best friend came round today and said he was looking at moving as he too has had neighbour concerns ) noise business next door. )he has found a place that is an old farm type with two properties on one large site for sale and he asked would we consider moving alongside him. ? He knows how I struggled recently and is a great support. My DH thought this a great idea. They got in great and my DC would love it too as he has always been around for them but I spoke to a friend who said it is a recipe for disaster and we could end up hating each other so now I have the jitters. My DB and I are extremely close as due to family life we only have each other. The mere thought I would fall out leaves me feeling cold. AIBU to consider this. ? Has anyone else every done this and it was a success or wished they hadn’t ?

Thank you all for some great advice. My DB is viewing it today at 2:30. I have called agent and they are coming Wednesday morning 🤞🏻🤞🏻
we have never had boundary issues and my DB has his own key for my house and me for his. We always are respectful of each other. He lived with my DH and I when he was younger as I became his legal guardian until he was of age. Then he also lives with us following the death of his lovely wife. We get each other and he can read me like a book and I never felt like he was in the way or anything. I think the biggest issue we will have is my DC will never be at home as they always want to be with their Uncle. If it does all come off ( 🤞🏻) I would give them boundaries to not just go over. Though I am positive he would tell them to ignore their mum and come round whenever 😂… we would buy the whole plot as we don’t want one of us to buy one and the other to then not be able to buy the other house. I am lucky in the fact my brother could prob get a mortgage with his job and buy it all then we pay him the proceeds of our house sale. I agree getting something legal drawn up but I am sure he will sort that out.

It all sounds fantastic! Me and my siblings often talk wistfully about living together when we get old... and plan to get matching rocking chairs 🤣

My DB lives next door to my DM + DF and my DGM lived on the other side before she passed. It's always been lovely and as kids we were always in and out of all the houses 😊 So I'd say go for it.

I’d do it in a heartbeat!

Thank you all. So viewing went well my DB and partner seemed very positive. Few things need doing to the two bedroom property as it was owned by an older relative who has since passed but other than that all seems good. Going to see what happens at our valuation tomorrow and my DH and I are viewing tomorrow night while DB babysits. Fingers crossed. 🤞🏻

That sounds lovely. I would love that for my DC. My DB is the only family we have so is very special to us

Agent done valuation and that’s look good on paper. 🏡 🤞🏻
just been with DH to view other properties and we love it. The plot , the houses and it is not far so no school move for elder two children though youngest three may end up at the local primary school along with my little one who starts in a couple of years. Just come off phone to DB who is going to call agent again in morning and arrange another more detailed look with the four of us and ( hopefully before the end of week )then we can talk offers. I know it is early days so can’t get too excited but I am already planning on what rooms we will all have. Thanks for all your advice