Breastfeeding baby-ex wants me to stop

[Dowhatican]

DS is 16 months. We co-sleep and he is still breastfed. Spilt with ex in jan. his mother was messaging and calling me the other day, stating that they(he still lives at home) won’t be having him overnight until DS is no longer bf and in his own room. Having us own room isn’t possible as I simply don’t have another bedroom until I can move house. Aside from this, I’ve co-slept and BF all my DC until they weaned themselves.
his mother was very obnoxious and quite threatening. She even said ‘you knew ex wasn’t ready to be a dad but you went ahead with the pregnancy anyway’. I need to add that, at the time, I gave him the option of walking away, Scot free, but he chose not to.
I explained that he isn’t a child anymore(at 28) and she replied ‘well he is a child!’ Confirmed what I’d thought all along to be honest.
Do I need to speak to a solicitor about all this? At the moment DC only goes to their house once a week either sat or sun. I’m in no hurry for dc to be away from me overnight, either. I honestly wish he’d just choose to walk away at this stage

Of course not. Thank goodness he’s your ex!

It doesn't sound like that to me. The child's father and his mother are refusing overnights. The OP may not be keen on the idea and may wish he'd just give up but isn't actually preventing anything. The father's mother is behaving in an intimidating way. It is normal for a parent to want to protect their child from people who behave like that.

YANBU - feed the child in your care however you like..
Sorry not rtft but: "you knew ex wasn’t ready to be a dad but you went ahead with the pregnancy anyway"
Then he shouldn't have put his penis into a vagina then.
Also maybe mummy has something to do with this man still being a child.

you're right - I should have said many not all, (I've sadly not had any interactions that have been positive, however that applies to minimal positive comments for my age group too)

This!

No they can't force you to stop BF. You certainly chose a man child to have a baby with. Do you think it's a bit 2 faced complaining about him smoking weed ? After all you weren't that bothered about it when he was living with you.

stating that they(he still lives at home) won’t be having him overnight until DS is no longer bf and in his own room.

"Ok, can you please ask ex to send me an email confirming that's his view too?"

Then ignore. They clearly don't want to see him.

I don't know why you're communicating with his mother in the first place. How embarrassing that a 28year old man needs his Mummy to do his dirty work.

Can you point out the part where I said he lives with me? He never has so your comment is irrelevant

Honestly, I was aghast when she messaged me. Then she phoned me! It was pathetic. Ex was nowhere to be heard in all this.

ffs she sounds like a nightmare.

Feed your baby how you like.

Hopefully he will cut the apron strings when he turns 30 😒

I'm sorry your dealing with this

I think it’s a safe assumption that won’t happen. He said he’ll still be living at home when he’s 40-he can’t save up now because he has to pay me

How odd of your ex's DM trying to tell you how to raise a child when she's still treating a 28 year old like a "child"

I'd have just messaged back
"I agree with you there, you won't be having DC to stay overnight until I've finished BF but when that'll be I really can't say. As for sleeping in their own room I'm afraid one won't appear here in place of my titty milk dryng up so not much chance of that happening"

No court will make you stop doing what's best for your DC.

Then, unless you want a peek at her reply keep her blocked.

You’ve pretty much quoted my initial reply to her. It escalated from there!

@Dowhatican I hope she and him steps on a nail.

I'm glad you stood up for yourself ! What was the mums rely ?

Honestly I would be mortified if my son ever acted like that, even more mortified that I would be texting a new mum the things she's said to you !

You deserve better ! Jesus wept that man child will never grow up !

TALK TO THE COURTS ABOUT THIS. I 100% agree with your parenting. However plenty of 10 month olds are healthy and happy without co-sleep or being breast fed. It is totally your right to WANT these things for your child, but they are not NEEDS. There are bound to be some legalities around what a parent is allowed to insist the other parent does, and you need to get advice on what these are. It could easily become a situation where you are seen to invent "needs" for the child to stop her dad seeing her, and this would be destructive for everyone.

You BF is irrelevant..he has the baby overnight, its not stopping that which is the usual gripe about it.what you do at home is your business.
I feel its more the baby wakes up at night..but stopping BF wont stop that. I know a few babies that never slept throught the night till they started school. 😅

“Ok, sure. I’ll let you know when he’s stopped breastfeeding.”
Then update CMS claim to reflect 0 overnights.