to buy a card but no present for MIL for mother's day?

[deaconblue]

I have always bought nice gifts for my mum and MIL for mother's day but MIL never says thank you, the gifts I've got in the past have never been mentioned and Dh never used to get her anything before we met. This year he thinks I shouldn't bother and we should just send a card. I just feel a bit guilty choosing lovely stuff for my mum and deliberately not getting MIL anything.

With mothers day surely dh/dp will be helping dc's get a card/gift for you anyway so buying his mother one will be no issue as he's already there getting yours! Mind you I guess that'd depend on dc's ages(mine are 3 and 10 months) I have been telling dh when it is though I would be very annoyed if he forgot! Once dc's are old enough they will be in the firing line if they forget

Pre dc and pre my mum dying(I got pg a few months after mum died) I bought the cards/flowers for both mil and mum. Makes me to look at the cards now and won't buy one for mil. I do get a card for my mum though still and will buy her flowers to keep at my house. Makes me think of her when I see them

i just know my mum is going to expect something but it is totally against my principles to get her anything off ds. we do live with her though so maybe i should make an exception?

no, it is weird to get mother's day stuff from grandchildren imo. Equally weird are people who buy their daughter a gift on their son's birthday.

Couldn't agree more 'shopping...' - what is the point of having any tyoe of 'special day' if you start involving all and sundry in on it?

what about godmother's ... cos they don't have a special day do they.

nappyaddict - I have invited my godmother to lunch on mother's day (along with my mum and dad) as her only son lives in America.

Feeling quite chuffed with myself as she sounded so pleased when I rang and invited her.

She is 82 by they way and has a fantastic social life. Don't normally see her but we keep in touch by letter a few times a year.

Mothers day works out expensive here..

My mum = card and gift
MIL = card and gift
DPs mum = card and gift
God mother 1 = card
Godmother 2 =card
My great aunt who has no children of her own but dotes on my sons = card
The mother of my best friend (who died) = card

kimi i think you must have a lovely heart,

i think if my dh said not too buy my mil a prsent id still want to give her flowers or a box of biscuits.

dippy

It's all just shameless marketing hype. Stop being suckered in... Spend some quality time with your mum or your kids and forget about cards and presents.

Why not just get a MIL card rather than a Mother one, sign it just from you and send it. That way she gets a card but there's no doubt who it's come from. Plus if your husband doesn't get one then it makes it perfectly obvious to your MIL who is actually forgetting.