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iwonderwhat · 2023-06-09T13:08:19+00:00

DS and friend (both 18) are going on their first holiday abroad together. They are pretty sensible but possibly a bit unworldly. I think they should each be taking bum bag with RFID protection for their passport, phone, cards and small amount of cash but DS is resisting. They are going to a Greek island for less than a week, taking carry on bags only. I'm a bit anxious - but trying not to show it! - and may be going overboard [getting the contact details of the local British consulate] but I don't want them to come into difficulties that could be avoided. Any suggestions much appreciated! TIA

Verv · 09/06/2023 14:19

Just get him an RFID credit card to stick in his wallet if youre that concerned.

He wont wear a bum-bag, he's 18 and they're horrendous.
Plus if a big sandwich board that says "Im a vulnerable tourist" is too much then a bum-bag will do the trick.

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 09/06/2023 14:19

He can say he will but can do what he wants when he gets there. He's 18 not 13.

thaegumathteth · 09/06/2023 14:20

Erm....ok insist. I mean if I were him
I'd just agree and then not do it but that's because I also grew up with an overbearing mother.

Lastqueenofscotland2 · 09/06/2023 14:21

Colinfromaccounts · 09/06/2023 14:16

😂 he will be finding this all very cringe

by the way, do you think there might be a connection between your overbearing anxiety and his unworldliness, hmm?

Yes my thoughts exactly…

Andanotherone01 · 09/06/2023 14:21

For God’s sake, leave the poor lad alone

Remuneration · 09/06/2023 14:22

The stuff people post on here blows my mind.

I always shove my passport jn the hotel drawer and hope for the best. So far so good.

My 18y is going inter railing this summer. She won’t take a bumbag. I certainly won’t be looking for the consulate numbers for the eight countries they are visiting. I have to trust her and let her make mistakes. I am a bit worried but that’s my issue not hers.

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iwonderwhat · 09/06/2023 14:22

OK everyone, calm down. I only asked! How is it overbearing to ask for suggestions?? Of course I'm not going to "make him". Has nobody on here ever talked things through with their young adult kids to try to guide them?

I'm not planning to phone him at all. I just want the two of them to have a great time. I was mugged on holiday in my early 20s - admittedly a long time ago -and it was a right bloody pain to sort everything else.

Of course he can do what he likes. I've not been abroad for donkeys years [and he's only been on a school trip where the staff took charge of looking after passports etc] and would like to be able to suggest something.

For those with sensible suggestions [eg call it a sling bag] thank you.

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TheSnowyOwl · 09/06/2023 14:22

Slaistery · 09/06/2023 14:17

Is this a covert approach to ensuring he won’t get laid?

If so, it’s a guaranteed certainty to work!

PeppermintPorpoise · 09/06/2023 14:23

Anything that signals that you're an inexperienced, scared tourist (like bumbags where they arent needed) will make you more of a target and not safer at all. Leave him be.

GabriellaMontez · 09/06/2023 14:23

I think a better suggestion would be to go with them. You could sit discreetly at the bar. No one would know.

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 09/06/2023 14:24

GabriellaMontez · 09/06/2023 14:23

I think a better suggestion would be to go with them. You could sit discreetly at the bar. No one would know.

Please tell me you're joking.

TheSnowyOwl · 09/06/2023 14:24

iwonderwhat · 09/06/2023 14:22

OK everyone, calm down. I only asked! How is it overbearing to ask for suggestions?? Of course I'm not going to "make him". Has nobody on here ever talked things through with their young adult kids to try to guide them?

I'm not planning to phone him at all. I just want the two of them to have a great time. I was mugged on holiday in my early 20s - admittedly a long time ago -and it was a right bloody pain to sort everything else.

Of course he can do what he likes. I've not been abroad for donkeys years [and he's only been on a school trip where the staff took charge of looking after passports etc] and would like to be able to suggest something.

For those with sensible suggestions [eg call it a sling bag] thank you.

When I went backpacking (admittedly back in the late 90s) I scanned or photographed all the documents that were important and made a list of important numbers and references etc. Then I emailed it to myself so that I could log onto my email in a worst case situation and obtain that information and would be enough to get me back home or emergency documents issued for travel.

Andanotherone01 · 09/06/2023 14:24

iwonderwhat · 09/06/2023 14:22

OK everyone, calm down. I only asked! How is it overbearing to ask for suggestions?? Of course I'm not going to "make him". Has nobody on here ever talked things through with their young adult kids to try to guide them?

I'm not planning to phone him at all. I just want the two of them to have a great time. I was mugged on holiday in my early 20s - admittedly a long time ago -and it was a right bloody pain to sort everything else.

Of course he can do what he likes. I've not been abroad for donkeys years [and he's only been on a school trip where the staff took charge of looking after passports etc] and would like to be able to suggest something.

For those with sensible suggestions [eg call it a sling bag] thank you.

Well yeah, I try and guide my kids but I wouldn’t insist an 18 year old wears a bloody bum bag!

GalileoHumpkins · 09/06/2023 14:25

How are you going to enforce it, hot glue it to his body?

ZenNudist · 09/06/2023 14:27

Bum bags are in! Worn across the body and from uniqlo.

You can't make him wear one. Is this what you do on holiday? Reminds me of my dad in the 80s when travellers cheques were a thing...

TokyoSushi · 09/06/2023 14:27

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Colinfromaccounts · 09/06/2023 14:27

Does he manage to get through life without losing everything or being scammed on a regular basis OP? He just has to do whatever he does to get around on a daily basis, but in a different country. It’s Greece not the moon

TokyoSushi · 09/06/2023 14:28

Oh I loved travellers cheques!

GimmeSleep · 09/06/2023 14:28

GabriellaMontez · 09/06/2023 14:23

I think a better suggestion would be to go with them. You could sit discreetly at the bar. No one would know.

Sun, Sex & Suspicious Parents 😂

2000s reality TV at it's best 😆

Shinyandnew1 · 09/06/2023 14:28

Of course I'm not going to "make him"

People were only answering YOUR thread title!

notokaywiththetropes · 09/06/2023 14:28

iwonderwhat · 09/06/2023 14:22

OK everyone, calm down. I only asked! How is it overbearing to ask for suggestions?? Of course I'm not going to "make him". Has nobody on here ever talked things through with their young adult kids to try to guide them?

I'm not planning to phone him at all. I just want the two of them to have a great time. I was mugged on holiday in my early 20s - admittedly a long time ago -and it was a right bloody pain to sort everything else.

Of course he can do what he likes. I've not been abroad for donkeys years [and he's only been on a school trip where the staff took charge of looking after passports etc] and would like to be able to suggest something.

For those with sensible suggestions [eg call it a sling bag] thank you.

You said INSIST, not suggest. Huge difference.

Anyway, the advice that they take all of their valuables and put them in one small bag that can easily be lifted off them is really stupid. So I suggest they do not listen to you at all.

Scalottia · 09/06/2023 14:29

I was living out of home at 18.

18 is an adult. You sound overbearing.

YABU.

RampantIvy · 09/06/2023 14:29

CaloundraBlues · 09/06/2023 14:10

You sound completely overbearing and you're going to take all the fun out of their holiday. Just let them go and have fun, they are adults and they don't have to do what you suggest

No she doesn't. She just sounds worried. There is more than likely a safe in the room where they can leave their valuables.

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 09/06/2023 14:30

Scalottia · 09/06/2023 14:29

I was living out of home at 18.

18 is an adult. You sound overbearing.

YABU.

Same here. And had a baby!

Onesailwait · 09/06/2023 14:31

I love a fanny pack but you can't force it on the kid.