Thinking of sperm donation

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So I'm single, 41. I would like another child. I do not want a father. I can support the child via my work. I would not want to rely on benefits.

So, I thinking of sperm donor. I don't particularly want sex.

I've joined some groups. Does anyone know how this works? Does the man ejaculate into a cup and you put it into your vagina? I suppose you could just have sex?

Has anyone done this?

It's nothing to do with considering other factors. All I'm saying is we all have children out of a selfish desire, there's nothing selfless about having children. I am here to consider other factors. That's the entire point of this post.

Many couples use friends. That's not wild or irresponsible at all. And being able to survive on 25K doesn't make an idiot, it makes me the opposite. I also went up to this wage rapidly over 7 months, and it will increase. I'm good at what I do.

I'm considering what's been said here but I am under an obvious time constraint.

Just about to say the same!

That's a pretty awful thing to say. My child is very happy and loves me very much.

It's not "all" about me. But I want a child yes. So I'm asking questions.

What you said is just uncalled for but I know my child doesn't need your pity so good luck to you.

25k a year will not get you very far when you have to pay nursery fees. I earn more and could not afford it as a single parent.

My earnings will go up as my freelance work increases. They already increased twofold in 7 months due to better contracts.

I WFH and can work with baby in a sling whilst feeding. I did this the first time around.

This. Doesn’t even have 2k but wants to bring another child into this world solo. Dream on OP.

If you are on Facebook I suggest you join Solo Mothers by Choice UK. Lots of helpful info on there to help you explore all options without judgement.

For what it’s worth though, unless you have a known donor willing to donate (which brings its own issues in terms of parental rights etc), I would be extremely careful with groups where men ‘altruistically’ offer their sperm. You have no idea about STIs, numbers of children already conceived or their motivation. They will have parental rights regardless of any contracts etc drawn up at the start. I have also heard of men arranging a donation but then insisting that they will only do ‘natural’ insemination rather than artificial. It all seems very seedy (can’t think of a more appropriate word 😂).

Not being funny if you can't afford 2k similar to other responses you can't afford a child then!

Jesus Christ OP, you do it through a proper clinic, not some Facebook creep with a fetish. How will you check for STDs? Do you not care about temperament, health conditions etc?

Or of course, you are one of those Facebook creeps who keeps posting about his fetish here…

So you think any parent without 2K in the bank should surrender to adoption?

It’s shocking that you would consider doing this when it sounds like the last thing your 7 year old needs.

She's already apart from her father, he was living in a n abusive home with her stepfather, now she’s caught up on a divorce and living in a low income household. At the age of 41, you surely know the risks of having baby.

Why would puke you gamble with a 7 year old’s life like that? Sounds like she’s been through more than enough.

Like I said, your 7 year old has been through enough. A stable environment where resources are focused on her for once should be your priority.

😂