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Would you go away alone with young dc

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Theplaceneedspainting · 08/06/2023 20:06

Dh and I aren’t getting along at the moment, I mainly avoid him, but try to get on when near him, but he stresses me out and I just don’t feel that happy.
I saw a short break (1-2 nights) for a great deal-5 star hotel, pool, kids club, by the beach etc.
We live abroad and it would be around a 1 hour, 15 minute drive away.
I have an almost 5 year old Dd, we have great fun together, she’s off Pre school on Mondays and I don’t work Mondays, Dh does and can’t get it off work.
Would you go away for a relaxing break (would it be that on my own with a 4 year old?! 😂) for a long weekend?
I’ve never done it before…anyone ever gone alone before?

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Snugglemonkey · 08/06/2023 23:30

Just go for it. I have taken my son away myself a few times. We even went camping and I put up a 4 man tent myself.

Plenty of single parents travel with their children. You'll be grand!

cestlavielife · 08/06/2023 23:36

If you can drive with dc for a day trip or to the shops
You can go for a few days
Get. Breakdown cover for car
If all fails get a Taxi
You wont be stranded
Go have fun

sjpkgp1 · 09/06/2023 02:31

Definitely go. Prepare yourself for a quieter night if you are normally the sociable sort. I have been alone with all four of my children (not all at once mind) with far more outlandish trips than a hotel an hour or so away, and always enjoyed it, and it hasn't always gone to plan either. You will have a fab time, and it is always a good story for you to share, Admittedly I took them on my own when they were a bit older, and we had the odd mishap, but even the "disasters" are funny in retrospect. Go ! You cannot miss the experience xx

Infusionist · 09/06/2023 02:52

I went away with DD who was 2 at the time. Our flight was diverted and we were put up at a hotel in a random airport. DH (who I love!) woild have been worried and I would have caught his stress, but on my own with DD we made it a funny part of the holiday.

Would totally recommend!

evuscha · 09/06/2023 05:11

Do it! I have taken my almost 4 year old a few times and always had a great time!

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Theplaceneedspainting · 09/06/2023 08:36

Do lots of you have a *Better time just you and a dc/dcs?

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AMuser · 09/06/2023 08:40

bloodywhitecat · 08/06/2023 20:25

I am a solo foster carer and took my fosterlings away for a few days last year, they were 1 and 2 at the time and we had an absolute blast. Do it!

Thanks for doing what you do 😃. Love the term fosterlings.

I took my two kids aged 4 and 2 on a Mark Warner to Greece from UK with a friend who had one DD aged 4. It was hard work with 2 … 1 would be v straightforward. Go for it!

lastminutewednesday · 09/06/2023 09:40

Yes. I register did when mine were under 10, from the age of 3 and 4.
It's hard work but no more than it is at home. And at least it's warm and a change from your normal routine

MaxwellCat · 09/06/2023 09:45

Yes unless you think single parents never go on holiday?

scubaprincess · 09/06/2023 09:52

Absolutely do it. I take my 2 DDs (7 and 4) away at least once a year (and have even taken them abroad a few times) and I encourage my DH to do the same. Yes it's hard work at times but I find it's a lovely experience overall and we seem to relax and bond in a way that we just can't with DH there.

whoruntheworldgirls · 09/06/2023 09:54

Sounds amazing i'd go!

rainbowstardrops · 09/06/2023 10:07

Go for it!!! A few years back when my two were younger (probably around 8yrs and 13yrs) I took them on holiday to Norfolk by myself. I don't drive, so had to get to London then across London on the tube and then on to Norfolk. Took a good four hours or so!!! We had a great time!

Igmum · 09/06/2023 12:50

Single parent here, I do this all the time. It's great, go for it

sr92 · 09/06/2023 13:04

Definitely go! An amazing memory for you and little one to have!

mindutopia · 09/06/2023 13:23

Yes, definitely. I'm very happily married to dh, but we both take the dc away individually - either to give the other a break or because there is something specific we want to do that only one dc would want to do (so other dc stays at home). I really enjoy it. Do it at least one a year and dh just took them away camping last weekend.

BethDuttonsTwin · 09/06/2023 13:31

I’ve been to multiple countries with my children on my own inc US, UAE, SE Asia, all over Europe. They’re teens/YA now but from age 5 onwards I took them all over the place. I’m a single parent so it was either that or do nothing! It was great tbh. Not having to accommodate a spoilt adult’s needs which seemed to mostly involve ensuring he got to stop for a pint every 60 minutes or there’d be a borderline agressive mini tantrum.

Start small if you’re nervous. Book a package holiday to a Spain or something, nice hotel, right on the beach with all inclusive so you don’t have to leave the hotel until you feel comfortable.

BethDuttonsTwin · 09/06/2023 13:31

Theplaceneedspainting · 09/06/2023 08:36

Do lots of you have a *Better time just you and a dc/dcs?

ABSOLUTELY!

Lcb123 · 09/06/2023 13:32

Go if you want to, seems very normal. Bit concerned you seem to be nervous about doing something so minor

febrezeme · 09/06/2023 13:55

I do it and I have 3 young children as a single parent I don't really get the hesitation? And yes if things aren't going great with your husband to en you'll have a better time on your own anyway

YukoandHiro · 09/06/2023 14:10

Lcb123 · 09/06/2023 13:32

Go if you want to, seems very normal. Bit concerned you seem to be nervous about doing something so minor

Congratulations on executing the perfect textual head tilt

Abouttimemum · 09/06/2023 14:25

Yep I would do this with my 4 year old. Would be awesome!

ThickSkinnedSoWhat · 09/06/2023 14:34

Well us lone parents do or they can't go at all

thefatpotato · 09/06/2023 14:43

I'm a SAHM and my husband works very long hours. I've taken my two away just the three of us a lot, to stay with friends, to my in-laws (I'm lucky that I really enjoy spending time with my in-laws!) and abroad both short and long haul. It's great, and to be honest I don't think it's generally that much more difficult than going as a family.

Fifthtimelucky · 09/06/2023 14:50

Why on earth wouldn't you?

When mine were 5 and 3 I took them to Florida by myself. I also had numerous holidays in this country with them.

My husband is not a great fan of holidays.

AnneElliott · 09/06/2023 14:54

Go for it. I've been away with DS since he was 6/7 and we've always had a great time. We're doing a road trip this summer just us even though he's 17!