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Cowboy

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Emucake · 08/06/2023 17:32

My 54 year old partner is taking part in a town parade today. The group he is involved with have cowboy costumes. I have no issue with this- although, l am cringing at a grown man dressing up for parade around the town. He has a beard and came over to my place this morning and l was shocked to see that he had shaved most of his beard and left a ridiculous looking moustache- like Seth Dingle from Emmerdale. I think it's a step too far. It's different if its a charity event but it's not. Apparently, he will shave if off after the parade. I feel like throwing in the towel as lm feeling that he must be lacking in some way to go to this effort. Am l being unreasonable?

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Emucake · 08/06/2023 20:01

Pinkflipflop85- do you have to be so nasty

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UndercoverCop · 08/06/2023 20:02

He sounds like brilliant fun tbh OP

Modaboutyou · 08/06/2023 20:02

Well you sound fun. You should break up with him, he deserves someone that appreciates him!

DollyTrolly · 08/06/2023 20:13

God you'd hate living where I do OP.... any excuse to dress up!
Last weekend a couple of hundred of us dressed up and took part in a huge pub crawl around our local villages. It was brilliant and some people went to a huge effort.

We're already planning next year!

TakeMyStrongHand · 08/06/2023 22:29

Assuming there is quite the age gap if he is 54...

One of you needs to grow up and it's not the cowboy with a moustache.

vodkaredbullgirl · 08/06/2023 23:35

Oh dear me 🙄

PocketfulOfMiracles · 08/06/2023 23:54

OP there are many weekends where I dress as a stormtrooper and run around with a blaster.
I feel you and I couldn’t be friends.

Stompythedinosaur · 08/06/2023 23:58

I always feel there's something a bit fragile when people want to stop loved ones doing things they enjoy that harm no one because they feel their "immature".

I would say that having a bigger focus on how an activity is perceived externally than being yourself is quite immature.

TreeLine23 · 09/06/2023 00:02

Is it the 'try too hard' bit you don't like OP?

If so, I kind of get that. You don't sound compatible, sack him off.

SkiingIsHeaven · 09/06/2023 07:23

My DH shaved his beard off leaving a moustache. I couldn't sleep with him until he shaved it off because he looked like his uncle.

This guy sounds like he's having a bit of harmless fun. The OP needs to lighten up.

HappiestSleeping · 09/06/2023 07:36

bibbityboppityboo · 08/06/2023 17:42

I think it's so fun that he's really into the role! It's nice community spirit when people take part in these sorts of parades, our local village ones are taken really seriously.

This 👆

Dressing up is not for me at all, neither are those type of parades, however if everyone felt like I do (and indeed you OP), then they would die out and I think that would be a shame despite my lack of interest. It is people like your other half that keep them alive. His enthusiasm should be commended. After all, it takes all sorts to make a world.

PotBelliesGiveGoodLoving · 09/06/2023 07:46

I'm planning my costume for Rocky Horror Show.

Hoppinggreen · 09/06/2023 07:50

I have a bit of a cowboy fetish so this would please me greatly, as would the facial hair going as I hate it.
You are being a fun sponge OP but having said that you can break up with someone for any reason you want, or no reason at all in fact

FloorWipes · 09/06/2023 08:00

He isn’t doing anything wrong but I think I would find this cringey as well. This isn’t my sort of fun/humour and it would make me question our compatibility.

NooNakedJacuzziness · 09/06/2023 08:01

Could be worse, at least he's not morris dancing

DollyTrolly · 09/06/2023 08:44

NooNakedJacuzziness · 09/06/2023 08:01

Could be worse, at least he's not morris dancing

Ah now..... morris dancing is HUGE where I live.
It's not unusual to wander down into the village to find parts of it closed off for the morris men. Once a year all the morris men carry a chosen one on a high cart from village to village 😂
I love how quintessentially British it is .... they look like they're having a ball and they can't half drink!!

crazeekat · 09/06/2023 09:31

do u think he might be looking at u while ur looking at him thinking........what a fking bore. hope he giddy-ups into the sunset and has the best time.

PN54DJS · 09/06/2023 11:01

Throwing in a towel because he's shaved his facial hair 😂😂😂😂😂

Grow up

MasterBeth · 09/06/2023 11:11

The group he is involved with have cowboy costumes. I have no issue with this- although, l am cringing at a grown man dressing up for parade around the town.

"I have no issue with cowboy costume, just the thought of anyone actually seeing him in cowboy costume..."

Fancy dress isn't for me, either. I get no pleasure from it. I can never be arsed with dressing up. But that doesn't make me a superior person!

And... he does! It's harmless. It's "fun" (if you like that kind of thing). And if you're dressing up, it makes sense to do it properly, hence the shave.

Look, seeing him in cowboy chaps and a sherriff's badge may give you the ick, and that's fine. But that's your thing, not his. He isn't lacking anything, except whiskers.

Bananananananananana · 09/06/2023 11:15

I really dislike the clean shaven look on my DH and would be schooled if he shaved. I probably wouldn't be attracted to him dressed as Woody either.

But dear god, you come across as a misery. I thought maybe it was a bit of a jokey-moan but you sound genuinely disapproving of this.

It's one day of dress up with others! It's not his new wardrobe attire.

Seriously, you need to get over it and not be such a downer 😑

Hoppinggreen · 09/06/2023 11:25

To be fair if DH ever dresses in drag my vagina will clamp shut forever.
Luckily the chances of that happening are nil

JaneJeffer · 09/06/2023 11:37

🤠

NooNakedJacuzziness · 09/06/2023 11:39

That does sound fun @DollyTrolly! But not sure I'd really want my DP to flap his hanky and jingle away Grin

DollyTrolly · 09/06/2023 11:55

NooNakedJacuzziness · 09/06/2023 11:39

That does sound fun @DollyTrolly! But not sure I'd really want my DP to flap his hanky and jingle away Grin

My DH isn't interested but one of my friends does it and it's just part of who he is....it involves a lot of local traditions which are fascinating.
My DS loves it so I could see him joining them at some point.

Local traditions and rituals are really important imo so whole the OP might not be interested in getting dressed up, getting the hump because your partner does is a bit out of order.

Our village has always done Movember .... some of the blokes look ridiculous but it's only short term and for a good cause..... I couldn't imagine getting the hump with DH for something that alters his appearance for such a short time.

Daffodilsandtuplips · 09/06/2023 12:08

It’s just hair, he’s getting into the role.
One of the best ones was bloke dressed up as a Mexican bandit, he had the leather thing across his chest with bullets in, only the ‘bullets’ were lipsticks, his wife had collected them from her friends. Now that’s a wife who gets behind her man.

My DH had a moustache when I met him, I’d never seen him without it. In forty years… He shaved it off one day and I never even noticed. It took me three days to notice, I’d been wondering why he was getting in my face making these daft facial expressions.