I live at home with my mother. It's due to limited accommodations and costs. I don't ake advantage of living at home and I help my mother.
There's a situation deleveloping and I can't help but think she being unreasonable.
I have a sibling who is living abroad. He is on another contintent. We don't see each other often due to costs and distance involved. He has a wife and child together too. I love my niece with all my heart. The distance and costs are so very hard. We are lucky if we see each other once every 4 years.
My brother has plans to come on holidays. He would love to stay at home but my mother is being awkward. He and his family will be staying with a friend. They are not rich and can't afford hotel or other traditional holiday stays on top of flights and time off work. They need the help of family and friends. Thank good his friend is stepping up.
There is large spare room at home but my mother is making excuses to not accommodate them.
I feel hurt by this. They are family and she's making no effort for the week that they will be at home. It's a week. If feels as if my mother has demoted my niece - her grandchild and her mother and my brother to be some other type of distance relative instead of closer family. We met the lady before and she's down to earth.
I am actually hurt how they are staying somewhere else instead of coming home because my mother is making excuses about our home. It's an old build but it's livable.
I don't understand this. My niece her grandchild lives across the world. We don't see her and my mother nearly feels heartbroken with the idea of them coming.
My mother already said we can see them by going on the bus into town every day and we can see them that way.
We live a world apart.
AIBU. Hosting them would never fall on her back. I would help. I already helped and bought a bed and bedding on the chance she changes her mind.
Should I keep a relaxed attitude and prepare the house for guests anyways on the off chance once they get here and she sees them,she might change her mind. I don't know if she will change her mind. It seems as if she is resenting my brother's family and she doesn't want them staying at home as a family.