Do you like other people's children?

[Irked]

Just that really. I struggle sometimes being around other people's children, either because of tantrums, arguments, different parenting styles/boundaries, different needs/demands/manners, etc. Not necessarily the fault of the children, but I don't find it easy being around other people's kids. Does everyone feel like this or is it just me? Anything to do to make it easier/more enjoyable?

I feel like sometimes it is assumed that if you have kids you must be a "kid-person" and like all kids (in the same way that if you have a cat everyone will give you cups or calendars with cats on them for Christmas because you are a "cat-person" and must therefore like all cats).

So are you a kid-person or do you only like your own?

YABU - all children are a delight in their own way and you should enjoy the wonder they bring to your world.

YANBU - I only like spending time with my own kids - other people's kids are hard work to be around.

I love children, but I do not entertain little/big horrors with parents too lazy to correct them.

Children are people. I don't like all people. I don't like all children. I find I usually like the ones I get to know.

I don’t hate them but I don’t adore them either. I can cope with tantrums in supermarkets and loud children on the bus just fine. But when it comes to me having to interact with someone else’s kids I don’t really enjoy it.

It depends on the child tbh.

I like some dc. Generalising to with loving or hating all dc makes it sound like you don't recognise children are people and individuals.

Kids are just people like anyone else. I like some of them. I dislike others. A lot of them I'm neutral on.

This is a hard one

Yes most of the time

But their behaviour is so fcking bad sometimes

And as per previous thread I have been helping friend with their child care

They break so many things grrrrrrrrrrrr

It's a weird question. No one, surely, likes all children, just as they don't like all adults.

i like some adults and dislike others. I feel the same with children.

Generally, yes. I like kids and I like people. It wasn't always so unfashionable.

It depends, just like adults. Some are ok, and some are not.
I got more frustrated with the parents' of mardy badly behaved kids, the ones who just don't see it as their little darlings simply couldn't be like that.
Give me that same child without its parent around, and it normally does as i ask.
So its actually disillusioned parents that annoy me

I'm not a big fan of other people in general, let alone their offspring.

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Yes, completely!

I love my friend's kids they're awesome little mini them. I adore some of my kid's friends and some of them of wee shites. Some of them are wee shites that I adore too.

I'm the same as you, I don't really like other children. I don't dislike them either. I love my own thankfully and think others can be sweet but in general I'm not interested in them at all. I even struggle to bond with my own niece who is 2 I find her to be very spoilt and hard work which reminds me of my sister (her Mum). I don't think it helps that I have a 2 year old myself so they are probably easier to compare?

I'm don't like kids who have an attitude problem, who are gobby/scream and shout for no reason (SEN aside), kids who don't use manners, bullies, those who are unkind.

This behaviour all usually stems from piss poor parenting and isn't necessarily the kids fault but the kids become the collateral damage from being a shit parent and not helping their kids become decent adults.

I don't want kids like this in my house or around my kids. I have enough going on without dealing with screechy, rude or nasty kids.

On a positive note I love kids that come to play, 2!: play nicely, don't trash my house and behave well enough they I can have a brew in peace and forget they are even here.

This is why I can't make friends at baby groups. I just am not interested in other people's babies and I'm no good at faking it.

I'm a teacher, so I'm very used to dealing with other people's children, but in a different context obviously. I don't actively dislike spending time with (most) other people's children in non-work scenarios, but it is an effort and it can feel a bit forced trying to engage with kids you don't know very well.

I like my dc’ friends (mostly) as I can see they make my dc happy

And I quite like children generally but in small doses

Not really. I'm not a child person at all, except my own child.

This is why I only went once. I found it tedious.

So many judgemental people going on about poor parenting.
My oldest DC can often come across as "badly behaved" and it is clear that he annoys many adults, including close family members which I find extremely hurtful.
What is actually going on behind this behaviour is anxiety and a probable autism diagnosis.
If people bother to take the time to connect with him then he is a lovely lad with lots of interesting things to say. Sadly so few adults have done this and it has really limited our ability to socialise as a family.

I do like other people's children, mostly. I just have no idea how to talk to them.