AIBU to think this cheater is having a rubbish holiday?

[User544]

Name changed to protect my best friend’s identity. Posting on her behalf.

Her boyfriend dumped her for another woman and within days they were going on holiday together, leaving my friend high and dry with her kids.

They have gone to Iceland, a place my friend always wanted to go. She is hoping they’re having a terrible time. She doesn’t want him back but she’s angry and hurt.

We have checked the weather and it’s cloudy.

Can you help convince my friend that they’re probably not enjoying it?! We all know they might be really but she needs cheering up. I hear it’s expensive!!

AIBU to think Iceland in the cloudy weather isn’t the romantic dream that my friend thought?

He is very fair skinned and I suspect will be popular with biting insects.

Sorry OP I loved Iceland. It's clean, the air is fresh, people are lovely.

It is very expensive, so they'll be skint when they get back but it is a great place to go.

Tell your friend when she wins the jackpot (I don't mean ££, it could be but maybe finds the right partner) she should go anytime from Oct to Feb.

Drink beer whilst in a hot spring.

Unlock electric scooters and have fun using the cycle lanes.
Kayak around Arrow mountain as used in Game of Thrones.

Find trolls.
Eat ice cream - it's lush.
Take a hike to a waterfall.
Take a trip called the Golden Circle
See the aurora borealis - this is the only thing they won't see, its the wrong time of year!!

This is exactly what has happened 😆

I live in Iceland and this is the weather, at 10pm. But let’s cross fingers they are having an awful time 😆😆

Then your friend should be assured he’s going to hate it. And he would have hated it with her, at least now she has the chance to find someone to go with who will love it as much as she will. And I really hope she does, I’m sure she will.

He'll be having a really crap time and I bet he's imagining how much better it would have been to be there with your friend who always wanted to visit.
It's one of those places you either really want to go to or you really don't care to go to and very likely the woman wasn't really arsed about going and is less than enthusiastic in the gloom of reality.
He'll be especially pissed off that it's expensive.

Looks gorgeous!

Her ex doesn’t really like swimming. He’s not big into hiking. He likes culture and good food. He doesn’t like spending lots of money.

Right.... he chose Iceland to please the Other Woman (OW) but did no research before they got there. They decide to go on a guided tour. It lasts ages and the tour guide is very boring and goes on for hours about Icelandic culture, including reciting sagas in Old Icelandic. The guided tour is over uneven ground and there are no trees - although he tells them there are some trees, just not where they are walking. Ex ruins an extremely expensive pair of shoes walking on the rough ground and is forced to buy a pair of hiking boots in a shop near the hotel. They cost about £200, the cheapest in the shop. As they walk past a group of teenagers, he hears them laughing at his boots and the OW walks on ahead pretending they are not together. The OW told him not to bother buying any alcohol in duty free so they are paying Icelandic prices to have a drink. They go out for a meal and decide to try the local delicacy Hakari (fermented shark). They are both extremely ill over the pristine duvet in their hotel and are charged for a replacement. Next time they go out, the avoid the fish but the only thing they like on the menu is wagu beef at Icelandic prices. They decide to go on a trip to observe the Northern Lights but it's too cloudy so they don't see anything. They go back to the hotel only to find they are in a room next to a stag party. As they have only just got together he doesn't realise that the OW likes Love Island. She spends the evenings catching up on his phone. Too late he discovers that his phone operator has a very expensive data roaming package.

We’ll never know if he enjoyed it because he’ll act like he loved it to my friend. He won’t want to lose face.

This is perfect!

Her ex doesn’t really like swimming. He’s not big into hiking. He likes culture and good food. He doesn’t like spending lots of money.

He is a bit tight. Definitely not a swimmer. He likes walking but isn’t very fit so might struggle with hills.

So I think she was hoping that the reality of the place didn’t match the image in her head.

I think this is what you tell her. However lovely Iceland might be, going with him would have ruined it for her. He would have issues with the things she wanted to do and probably grumbled a lot - if he was even prepared to do those things.

Let her keep her image, and realise her dream in the future, either on her own or with someone who will make the most of it and enhance her experience of Iceland rather than spoiling it.

No. The snow and northern lights make it special. Midsummer also very beautiful. But June, meh.

Anyway he has just woken up and spotted the OW sending flirty texts to her not-so-ex and making jokes about him, while arranging where to meet him when he flies in tomorrow.

Agree with the posters above it is expensive so he won’t like it. Especially alcohol. Weather is unpredictable, might be shit tomorrow (or right now where they are. I’m surprised they picked Iceland if he’s not up for hiking.

Some very blasé responses on here suggesting she’ll just get over it. He’s abandoned her and her kids. That will take years possibly decades of healing.

From what I’ve observed in life, the people who cheat and leave and then make a big display of the new partner often don’t last. The ones who end up standing the test of time and should’ve met sooner are not the ones who go on holiday/immediately move in/immediately incorporate new person into all aspects of their life.

Thank goodness she didn't go to Iceland with a stingey joyless bastard, now she can actually enjoy it.

Besides, they've probably got d+v from the toddler that kicked their seats all the way there and are now battling over the only toilet in the hotel room.

She starts a really heavy period and gets the period shits. So no lusty shagging for them the hotel bathroom stinks.

@User544 , two words.

Girls Trip!!!!!

I went in June, in was incredible. One of the most beautiful places I’ve been to and the people are lovely. Sorry!

Stunning vista 😍you are so lucky.

"Her ex doesn’t really like swimming. He’s not big into hiking. He likes culture and good food. He doesn’t like spending lots of money."

People change. That's the hard lesson your friend has to learn. He's no doubt having a great time.

@Oliver1709 why did you stand so far away from the window to show us your view?🤣🤣 fucking habitat eat your heart out

Hope your friend can get there, and have a great time (made even better by not having this FW with her).

The hotel has bedbugs & they both have a huge reaction to the bites resulting in them needing hospital treatment. Unfortunately (not) their v basic holiday insurance doesn't cover this. The heating is also broken at the hotel - how sad.

Your friend is better off without him, it takes time but she will come through this & thrive.

Iceland is not place people expect good weather not sure having bad weather makes a difference, like any holiday people will enjoy it if they have the expectation to do so

Going on holiday so quickly will probably dissolve the relationship or be a big test of things way beyond the weather. They're probably clashing right now over all sorts over time away. You're a lovely friend to make this supportive post and I think you'll laugh back over this moment in years to come over either you and her going to Iceland together or she will go with a new partner who is much more suited x