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AIBU to think this cheater is having a rubbish holiday?

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User544 · 06/06/2023 20:47

Name changed to protect my best friend’s identity. Posting on her behalf.

Her boyfriend dumped her for another woman and within days they were going on holiday together, leaving my friend high and dry with her kids.

They have gone to Iceland, a place my friend always wanted to go. She is hoping they’re having a terrible time. She doesn’t want him back but she’s angry and hurt.

We have checked the weather and it’s cloudy.

Can you help convince my friend that they’re probably not enjoying it?! We all know they might be really but she needs cheering up. I hear it’s expensive!!

AIBU to think Iceland in the cloudy weather isn’t the romantic dream that my friend thought?

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MeMeMeMeAndMoreMe · 06/06/2023 22:52

The water stinks, so their room smells of eggy fart. He's so thick, he thinks it's her that stinks. So sex is off the table.

They went glacier hiking. Sounded fab. Until she pissed herself as she couldn't get the spiky shoes and harness off quickly enough to make it to the bog.

Someone has shat in the blue lagoon, whilst they were in there. So now they've got the shits and are puking every half hour.

He's such a whiny twat when he's ill that all she wants to do is smother the cunt. But she can't, so has to listen to the sound of his arse, and his whinging and whining.

cpphelp · 06/06/2023 22:53

It's CRAZY expensive. Like £100 for an incredibly basic lunch with no booze

Mulhollandmagoo · 06/06/2023 22:56

User544 · 06/06/2023 21:14

Ha! So is it actually genuinely perfect and romantic? I was hoping I could tell her people went there and not everyone loved it.

Not this time of year, no! It's beautiful in the snow, but this time.of year there isn't much to it really!

His luggage got lost and he had to have a cavity search at the airport and it gave his new gf the ick and they haven't spoke since they boarded!!!

Mapleunicorn · 06/06/2023 22:56

@TheGoddessFreyja ouch. What a prick!

cpphelp · 06/06/2023 22:56

No joke, we're talking £20 for a club sandwich. This was in 2019.

WhyDoesItAlways · 06/06/2023 22:58

Something like this

TiredandHungry19 · 06/06/2023 23:05

Iceland is incredible BUT most people want to go for the northern lights and it's out of season, plus the clouds. Very very expensive too.

StemStem · 06/06/2023 23:08

I can think of worse things to wish on someone than a cloudy holiday!

teadi · 06/06/2023 23:08

WhyDoesItAlways · 06/06/2023 22:58

Something like this

@WhyDoesItAlways 😂😂😂 best response.

I don't doubt Iceland is stunning in the snow but is every single poster going in about how great it is, missing the whole point of the post?? Nobody has asked how much anyone loves Iceland 🤦🏽‍♀️😂

Whatevergetsyouthroughthenight · 06/06/2023 23:11

The water is straight from the earth and the sulphur in it means that they will smell like rotten eggs after a they gave a shower and so will their hotel room.

MayQueeen · 06/06/2023 23:11

She bumped into her ex whilst on holiday and they’ve been arguing non stop since. Because she’s convinced he was flirting with her ex fiancé. And she isn’t entirely wrong. They’re now both regretting getting together. The cracks are becoming too apparent. Also didn’t help when he over imbibed on the plane. Fell asleep and wet himself. Everyone noticed and they all laughed. Also when there he kept confusing Iceland with Greenland and this really offended the locals. He ended up with a black eye.

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User544 · 06/06/2023 23:13

My friend is obviously upset about the break up but she’s also gutted that he’s taken her to the one place she really wanted to go. So I think she was hoping that the reality of the place didn’t match the image in her head.

Her ex doesn’t really like swimming. He’s not big into hiking. He likes culture and good food. He doesn’t like spending lots of money.

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blisstwins · 06/06/2023 23:15

She will be great in time. Iceland is lovely, but it is like anyplace else—company matters. It is expensive and you absolutely need to plan, etc. the romantic stuff is very expensive.
my husband left me and my younkids for someone 22 years younger. Six years later and they are still together. I have no idea whether or not they are happy (he had 4 kids with her), but he cut all contact with our children. I cried for a year straight. Now, it is strange but it is just the last. The scarier thought is that I might have given my whole life to him instead of just the 18. Tell your friend to put her chin up and look forward. She will be grand but she has to feel the shit. She is not him. Feelings are normal.

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 06/06/2023 23:16

Her ex doesn’t really like swimming. He’s not big into hiking. He likes culture and good food. He doesn’t like spending lots of money.

He doesn't like swimming, hiking or spending money, but he's gone to Iceland.

Hahaha.

MayQueeen · 06/06/2023 23:17

Yup your friend will eventually realise this is the best thing that’s happened to her. Who wants to be stuck with a disloyal fickle fucker who can back stab at any time. Of course it won’t feel
like it right now, it will hurt and sting and all those bad thoughts will spiral. The body is going through a shock and grief process. But soon, she’ll start to feel like herself again, she’ll get her mojo back and she will realise how much he was holding her back. And she’ll be glad she has a friend like you in her corner

GSM545 · 06/06/2023 23:17

been there twice. hated it. don't get the hype at all. it's like being in an alien land where there is no greenery or fruitfulness. it made me very very depressed. and it was hugely expensive for not very nice food etc. sorry Iceland. lovely people but couldn't wait to leave.

AnonyMenOhPee · 06/06/2023 23:18

He’s in the wrong place for not wanting to spend money 😁

Couperi · 06/06/2023 23:18

Iceland is very expensive so if he's tight at all he'll be hating it!

TiredandHungry19 · 06/06/2023 23:20

User544 · 06/06/2023 23:13

My friend is obviously upset about the break up but she’s also gutted that he’s taken her to the one place she really wanted to go. So I think she was hoping that the reality of the place didn’t match the image in her head.

Her ex doesn’t really like swimming. He’s not big into hiking. He likes culture and good food. He doesn’t like spending lots of money.

If she really wants to go there then in time she will be glad not to have gone with someone so horrid! Iceland to me is one of my favourite memories, it's definitely not a normal holiday and is more of a special experience, I would be sad if I'd only been with someone I later split up with tbh

Original poster
User544 · 06/06/2023 23:21

He is a bit tight. Definitely not a swimmer.

He likes walking but isn’t very fit so might struggle with hills.

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Original poster
User544 · 06/06/2023 23:22

Is it still a special experience without snow, without sunshine, without the northern lights?

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MayQueeen · 06/06/2023 23:22

Tight
and out of shape

yeah he will
be hating it there 😂

Original poster
User544 · 06/06/2023 23:23

MayQueeen · 06/06/2023 23:22

Tight
and out of shape

yeah he will
be hating it there 😂

Really?

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