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Finding this friend very selfish regarding child vaccinations

70 replies

jabbbbah · 06/06/2023 18:43

My friend was telling me how she split the 1 year vaccinations for both of her children into two appointments because she thought getting all 4 vaccines in 1 day might cause her kids to be too poorly.

So she took up two appointments, rather than just one.

Aibu or is this just a waste of time ? Or did anyone else also request it ? I was surprised she was even allowed to do that.

OP posts:
cryinglaughing · 06/06/2023 18:44

Can't see the problem with this.
She did what she felt was right for her child.

bibbityboppityboo · 06/06/2023 18:46

If it was a total waste of time I'm sure the surgery would have asked for it to be one appointment - I don't see any problem at all with what she's done, if it means the DC are fully vaccinated then a double appointment is a small adjustment! If it's what works for her then it's what works 😊

It would take far more time in the DRs if they weren't vaccinated and became seriously ill.

SeeingSpots · 06/06/2023 18:46

What a bizarre thing to judge someone you call a friend over.

Absolutely don't see the problem at all, she did what she thought best for her children. It's not like she didn't vaccinate them at all.

Velvetbee · 06/06/2023 18:46

I wouldn’t have any problem with this at all and I used to work in health care.

evrey · 06/06/2023 18:46

Some people think it's better for their child's immune system to not be bombarded . I'm not one of them but respect anyone who is making a decision on what they think is in the child's best interest.
So no I don't think she is being selfish.

Thesearmsofmine · 06/06/2023 18:46

YABU, I know a few people that have chosen to split them.

mauvelilac · 06/06/2023 18:47

Did this for my dc - I split ALL the vaccines from 8 weeks. My gp was happy as long as the dc were getting vaccinated.

GiraffeDoor · 06/06/2023 18:47

If it's the compromise that makes her feel comfortable giving her kid the jabs, then I can't see the problem with that. Much better than just refusing them altogether.

mauvelilac · 06/06/2023 18:48

We also do the dc first mmr just after age 2

Ilovechinese · 06/06/2023 18:48

Her child none of your business

SausageMonkey2 · 06/06/2023 18:49

Better she does that than avoid them all together.

Sirzy · 06/06/2023 18:49

I can’t get worked up about it. The children are still having the full vaccine course which is what matters

minisoksmakehardwork · 06/06/2023 18:50

Yabu. 13 years ago they were changed from split doses to 1. I was given the choice for ds1 so I split. He had previously had viral meningitis though and had a poor immune system. He still ended up in hospital as he couldn't cope with the split dose.

Dts, 2 years later, had theirs as one with no ill effects. I genuinely feel this is one where there should be a choice. Doubling up was done to increase the uptake of vaccinations as the 12 months would often be done and the 13 month ones missed.

Whatkindofuckeryisthis · 06/06/2023 18:50

Totally fine… hardly a big deal! I do think all in one go is a bit too much! I’m angry at my SIL as my 6 year old nephew hasn’t had his pre-school vaccines yet 🙄

AllyCart · 06/06/2023 18:51

cryinglaughing · 06/06/2023 18:44

Can't see the problem with this.
She did what she felt was right for her child.

She did what she felt was right for her child.

And fuck everyone else.

KisstheTeapot14 · 06/06/2023 18:51

No problem for me. Just glad people are vaccinating their children. A vocal minority seem blissfully unaware of how serious some childhood diseases can be. They could do with a history lesson or to visit parts of the world where they are still rife. Anyway, didn't come to rant.

YABU.

I know a few adults who had Covid and flu jabs very close together and they said they'd split in future.

NineOfNine · 06/06/2023 18:51

At least the child has had all the vaccinations 🤷‍♀️

I think splitting the vaccinations up like that is unnecessary, but I couldn’t get worked up about someone else doing that.

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 06/06/2023 18:54

I don't see the issue, they've got the vaccinations. It's up to her if she chooses to split the vaccinations or give all 4 at once.

viques · 06/06/2023 18:54

I think it will make the dc very wary of going to a GP practice in the future,🙂 but apart from that getting the vaccinations done is the important issue.

JustGeorgie · 06/06/2023 18:58

Not your business op!

Quveas · 06/06/2023 18:58

SeeingSpots · 06/06/2023 18:46

What a bizarre thing to judge someone you call a friend over.

Absolutely don't see the problem at all, she did what she thought best for her children. It's not like she didn't vaccinate them at all.

Exactly what I thought. What kind of friend posts her friends business on the Internet, and invites people to judge them like she has? She's caring for her children, and made her best judgement based on being a mother and knowing her own children.

Dinosauratemydaffodils · 06/06/2023 18:58

I was offered that with both my dc given my own medical history. Personally can't see an issue.

Soubriquet · 06/06/2023 19:00

Yabu. At least she’s fully vaccinating her children.

romdowa · 06/06/2023 19:00

I had to do this because my dc took a bad reaction to his first lot and we couldn't tell what he reacted to. The practise nurse told me that they prefer to work with parents to get the child fully vaccinated rather than have an all or nothing approach because it makes parents less likely to vaccinate

bellac11 · 06/06/2023 19:02

Gordon Bennett whats it got to do with you

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