Me and DH have been together for 7 years.
Between us there are 3 children (we share one child and he has two older).
At the beginning of our relationship we went on a couple of holidays and really enjoyed them despite him saying he's not a big holiday person.
At the time we didn't go with elder DC as it was too costly in school holidays and so we went as a couple before our child was born on a few shorter breaks outside of contact time.
However, in the last 5 years or so DH just seems to be vehemently against any form of holiday and it's really getting me down. Money is not so much of an issue now as it was then and so I've been wanting to take our first family holiday for a while however he refuses. Any time I mention it he sulks and tells me to "just book it then" (with a face like a slapped arse as if I'm asking him to chew wasps for a week).
We have never taken all of the DC abroad. Ever. He's never been on a holiday with any of his children (and they have questioned this before). I have taken out shared child by myself when I felt I couldn't wait any longer to go and DSCs mum has taken them before.
This is part of a reoccurring theme with DH where I feel like he can be very selfish about things he doesn't particularly love the idea of. It doesn't seem to matter to him at all that his family would enjoy it, it doesn't fill him with enthusiasm so he'll make everyone feel like shit for suggesting it to the point you feel you can't do it because he won't just be able to put on a smile and get on with it for the sake of his family.
I appreciate this sounds like a first world problem and it's probably not the biggest deal in the world but I just think for godsake, I'm asking for one holiday. One. As a family, one that all the children would be absolutely ecstatic to go on. I'm not asking for yearly 2 week beach resorts, just 5 nights somewhere with our children. For him to just do something that we would all love to do.
AIBU for being really sad and actually quite pissed off that he won't just do this (Without moaning / sulking) just because his family would like to even if he doesn't particularly?
I've reached the point where I will just refuse now to allow my child not to experience these things and just take them by myself but it makes me sad that we have to act separate like that and the children can't just experience a holiday all together that they'd love because their father is too selfish to put himself out and do something he isn't keen on.