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To think there’s no good option for first time buyers

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ton29 · 04/06/2023 09:49

Prepared to be told it’s always been like this but I’m not quite sure it has.

On our combined income as it is now (both earn the average UK salary) in 2018 we would have been able to buy a 3 bed semi, possibly 3 bed detached in a really lovely area. We couldn’t buy then as we were still students.

Fast forward to this year and prices have rocketed so much so the same houses are 60-80k more making them unaffordable.

Buying a flat isn’t always the answer if you’re going to outgrow it immediately because if you move fairly quickly after buying, there’s the risk of negative equity and costs associated like legal fees and stamp duty on the new property.

Buying a house in need of renovation isn’t suitable for everyone. It’s ok if you have family help or are quite creatively minded, but if you work very busy 9-5s it’s soon going to get expensive and untenable to rip up flooring and knock through walls.

Moving 30-40 miles away to a cheaper area makes life inconvenient for commuting to work and seeing family.

I’m not sure why you can no longer buy the average sized house when you are on average sized salaries. Buying wouldn’t be an issue either if it was more secure to rent, but as everyone knows renting in this country is huge instability.

OP posts:
Twiglets1 · 05/06/2023 10:02

kljpl · 05/06/2023 09:56

@ThankmelaterOkay the interest rate is irrelevant if you're planning to overpay anyway, it has the same end result but with the bonus of wiggle room should personal circumstances change mid term.

You seem unrealistic. Most FTBs stretch themselves to buy the best place they can, even if they is only a 1 bed flat. The overpayments come at a later stage in life when salaries rise and the mortgage starts to feel more manageable.

Lockheart · 05/06/2023 10:04

wotsitsorhoops · 05/06/2023 09:53

"I totally understand why a 30 something couple would be looking to buy more than a 1 bed 'starter home' in a crap area

OP I totally get it!"

See this is exactly the issue, this generation don't want to start at the bottom. These property's and areas are bellow you? Why may I ask, are the people in these areas below you?

I bought my first, 1 bed terraced house in a deprived area 22 years ago, because I needed a home and needed to get on the property ladder.

I also had a good job but it was a start, If people like you and the OP feel these properties are below you quite honestly you deserve all you get.

Don't be so bloody daft. It's not about "this generation not wanting to start at the bottom" its about this generation not being able to afford to start at the bottom so by the time they get a decade or two into full adult life the bottom is no longer suitable for their needs.

Oliotya · 05/06/2023 10:07

wotsitsorhoops · 05/06/2023 10:01

Go on tell me the rough area not for an outing and let us all see then, so we can all check right move.

Reading. A flat is a more affordable of course.

Nordicrain · 05/06/2023 10:10

Oliotya · 05/06/2023 10:07

Reading. A flat is a more affordable of course.

Reading isn't rough? Is it? It has loads of jobs and is close to London, of course it's going to be expensive.

wotsitsorhoops · 05/06/2023 10:13

Lockheart · 05/06/2023 10:04

Don't be so bloody daft. It's not about "this generation not wanting to start at the bottom" its about this generation not being able to afford to start at the bottom so by the time they get a decade or two into full adult life the bottom is no longer suitable for their needs.

Oh right daft, so I guess there are no families living in these houses then or couples?

Get a grip, I have lots of friends with 2 adults and children living in rough areas with 2 bed terraced houses and Flats. Stop avoiding the fact this is a want not a need.

Oliotya · 05/06/2023 10:13

Nordicrain · 05/06/2023 10:10

Reading isn't rough? Is it? It has loads of jobs and is close to London, of course it's going to be expensive.

I assumed they meant rough as in "approximate" rather than "dodgy".

Hardbackwriter · 05/06/2023 10:14

Oliotya · 05/06/2023 08:11

It's not a competition, but house prices have increased a huge amount in the last few years. Average house price has gone up by like £80k since 2018. Wages aren't close to keeping up.
It's never been easy, but it's harder than ever at the moment.

You're right, and my post was a bit under thought. It is objectively harder now and to a greater differential than it was hard 5 years before we first bought. But there's not much good dwelling on that can do on an individual level and OP doesn't appear to be contemplating organizing a political movement.

As people have said, you have to decide where to compromise, and I agree that there's no right choice - so you have to pick your least bad one. We chose to compromise on location, which is against the standard advice (all the advice is to compromise on anything except location as it's the only thing you can't change at all). I still don't know if that was a bad decision or not. We liked the house a lot and enjoyed living in it but the area went further downhill (I thought it might gentrify!) and so the house was hard to sell and made less money than a smaller property somewhere nice in the same city would have. I also felt quite differently about living somewhere sketchy once we had children than I had beforehand. On the other hand, the people we know who did picked location and did shared ownership to facilitate that have really not done well out of it - I know quite a few people stuck with what appear to be unsellable flats. You can't predict the future so you just have to do what you can now and try and not get caught up in what might have beens.

Nordicrain · 05/06/2023 10:14

Oliotya · 05/06/2023 10:13

I assumed they meant rough as in "approximate" rather than "dodgy".

Ah that makes sense! 😂

wotsitsorhoops · 05/06/2023 10:15

Oliotya · 05/06/2023 10:07

Reading. A flat is a more affordable of course.

Quite, just put 20+ miles radius in that search then, there are plenty of properties.

Oliotya · 05/06/2023 10:25

wotsitsorhoops · 05/06/2023 10:15

Quite, just put 20+ miles radius in that search then, there are plenty of properties.

Well you said a 1 bed terrace. So I compared like for like. If I go to 20 miles, there's a couple for £200k.
Could you afford the house you bought on what an equivalent wage would be now?

wotsitsorhoops · 05/06/2023 10:30

Oliotya · 05/06/2023 10:25

Well you said a 1 bed terrace. So I compared like for like. If I go to 20 miles, there's a couple for £200k.
Could you afford the house you bought on what an equivalent wage would be now?

There are also a lot under 100K.

Actually I still live in a terrace and its valued at £150,000 and I earn £70+ and my partner earns a decent wage, So yes easily. But in my area house prices have not raised massively at all.

Granted I'm staying here whilst we are investing our savings to upgrade to our final home with a minimal mortgage.

kljpl · 05/06/2023 10:42

So do you overpay each month, or at the end of the year?

Monthly overpayment

kljpl · 05/06/2023 10:43

You seem unrealistic. Most FTBs stretch themselves to buy the best place they can, even if they is only a 1 bed flat. The overpayments come at a later stage in life when salaries rise and the mortgage starts to feel more manageable.

I don't think you're following the conversation, I haven't said that this is something most FTBs do.

Twiglets1 · 05/06/2023 10:50

kljpl · 05/06/2023 10:43

You seem unrealistic. Most FTBs stretch themselves to buy the best place they can, even if they is only a 1 bed flat. The overpayments come at a later stage in life when salaries rise and the mortgage starts to feel more manageable.

I don't think you're following the conversation, I haven't said that this is something most FTBs do.

Sorry I did make a mistake there, was trying to follow the thread on my phone which wasn't the best idea

kljpl · 05/06/2023 10:53

@Twiglets1 no worries Smile

thewillowbunnies · 05/06/2023 11:04

I was quite gobsmacked tbh at the number of first time buyers trying to buy our house. And one couple actually have!

For me, this house was the 3rd house - not my first purchase.

I think people need to get more realistic and get off instagram!

Also, interest rates are relevant. Yes, my first house might have only cost £120k (now worth £450k!) but interest rate was about 6%. You bought what you could afford the mortgage no, not the house per se.

Usernamen · 05/06/2023 11:24

thewillowbunnies · 05/06/2023 11:04

I was quite gobsmacked tbh at the number of first time buyers trying to buy our house. And one couple actually have!

For me, this house was the 3rd house - not my first purchase.

I think people need to get more realistic and get off instagram!

Also, interest rates are relevant. Yes, my first house might have only cost £120k (now worth £450k!) but interest rate was about 6%. You bought what you could afford the mortgage no, not the house per se.

I see this with acquaintances in London - a sense of entitlement that they should be able to buy in their preferred area (nearly always Central/Inner London) and throwing their toys out of the pram when they can’t, moaning about being “generation rent” etc. These are relatively high earners too.

They’re not generation rent so much as “generation I want my dream lifestyle NOW”. I moved out from an inner London area I loved with all my heart to Zone 3 when I was buying my flat. It was traumatic but it’s what I had to do to get on the ladder. Some people will simply not entertain the idea of moving further out.

kljpl · 05/06/2023 11:24

@thewillowbunnies if they've managed to buy your house then why do they need to be more realistic? They're presumably able to?

nokidshere · 05/06/2023 11:34

I wish all the people who are discussing their first buys mentioned how old they were when they bought them. The average age for a FTB in the UK is now 34

I was 27 & dh 35

Blossomtoes · 05/06/2023 11:41

I was 37 and bought with a 100% mortgage at 16%. I’d still be renting now otherwise.

caringcarer · 05/06/2023 11:47

Go for a 2 bed terrace, do it up nicely over time and only move when you genuinely outgrow it. In the meanwhile keep saving what you can and over time your house will provide you with equity. I started in a 2 bed terrace now I've worked my way up to a 6 bedroom detached and mortgage free. Small steps at a time is the way to go.

Usernamenotavailab · 05/06/2023 12:07

Justdontask · 05/06/2023 07:33

I wish all the people who are discussing their first buys mentioned how old they were when they bought them. The average age for a FTB in the UK is now 34. This definitely wasn''t the case 5, 10 and 20 years ago. People are buying at an increasingly older age, so of course that comes with the need for different sized "starter" properties. I've been happy renting a room in a terraced house or living in a studio and one bed flats, but at 37 I've outgrown these spaces, just as those who were able to buy these kind of properties did at similar ages. Governments really need to get serious about what housing stock needs to be built like they did in the 1930s and 1950s, but also build the social housing that is needed that could free up properties on the private rental market for first time buyers.

I bought at 22.

instead of renting rooms or one bed flats, I bought one.

saved up my PT wages at uni which I put down as 10% deposit on a 60k student flat.

my friends thought I was mad, they wanted the 3 bed house and didn’t see the point in buying a flat.

5 years later I’d saved a fortune in rent, as the mortgage was less than rent, paid of a chunk of the mortgage, and the flat sold for 100k.

moved to a 2 bed house while my friends were still whinging about not being able to afford that 3 bed.

5 years later moved to a 3 bed- while my friends were still whinging about not being able to afford it- now I was “lucky” rather than stupid buying when I did.

nothing to do with my age, but the fact I bought rather than spend 10 years renting.

Twiglets1 · 05/06/2023 13:22

nokidshere · 05/06/2023 11:34

I wish all the people who are discussing their first buys mentioned how old they were when they bought them. The average age for a FTB in the UK is now 34

I was 27 & dh 35

I did, I said I was 25 and my partner was 29 when we bought our first property in the late 80s - 1 bed flat.

Twiglets1 · 05/06/2023 13:25

Twiglets1 · 05/06/2023 13:22

I did, I said I was 25 and my partner was 29 when we bought our first property in the late 80s - 1 bed flat.

And to add to that, we were 27 and 31 when we bought the next place - a 2 bed terraced house and by that stage we had a baby. Still had no expectation of being able to jump straight into a 3 bed semi detached home as we couldn't afford it and that was quite common amongst our peers.

UsingChangeofName · 05/06/2023 15:16

Most FTBs stretch themselves to buy the best place they can, even if they is only a 1 bed flat.

That's my experience too, which is why I thought it a bit odd when the OP said they couldn't buy somewhere that needed doing up as they both work 9 - 5 all week Confused I presume most couples that buy a house, both work (some, longer hours than that, but, the OP implied they wouldn't then have time to renovate.

The overpayments come at a later stage in life when salaries rise and the mortgage starts to feel more manageable.
Yes, or, like I did, from getting a lodger, and also a 2nd job, to increase income.