To lose my cool with useless DP

[2018mumof2]

evening all, just want some advice on whether I am being unreasonable. I’ve been at work all day from 8 until 6 and I am sick to death of my other half saying that he does stuff when he doesn’t.

we both work full time and have 2 young children under 5, my other half works from home 5 days a week but finishes at 6PM and I work in an office and I start early and finish at 6PM and I have a long commute too.

My AIBU is that I get home and I still have to do bedtime and I won’t end up eating until
late because he leaves the children to be up until I get home. He’ll be cooking dinner whilst I do bed and then there are dirty dishes, he’ll only have done one wash during the day and that’s it.

for example I work alternative weekends and I was working today no housework has been done apart from the washing up and 1-2 loads of washing. I’ve finished work and tidied the kids bedroom, ran their bath, put their clean clothes away and tucked them up which because he let the 3 year old nap did not fall asleep until 9PM.

i’m sick to the back teeth of it and I cannot cope anymore. We’ve had new flooring down in our open plan kitchen and the puppy had an accident on it and he used straight out the bottle disinfectant on the floor, I lost it and told him it would ruin the floor and that this is why we couldn’t have anything nice.

My DH certainly did and this was only during maternity leave. I went back to work FT but I’m usually WFH and he’s almost always been working outside the home but would finish later than I did.

The other way round, this could be..

'I work full time from home. My spouse leaves for work, and I have to get two under 5s ready for and to nursery (I think - just based on ops leaving time). I then work all day, I do normally manage a laundry load though. I work hard to get my days work done. Especially with a puppy at my feet who needs walking. I get the kids, look after them, and make them dinner. They are excited to see their mum after not seeing her all day, so I let her spend some time with them whilst I make dinner for us both, so that we can sit down together.'

Exactly

He’s been putting sticky used contact lenses inside his own drawer?
Divorce him!
😭
Mine are dried out by morning!

And no answer on why you took on the puppy. Your backyard breeder relative should have a more robust way of dealing with failed sales.

So many of these of these threads involve an OP whose family was already pretty overwhelmed with children and x2 jobs, and then decide to get a dog.

You both sound exhausted! That is a really full on routine. I also have two children under 5. If I’m honest barely any housework gets done other than absolute essentials…laundry, dishes, hoovering etc. if people are coming over then I’ll do a mad dash to tidy bits up but life is busy enough before adding extra not totally necessary stress. If he finishes at 5pm collects children from wherever they are, gets them home cooks dinner etc for them it would be a lot to have dinner for you guys ready and for them to be in bed too. I think you sound stressed and overwhelmed. Could either of you drop hours at all as sounds like there is no opportunity at all to even sit down. The contact lense thing wouldn’t bother me. I’d stop putting his clothes away.

Why did you get apuppy?

Sorry wrong thread!