Hi all. I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable here, but I just feel so upset.
I am 22 and my boyfriend is 26. We are both not very sexually experienced, and we have both got some issues- me being very tight down there and him going soft. His parents live abroad, but he is very close to them. His father has come over for a visit today from his country and I met him in the morning. My bf has told me that his parents know everything about him, and he speaks with them about anything. He is often calling and texting them.
A couple of things happened before that made me think that he may be talking about private matters about us with his family. Then, yesterday , he told me that when his father comes he will be sure to ask about his intimate issues to get advice. He told me he would also be willing to speak to his mother about my intimate issues.
I started to get a little uncomfortable, and I outright asked, do you tell your parents we have sex(oral). And he told me that sometimes after we do the deed, he lets them know that we’ve ‘just had fun’. He told me that since he is a virgin his parents in a way are keeping an eye on him in this regard, and he wants to keep them updated, since it’s not that usual that a 26 year old male is a virgin.
I’m not sure what else exactly he has discussed with them and I’m worried he’s shared more intimate things, especially relating to me. I feel upset and quite icky. Sex is something very private to me. When I was speaking to his father I couldn’t help but feel uncomfortable knowing what his son has told him.
Am I overreacting here? I definitely do not want to control my boyfriend, but I just feel violated.