I am a single parent who lives in a HA home. It's on a fairly new estate so my HA home is identical to the other 3 in the row. Mine is HA, one is shared ownership and the other two are fully private. We got this home as my children's father was awful and we had to up and leave, fine, fair enough I can see why from the outside initial assumptions might be paid. Their father hasn't seen them since 2017.
I work from home, 35 hours a week. If I have to pop to an office or a work session it's usually an hour or two. One of my children has disabilities and a high level of need, she can't attend wrap around care and my work are brilliant. I generally work 9.15-2.45, go collect and have the evening. I do my remaining hours in the evening or first thing in the morning dependent on how DD sleeps. The only benefits we receive are her DLA (high rate care, low rate mobility) and child benefit.
My closest neighbours won't give me the time of day. There was a small issue with guttering in my roof and I got a snarky note through the door telling me they had rung my landlord to get it fixed as they don't expect me to bother. My dad already had it on his list next time he was over to fix ourselves, it only needed a new hook thing. Generally my HA expects us to sort low level repairs ourselves and we avoid it wherever possible because the HA jobs tend to be poor.
They won't let their children anywhere near mine, if my DS waves at her same aged child she pulls them away. She calls them in from the garden if mine go out and are pottering about. The moment she hears mine she calls hers in.
We went on holiday recently and I asked them if m they could run my bin out and I'm always happy to return the favour. Got a rant about how unfair it is I can go on holiday whilst they can't afford to.
Our shower recently broke, this wasn't a minor job. My DD has a blue badge which the HA know so they didn't do what the usually do which is use the driveway and instead parked on the road outside. They got a mouthful from the neighbour about parking on the road and not using my driveway. Then a mouthful about how nice it must be for us to get a new bathroom without paying a penny. It was the shower mixer box thing being replaced, definitely not a new bathroom and I believe all landlords have a duty re things like this? It isn't a HA perk?
I know I can't do anything about their opinions/attitude but AIBU in thinking it's not me who is unreasonable? Or is it entirely reasonable and I just have to accept we won't ever be okay?