My husband's ex and DSCs mum has always been a pita but she mellowed slightly when she met her (now ex) DP a few years ago.
She has since split from him and is now starting up again with the, in my opinion, entitled and rude behaviour.
She has had my number now "for emergencies" for about 2 years and to be fair whilst she's been happy and settled in her relationship hasn't really used it for much.
But since she's separated there have been a few instances where she's contacted me directly that have really pissed me off and I've felt have been cheeky and rude (and just odd, I mean just contact your children's dad, why message me?).
I don't like conflict myself so have always been perfectly pleasant whilst also maintaining a distance from her. I don't go out of my way to be super friendly, I'm just civil and polite if I see her and that's really the extent of it from my side. Despite her being quite horrid about me at the start (again before she was in a relationship which seems to be the pattern).
I have an 8 month old baby at home, my first, and I'm struggling with sleep (he is still a nightmare for it!) this has really be affecting me.
Anyway, I received a message out of the blue a few days ago from DHs ex asking if I'd watch DSC for the full day because she had been invited out. This was out of the blue, no request initially sent to DH. I ignored this for a while because I was busy at the time and then DH received a message not long after asking him to ask me (DH would be working this day as it was her day to have DSC). I told DH no because I'm struggling at the min mentally and physically and it's too much by myself right now, he passed the message to his ex briefly explaining that baby isn't sleeping and it's too much for me by myself right now and he's working so would have to be no. He then got a shitty reply back saying 'fine I'll just stay single forever then, tell her thanks'... As if that's my problem?
Another example, not long before this she sent me a shirty message about DSC not being allowed a sleepover. For context, DSC has had a lot of sleepovers at our house before, we said no on one occasion because our baby had a really awful night the night before and we thought was coming down with something and I said not that night. DSC was a bit sulky about it, fine they are a child! And obviously told their mum who messaged me directly saying I should be careful not to make everything about my baby and DSC should still be allowed their friends over blah blah blah.. I've never stopped them having friends over apart from on the odd occasion it doesn't work for other members of the family, surely that is just normal? I just felt she made herself look like an absolute weirdo and again, why message me why not message DH if she has a problem?
Anyway, to my AIBU now. In light of these incidents recently AIBU to just block her now. She's never needed my number and she has DHs obviously anyway. I can't be arsed dealing with her and her mentality that everyone owes her something and her tantrums when she doesn't get it (if you can't tell these examples are not the only ones!)
Questions I imagine I'll be asked, DSC are 6 and 9 and they stay with us 2 nights one week and 3 nights the next alternating the weekends so one week we will have Sat and Sun nights, the next week it will be Weds, Thurs and Fri nights.