To think this is rude or am I just over polite?

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A colleague asked what I was doing for lunch and I said I was meeting a friend downstairs, she asked where she worked and I said in x department.

Colleague said “oh sounds boring to me I couldn’t do that”

Why not just say, “oh ok”. I just don’t see the need to be rude for no reason.

It is rude imo.
There is no need to give that opinion. It's not invited or required and not relevant to what you were doing. I'd think she's a bit "all about me" bringing everything round to herself. Me me me.

Zzzz

It was rude but it was an offhand comment that your colleague probably didn't think about before uttering. Hopefully she's kicking herself now wondering why she said that.

If she's normally nice, I'd ignore it. Must have been a mistake. If she's normally rude and puts people down, I'd stop telling her details about anything else because she sounds like a snob.

Not sure what she'd make of my ham sandwich at my desk! Bit weird of her to say but a non event really

I agree with this.

Remaker · Today 03:30
Oh I love people who share their views on everything without being asked.

I’d respond ‘Thanks, I’ll pass that on’ and walk away.

100%

Quite - and as another pp said - they can dish it out, but can they take it?

There are occasions when voicing an opinion is rude. This is one of them.

Well the non event of the day post is won.

I think that’s just a bit of a hysterical MN mantra. If you really believe you say whatever you want at any given moment, tell your manager their a twat or tell your colleague your new baby is ugly then you have a point.

You’re kinda rude yourself, OP. It might be a case of takes one to know one. 🤷‍♀️

Is your friends job boring? Quite a lot of jobs are tbh.

It doesn't sound rude to me, it just sounds they were saying they wouldn't like that job as it would bore them.

Of course it's rude. Just because she is 'just' sharing her opinion doesn't make it not rude. No one asked.

I agree in my experience it is absolutely always the ones who have most to say and opinions on everything who absolutely can't take anything said about themselves.

This.

Rude and unnecessary and usually said by twats who are jealous of other people or twats who qualify every nonsensical utterance with “im just speaking my mind”. Well we don’t want to hear what’s on your tiny mind thanks. I’ve heard it all. Used to work with people who couldn’t keep their opinions to themselves. These opinions were never asked for; just blurted out to make some noise. Morons

At the end of the day, there was no need for her to say it.

It’s not rude and I think OP is over sensitive.
If the co-worker had met the friend asked what she did and then said it, that would be rude.

I enjoy my job but I’m quite aware that if I start telling about it to someone they probably won’t be interested. Why should I be offended? Likewise there are jobs that I believe would be boring. I don’t see why I should keep it secret if it’s relevant to a conversation with a friend.

I’d probably think of it as office chit chat
what are you doing?
lunch with lucy.
where does lucy work?
the accounts department
Gosh I couldn’t do that sounds boring
It’s all in tone isn’t it. Just ignore or reply Lucy likes it or something bland.

At the end of the day, there was no need for her to say it.

But there's no need for most of the things people say in conversation. There's no need for social chit chat. There's no need to ask someone how they are. There's no need to ask after someone's family member or friend. There's no need to mention the weather, or whether you watched Bake off last night or whether you are going to watch the match at the weekend, or if you are going on holiday this year, or if anyone has tried the new pizza place that has opened.

But that's what people who know each other do - 'chat', or exchange small talk which, yes, does include opinions.