To think this is rude or am I just over polite?

[sandraybsn]

A colleague asked what I was doing for lunch and I said I was meeting a friend downstairs, she asked where she worked and I said in x department.

Colleague said “oh sounds boring to me I couldn’t do that”

Why not just say, “oh ok”. I just don’t see the need to be rude for no reason.

Well she won't win any prizes for charm of conversation skills

Maybe she's socially awkward

I would say 'tactless' rather than 'rude'. She was giving an opinion that she'd have been better keeping to herself, but as this was about your friend's job rather than your job, she probably didn't think it would offend you. I think you've read it as meaning your friend is 'boring' whereas what the colleague meant was that the role wouldn't be for her. If her inner thought was 'ugh' at the role, it sounds as though her brain was slow in coming up with with an 'acceptable' polite response (e.g. 'does she like it there?').

I wouldn't say it was rude at all.

"That's lucky. You weren't invited."

Eh, I think it was a bit unnecessary to say but I dont think it was rude.

That said, I dont really know why people feel the need to say stuff like this. We all have different interests and tastes and not everything we think needs to be verbalised. Eg. You might not like her hairstyle or fashion choices but it doesnt need to be expressed out loud because well, whats the point? she clearly likes it, you dont, no big deal. I think the comment itself wasnt rude but equally, I think its a bit of a silly thing to say for the above reasons. Noone is forcing her to work there so why say it? I find it curious how people dont seem to grasp that people are different and what they like isnt to other people's tastes either.

actually what is the department, perhaps it is a boring department,
Tax
or something?
frailty?

Was she say their work is boring (not rude) or meeting them is boring (mildly rude)?

Not remotely rude. The person who works in that department wasn't even there!

This is the kind of thing I say because my mind is racing and I'm desperate to find one thing to latch onto to make conversation. I'll pick the first thing and blurt it out and then agonise over it for 2 years.

I think it was rude and unnecessary.

Not rude.

All she said is that she think accounting or hr or whatever is a job she couldn’t do as she would find it boring.

This thread sounds boring to me

I couldn’t do that

It's not rude, but it is an unnecessary comment.

is it procurement?

I’m not sure how all these people who find mildly negative comments rude function on a day to day basis. Do they go through life in a perpetual state of low key indignation?

"That's lucky. You weren't invited."

Because that’s not rude at all is it? 😂

I don't think it's rude, also i would have forgotten it pretty much straight away.

I think it's a bit rude if said to the person (which I get all the time) but not a third person. I teach a generally unpopular subject so frequently get told "I hated that at school, can't think of anything worse". I never do but always feel like replying "yeah I feel the same about hair dressing" (or whatever) but I never do.

I find tax and accounting boring, and someone may find my skill set boring. I can think of bigger things in life to get offended about. Personally, I'd have seen it as a compliment not an insult, as it takes grit, intelligence and high levels of concentration to work at a "boring" job.

I think unsolicited negative opinion about someone/something to do with you = rude.

If it was about someone/something unconnected with you, then not necessarily rude. If you'd asked for an opinion - then not rude. Context is all!

I am not sure I am understanding correctly. She commented that another dept was boring and she couldn’t work there. She told you and you don’t work there either?

That's not rude. That’s having an opinion about working in a certain department. Goodness.

Rude would be saying that to the employees who worked there surely.

I'd say it! Its very different saying it about someone else to saying it to their face. I'd probably say something like "yeah, I get it. I love it though- to me, hairdressing would be really boring so just as well we all like different things!" Its funny how people like to dish it out but rarely like it when its said back to them

Not a major insult, but I think it's rude, the old 'if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything' would have been applicable in these circumstances.

Why make a comment like that, there are lots of different responses that don't come across as rude that could have been used. Plus the op answered a question and she didn't actually ask his opinion.

Well that was rude. Why didn’t you put a caveat on your op saying please only respond if uou will agree with me.

This is exactly what I was thinking. Bet she went away thinking nooooo why. I’d say it was possibly what some people call a ‘brain fart.’