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AIBU?

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To think a primary school child can watch TV for an hour while a parent WFH?

86 replies

SomeNights · 30/05/2023 22:18

I'm trying to work out future finances and one thing I'm trying to calculate is childcare costs once school starts.

DH and I both work from home, DH almost entirely, and me a couple of days a week. We live very close to the school (less than five minutes walk). AIBU to think that one day a week (probably Friday as very quiet for both of us) we could bring DC back at 330pm and either just finish working in the evening (we're both in roles that would allow this) or, I'm a worst case scenario and we had a meeting, could sit DC in front of the television for an hour with some snacks and work from the office in the room next door?

Or is this horribly neglectful and we should sick up needing after school club each day?

What kind of age might this be acceptable from? Top infants? Juniors?

Are there any pitfalls I might not have considered?

OP posts:
hettiethehare · 03/06/2023 12:52

Mine would all be fine with this and happily watch tv/ go on the ipad for an hour or so.

DD3 has a friend who is always in afterschool club as she needs constant entertaining and interaction (she's quite exhausting!)

Westfacing · 03/06/2023 12:59

Of course it's fine - with both parents a room away the child is hardly being neglected!

Geez, when I think of the difficult situations that many parents have to cope with ...

Opaque11 · 03/06/2023 15:22

My ds at 5yo could easily be quiet and sit for an entire movie if given a snack. But each child is different.

NewNovember · 03/06/2023 15:24

VestaTilley · 30/05/2023 22:21

I wouldn’t do it too young- they still need supervision, someone getting them a drink and snack while they’re little. And what if one or both of you was called away or in to the office?

If a 4 plus age child can't get a drink or snack by themselves then they have additional needs so couldn't be left alone anyway.

NeverendingCircus · 03/06/2023 15:28

I think it's absolutely fine. Get a snack and drink read for them. Line up their favourite TV shows and let them unwind. If they bicker, just set them up with separate things to do in different rooms.

Allywill · 03/06/2023 15:36

Is it just one child? If not beware constant squabbles that will require adjudication.

TheCave · 03/06/2023 15:48

We do this one day a week with our 5 year old because she has an after school activity at 5ish and it doesn't really make sense to send her to after school care too. It was fine, she used to happily watch tv. However now she finds it hilarious to jump about and cause a scene if whoever is in the room with her is on a work phone call, to the point where we have to block out that time for calls or find a grandparent to sit with her for an hour.

RestartNow · 03/06/2023 15:53

It's fine in theory, but depends on the age of the child as to whether they would cooperate - I also would not give them snacks as it is not safe for kids to eat unattended (choking hazard)

Ponoka7 · 03/06/2023 16:08

My youngest GC is a nuisance, last year she would be wanting all sorts, she's six next month and can easily be left with snacks/drink to hand for at least an hour. She plays and does art fully independently. She just wants to know that you are available if needed.

Ponoka7 · 03/06/2023 16:10

Just to add, organise your house to suit what you need. Stick to rules about food/drink. Have good easy accessable storage and get them tidying etc asap.

Figgygal · 03/06/2023 16:25

I do that once a week, after school club to 6 once a week, dh and I finish early 1 day a week each and then I dont work the fifth.
Once youngest is yr2 might have him home 2 days a week hes happy playing/watching TV with a snack
Work are flex enough to accommodate which is key - don't forget it on the sly as wfh us based on trust

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