to think that it's stupid my husband got knocky cos I wouldn't tell him my weight?

[Chequers]

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Knocky means...?

But I'm with your dh...what's the big deal?

I think I'd have just told him, tbh.

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I would not be bothered about DH knowing how much I weigh, as long as he doesn't go telling anyone.

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Maybe he really wants to know because you want to keep it secret? Why would an argument arise over something like this.

Actually I think I might be a bit hurt if dp wouldn't share something like that with me (but he would). Why does it matter to you so much?

Well, now you put it like that, obviously he should respect your wishes . I just think it's an odd thing to keep private.

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stop being so defensive! - maybe he wants to help you.

Obviously you didn't originally mention about eating disorders, which is why no-one understood your pov

Your husband knows you've had eating disorders in the past, you tell him you don't want to tell him your weight and he tries to emotionally blackmail then bully you into doing so?

That was out of order of him, he should be supporting you. Why should he need to know anyway?

Taking the eating disorders into account, which I assume he knows about, then he should respect your wishes to keep your weight secret.

Unless he is worried about you? Perhaps that is his way of showing support?

He can see you and your size so why are you so bothered about saying a number? He probably feels you class him as judging you when he is showing an interest in you. I'd be pissed off with you as well. It's a number that's all.

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No worries chequers

but maybe he's just concerned.

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Jesus Christ everybody, lighten up. He doesn't OWN her.

I am with hanaflower - the history of eating disorders gives more of a reason for him to be worried

I thinkfrom your H's point of view, he doesn't really want toknow,but the fact that you have made it into a really big issue has made him want to know. Presumable he's not going to pass judgement or make horrible comments about your weight if you tell him. It obviously still bothers you a lot and your husband should respect that,but at the same time,you presumably share far more intimate things than this already and he already knows your body intimately, sowhat's the harm in telling him how muchyou weigh? Or maybe you could have said sometihng like "Oh I'm not sure exactly, sometihng around x stone/kg", making it sound like it's not at all important, rather than blowing it out of proportion by making it inot a big secret?

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