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To change my mind about giving free

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StarDolphins · 27/05/2023 13:19

I know I’m morally going to hell for this.

I’ve made a huge mistake advertising my sofa for free. My new sofa is arriving tomorrow & I panicked because i thought no one would have it as it’s got a broken cushion & cat scratches.

I gave it to this first person that asked even though he had no manners & he’s collecting tomorrow.

I’ve since had 47 messages,one very nice & polite offering £200. I don’t need the money but it’s a great sofa really & I would donate the money to a charity that I know is struggling.

Am I bring unreasonable to give it to the nice woman offering to pay? I know I probably am & I will get flamed!

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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 27/05/2023 18:46

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 27/05/2023 18:43

random 'and' there for no reason

oh yes ,
and when you have the answer to the million dollar question How do I stop my cats from scratching the new sofa can you let me know ?

Our malecat walks past Two cat tower/scratch posts to scratch the bloody sofa.
Peasant that he is

Florissant · 27/05/2023 18:46

mrsbyers · 27/05/2023 13:28

Tell the first man that a family member has asked for it

Don't lie.

Florissant · 27/05/2023 18:47

IDontWantToBeAPie · 27/05/2023 18:14

'I'm so sorry but my husband - who works in construction - has decided he needs the sofa for work now. So I'll have to cancel the sale. Really sorry again.'

Less likely to get a brick through the window if he thinks your burly husband has given the command 😂

It's not a sale. And lying is not a good idea, brick or no. There is an agreement and the OP has said that she will honour it.

drpet49 · 27/05/2023 18:48

Nameinspirationneeded · 27/05/2023 17:12

You know nothing about the man’s circumstances whether he is more or less worthy or what he will do with the sofa. You obviously didn’t think he was too rude when you made the agreement so let him have it.

Don’t care about his circumstances. He was rude. He doesn’t deserve the free sofa.

AbreathofFrenchair · 27/05/2023 18:57

How was the man rude?

My first instinct is the woman is a scammer and will try to get sofa for free.

You want the sofa gone, advertised it for free and someone is taking it off your hands for free, I'd say you got the outcome you wanted.

Anything else you get rid off, sell it and donate it to the struggling charity and dont withdraw free items because you've been tempted by what seems a lot of money for a damaged sofa (I know it's a broken zip and a cat scratch but me personally wouldn't touch it with a barge pole because of the cat damage as I would also assume the cats been on the sofa and probably covered in cat hair and I'm allergic!)

Thesunnymood · 27/05/2023 19:01

How was the man rude?
I gather he just wasn't beggy and thankful enough.
I actually ignore overly nice buyers because I think they are dodgy. It's usually women. I always think "Like why are you that nice? What do you want? I am not looking for friends, just selling Tv😑 Will you try to get discount at the door or get in or what"
Unless someone is actually rude (like insulting etc) they are just... Normal

Blossomandbee · 27/05/2023 19:01

I wouldn't stress over it, he might not even turn up. From my experience people see something free or cheap and rush to claim it without any thought to whether they can or will actually collect it.

2bazookas · 27/05/2023 19:48

That nice woman is not going to pay 200 when she sees it’s got a broken cushion & cat scratches.

Mbop · 27/05/2023 20:07

Message him and tell him sofa company have been on and said they've damaged new one in transit so it could be several weeks before you get new one. Then block him.

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StarDolphins · 28/05/2023 17:32

Thesunnymood · 27/05/2023 19:01

How was the man rude?
I gather he just wasn't beggy and thankful enough.
I actually ignore overly nice buyers because I think they are dodgy. It's usually women. I always think "Like why are you that nice? What do you want? I am not looking for friends, just selling Tv😑 Will you try to get discount at the door or get in or what"
Unless someone is actually rude (like insulting etc) they are just... Normal

I don’t want him or anyone to be beggy. Just ‘please can I have this’ rather than ‘I’ll take it’ is really all I want since I’m giving for free.

Anyway, got a text this morn off the company saying ‘due to stick issues, we’ve had to schedule your delivery for Sat 3rd June’ so I messaged the guy to explain & said I would have to re contact him once the sofa is actually here if he still wants it & he’s ignored it! Goodness me!

If I get no reply, I will just give it to the next one that said please which is the single girl with kids!

Never giving it selling anything in FB again, too much hassle. People have been messaging all day today, some multiple times while I’ve been at the park with my dd!

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Thesunnymood · 28/05/2023 17:34

"I will take it" is not rude. Giving stuff for free on marketplace isn't some charitable highlight. It's stuff people want to get rid.

Just mark it as pending or sold people won't message then.
So much drama because of "I will take it"

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StarDolphins · 28/05/2023 17:35

Thisisabsolutelyfine · 27/05/2023 17:02

Personally I’d give to the single mum, £200 is probably one of those who’ll disappear when you call her bluff. Tell the guy unfortunately it’s no longer available (unless he has booked transport)

Yes I agree, it’s f he doesn’t message I will go to her next!

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JudgeRudy · 28/05/2023 17:36

IamnotSethRogan · 27/05/2023 13:22

Just let the man collect and get it put of your way.

I don't think the women who is offering ti pay is actually that nice if she knows you've given it to someone and is trying to out bid

She might even be sending a 'special courier' round for it too!

Stand by your word and let person A have it for free. In the meantime, get an address off person B in case A doesn't come to collect. Make something up eg your BIL might be able to drop off.
Finally, don't expect it to run smoothly!

Thesunnymood · 28/05/2023 17:41

Just a note for anyone selling on marketplace. If you get message with link asking if this is the same item, don't click

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StarDolphins · 28/05/2023 17:56

Thesunnymood · 28/05/2023 17:34

"I will take it" is not rude. Giving stuff for free on marketplace isn't some charitable highlight. It's stuff people want to get rid.

Just mark it as pending or sold people won't message then.
So much drama because of "I will take it"

We’ll have to agree to disagree then. Manner are important & I would never say ‘I’ll take it’ even if someone was selling something- please could I have this, please could I take this, both fine. Everyone has different views on manners & this is mine.

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StarDolphins · 28/05/2023 17:58

Thesunnymood · 28/05/2023 17:34

"I will take it" is not rude. Giving stuff for free on marketplace isn't some charitable highlight. It's stuff people want to get rid.

Just mark it as pending or sold people won't message then.
So much drama because of "I will take it"

I marked it as sold yesterday along with a rattan bench & people are still messaging about both!

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RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 10/08/2023 11:57

I know this is an old thread, but I actually feel sorry for the rude man who agreed to take it. (I wonder if he ever did get to pick it up)

The OPs updates seem like she messaged multiple times flapping about delivery and re-scheduling. If he was organising transport he would have been really put out.

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