To think this wasn't an offensive thing to say?

[nostalgiahurts]

Got a first date tomorrow. We were chatting and I asked him if he was nervous. Maybe an odd question in itself but was just wondering. He replied - not at all lol you?xx

I replied - nah xx

And he just immediately responded - okay

Very abrupt, no kisses. He's never not sent them which makes me think he's annoyed...but for what? Should I have said I was nervous?

Or was he probably more like, what an odd question to ask

I'm a bit of a nutcase

To answer your OP. 'Nah' isn't offensive, but it is rather dismissive.
Let us know how the date goes.

"I'm a bit of a nutcase"
You sound very sweet and unsure, in actual fact. I feel for you. Texts can be a tricky thing sometimes.
Hope it all goes ok for you.

Op ignore them🙄 you’re clearly excited and there’s nothing wrong with the question. I would have taken it the exact same way as you. Something tells me a lot of these biddies haven’t been on a date for a VERY long time, if you don’t get a response from here don’t sweat it, just wasn’t for you😌

You asked if he was nervous, he said no, so asked if you were - assuming you must be, otherwise why would you ask?

And you say ‘nah.

What else is there to say, other than ‘OK……..’ ?

I can’t believe how genuinely unkind some of these responses are to OP. We were all there one day! OP it’s normal to be nervous, he might just have not known what to say back. Try not to overthink, might have forgotten the ‘x’ or anything! Try and change the subject to something else. Ask him if he’s up to anything nice tonight, or send him a series recommendation / pic of your dinner.

Aw bless, I really feel for you. I feel like it's the sort of thing I'd probably do and then over-analyse and worry about as well.

Good luck for your date tomorrow, try to forget about this bizarre exchange of messages 😅 they really aren't that bad.

You mustn’t have very much going on in life, if you have to hang around online with a bunch of ‘biddies’.

Why aren’t you out living life? Or, at the very least, spending time on a forum with like-minded souls instead of washed-up old us?

I know you say you've met him, OP, but why do you need to be sending one another electronic kisses? Surely you only kiss people you actually love. I'd think it was bloody weird if someone who wasn't a very close friend or family started sending me kisses.

xxxxxxxxx

Oh dear.

You're totally over analysing someone you've not even met!

... sorry, just read that you have met him.

But still, stop over analysing!!!

What’s he supposed to do with “nah”?

you could have said “nah I’m looking forward to it” or something less dismissive

Mountain, I’d like to introduce you to molehill.

These threads make me smile because a while back I was seeing a guy, who I had known for years beforehand, and I used to over analyse and over think every text message and every delay responding In the beginning. I look back on some of the texts now and think "what was I worried about?"

Sounds like a minor awkward moment but nothing to stress about
Do you use voice notes? Might be an option if you struggle to get your meaning across in writing?

Very abrupt, no kisses. He's never not sent them

Now, THIS is odd. Always sending xx.

And yes, weird to ask someone you know if he is nervous, and then yourself reply with a ’nah’.

He could have sent a thumbs up tbf 😂

He’d have sent a 👍 if he wasn’t confused by the whole exchange.

An ‘OK’ if he was!

True. xx

This is madness. I can't see how people can get worked up over kisses not being sent on a single text.

Did he text you back op?

God almighty…
You know each other already. Why are you both so nervous about meeting this time? What on earth is the matter with the pair of you?!

Why lie to him saying you are not nervous
And whats with all the xx's?
Are you both teenagers?

Xx
being sarcastic