To think this wasn't an offensive thing to say?

[nostalgiahurts]

Got a first date tomorrow. We were chatting and I asked him if he was nervous. Maybe an odd question in itself but was just wondering. He replied - not at all lol you?xx

I replied - nah xx

And he just immediately responded - okay

Very abrupt, no kisses. He's never not sent them which makes me think he's annoyed...but for what? Should I have said I was nervous?

Or was he probably more like, what an odd question to ask

Sounds like you're overanalysing/being way too serious and confusing him imo. I'd leave it now, it will be easier to get a measure of each other on the date. This is so minor. If it goes well, you were wondering what you were worrying about and if it doesn't, who cares anyway? It's so hard trying to get subtle messages about emotions etc: across in text messages. Especially with men. Seriously, don't try and unmuddle this one through text, just show up to the date and be the lovely, friendly person that I'm sure you are and all will be forgotten :)

This sums it up perfectly

I think you misread his text through your own nervousness.

It's understandable.

But I promise you this is what has gone on.

Think about it...is he a nice guy who has been nice to you so far? Of course he is nervous to meet you...what to wear...how to act...what to talk about...can he kiss you...

But there's more pressure on guys to pretend they're strong so he made a joke

Honestly just tell him in a jokey way you are nervous.....he'll love it

This is why 14 year olds shouldn’t be allowed to date.

Hahah

I do feel like a 14 year old when it comes to dating to be fair

This is very embarrassing if correct

It's not odd to ask him if he's nervous. But you will be in for a lot of dating heartache if you overthink every text!
Good luck with your date.

Oh lovely it's the sort of embarrassing misunderstanding in all rom coms and true life romances.

We all get anxious when we like someone.

It's something you'll laugh about together hopefully.

It's really not the end of the world. No couple ever gets together without these sorts of little misunderstandings.

If you're reacting this much to one missing letter on a text from someone you haven't even had a first date with yet, you need to take a deep breath and calm down. This is supposed to be the fun, easy part. Not the bit where you're not only analysing every single word, but going online to ask a bunch of strangers on a notoriously blunt forum what you should do. Stop overthinking things.

Don’t worry about it - move on. Hope you have a good time.

@KrisAkabusi "a notoriously blunt forum"

They need to add this to their marketing!!

Why did you say you weren't nervous when you are?

You've given him a one word response 'nah'.

One word gives off the vibe that the conversation has ended to me.

I replied with a laughing face just saying of course I'm nervous. No reply.

He’s no doubt a little confused and wondering what on earth is going on here

Hahahah such varied opinions on here

Well done on replying. Its the time of day when people might be commuting or cooking dinner so give him time to reply...please let us know. When is the date??

An odd question to ask someone you already know. I would not read anything into the lack of kisses. He was probably just surprised at your odd question.

Nah is a really blunt cut off message - what else was he meant to say?

He may not be disgruntled with your question OP.

It can be hard sometimes to judge exactly what someone's feelings or attitude is to online responses, which I understand is why the emoticons were invented.

Don't worry too much about it, your question about how nervous he was feeling probably went right over his head anyway, until right before you meet for the first time.

Just enjoy your date.

Scan this thread, it all seems to be a bit of over thinking about nothing. It's been over two decades since I last dated, when did it become so complicated?

He's possibly just pressed on the automatic response that his phone has suggested in reply to your message? So it may have suggested okay and he's just pressed that so no kisses

I don't think it was an odd question. Stop worrying and overanalysing, I know it's tough.

Why do you send such mental texts , lol?! xx