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To hate the sensation of nipples?

62 replies

WedTheBed · 22/05/2023 22:28

I’m not sure if it’s just me. I’m sure it isn’t. But I hate, and I mean hate having my nipples touched (I know that sounds weird) the good majority of time.

I always have, I’m not sure what triggered it but it gives me a really deep sick feeling in the pit of my stomach.

I never told DP until recently. I’m not sure why.. I think because I felt like it wasn’t normal so I just tried to be.. normal? He’s a ‘boob’ man so I think he’s a little disappointed but since telling him he’s been very respectful.

But it has got me wondering if I’m alone on this. What or why does it make me feel so.. enraged? Sick? Irritated?

as a side note: it’s not just being touched by people, even if I take my bra off when my nipple are erect, the feeling just makes me ‘urgh’.

Please tell me I’m normal 🫣

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Original poster
WedTheBed · 22/05/2023 22:30

Sorry I didn’t actually post the AIBU 😂

I guess.. AIBU to hate having my nipples touch anything at all?!

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JMSA · 22/05/2023 22:30

Have you breastfed before? You could be feeling all touched out!

JMSA · 22/05/2023 22:31

YANBU. Maybe you just have especially sensitive ones.

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WedTheBed · 22/05/2023 22:31

@JMSA I tried over 3 years ago with my first but things didn’t work out, the same with my second just over a year ago.. only lasted a few weeks so haven’t BF in well over a year now.

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Vegalam · 22/05/2023 22:39

There's actually a phenomenon around this...I think it's called sad nipple syndrome (which is somewhat a humours name?) and its linked to dysphoric milk ejection reflex (DMER) which is that horrible feeling you can get when your milk let's down.

Original poster
WedTheBed · 22/05/2023 22:40

Oh thanks for the info.. I’m definitely off to Google sad nipple syndrome while chuckling at its name 😂

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Reedplayer · 22/05/2023 22:41

Me too! I can’t stand it. Don’t even like looking at nipples, mine or anyone else’s.

adagio · 22/05/2023 22:44

Oh god totally with you on this. Shudder.

brunettemic · 22/05/2023 22:47

Of course YANBU, it’s your body after all. Personally I’m a fan but that’s just us being different 😀

Lovethatforyou · 22/05/2023 22:50

I have the same feelings but about my belly button. Worst feeling ever if it’s touched 😨

TitoMojito · 22/05/2023 23:00

Yeah this is a real thing! I'm happy to have mine touched if I'm aroused, but in any other situation it makes me feel queasy having them touched. Utterly bizarre but true.

JamSandle · 22/05/2023 23:02

Only if I'm horny.

Otherwise it makes me feel disgusted.

Newname2323 · 22/05/2023 23:02

Yes gives me a feeling of immense sadness for a split second. Even when I brush them myself, must be linked to breastfeeding, women's boobs are not made for pleasure

Soproudoflionesses · 22/05/2023 23:03

Yep hate it and didn't breastfeed either

Catchasingmewithspiders · 22/05/2023 23:04

It can make me feel a wierd sensation the closest I can describe it to is homesickness but its not that precisely.

But only some of the time not all of the time.

givingupchocolatemonday · 22/05/2023 23:04

Omg me too! Thought I was alone in this. I know the sickening feeling your referring too

Emmamoo89 · 22/05/2023 23:05

I'm not a fan of my boobs being touched since breastfeeding!

peachgreen · 22/05/2023 23:06

Yep. If I’m turned on it’s absolutely fine and in fact is almost essential for getting me off. Otherwise it makes me feel exactly as a PP described, sad and sick almost like homesickness. I hate it. I absolutely loathed breastfeeding to the point of becoming suicidal because of it. I still shudder thinking about it.

IceCreamWithSprinkles · 22/05/2023 23:06

I don’t like it either, I was ambivalent before breastfeeding but actively dislike it since!

EmptyBedBlues · 22/05/2023 23:06

TitoMojito · 22/05/2023 23:00

Yeah this is a real thing! I'm happy to have mine touched if I'm aroused, but in any other situation it makes me feel queasy having them touched. Utterly bizarre but true.

Same here. I’ve never understood it.

JamSandle · 22/05/2023 23:08

This thread has made me feel normal!

OrlandointheWilderness · 22/05/2023 23:09

Newname2323 · 22/05/2023 23:02

Yes gives me a feeling of immense sadness for a split second. Even when I brush them myself, must be linked to breastfeeding, women's boobs are not made for pleasure

Women's boobs are absolutely made for pleasure, they are a major erogenous zone!
Absolutely normal if you don't like yours touched, but saying they aren't is disinformation.

Emmamoo89 · 22/05/2023 23:10

I'd like to add. I don't regret breastfeeding, i love it. My boobs will have to get over it. But if it'll always be like this. Not really bothered tbf.

catscalledbeanz · 22/05/2023 23:16

I detest my nipples being touched. Unless during sex- at which point it's more than necessity. They are the marmite of my body. I LOVE it or I HATE it. My poor husband has to guess as to when I'm "ready" else it can all fail.

Housenoob · 22/05/2023 23:20

Catchasingmewithspiders · 22/05/2023 23:04

It can make me feel a wierd sensation the closest I can describe it to is homesickness but its not that precisely.

But only some of the time not all of the time.

Yesss this is so true, its not quite homesickness but it's a weird sicky, almost nostalgic feeling. I get it worse when my belly button or certain parts of my abdomen are touched lightly, it's horrible.