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To hate the sensation of nipples?

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WedTheBed · 22/05/2023 22:28

I’m not sure if it’s just me. I’m sure it isn’t. But I hate, and I mean hate having my nipples touched (I know that sounds weird) the good majority of time.

I always have, I’m not sure what triggered it but it gives me a really deep sick feeling in the pit of my stomach.

I never told DP until recently. I’m not sure why.. I think because I felt like it wasn’t normal so I just tried to be.. normal? He’s a ‘boob’ man so I think he’s a little disappointed but since telling him he’s been very respectful.

But it has got me wondering if I’m alone on this. What or why does it make me feel so.. enraged? Sick? Irritated?

as a side note: it’s not just being touched by people, even if I take my bra off when my nipple are erect, the feeling just makes me ‘urgh’.

Please tell me I’m normal 🫣

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TulipTuesday · 22/05/2023 23:21

Completely the same here!

I have to wear a padded bra at all times cos the thought of anything brushing my nipples sickens me.

I have a brilliant soft, but well padded bra I wear around the house, and I wear too small, stretchy vest tops to bed to hold my boobs tightly in place so they don’t ‘flop’ anywhere.

NotMeSecretFormular · 22/05/2023 23:22

I've always had this. Makes me feel sick to my stomach. I'd much rather they didn’t exist. I pierced mine (myself! Wouldn't let anyone else do it!) because I'd read that it can kill the sensation. Only about half. Even sleeping naked makes me grimace when I turn over. Single for a very long time. Much prefer it that way.

newwings · 22/05/2023 23:24

I can relate, I feel dizzy and repulsed. It's since I had them pierced and removed piercings. I believe I developed the aversion when piercings got caught or twanged by accident. I hate being touched there now, the thought of it makes me feel queasy.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 22/05/2023 23:25

Lovethatforyou · 22/05/2023 22:50

I have the same feelings but about my belly button. Worst feeling ever if it’s touched 😨

I have it for my belly button too. Exactly the feeling OP describes.

Nipples I don’t have it at all though.

TulipTuesday · 22/05/2023 23:25

Just want to add I also get the same weird sicky/anxious feeling if I over analyse myself in the mirror or become aware of myself when I’m on my period. Does anyone else get that or just me?

neverenoughchelseaboots · 22/05/2023 23:26

Yes! Even when aroused I detest it. But unlike others, when I was BF I loved the let down sensation, it was almost addictive. When I couldn’t feel it anymore I felt desperate to make it happen. But for me, let down came from inside my boob rather than from the nipple.

Catsmere · 22/05/2023 23:42

Reedplayer · 22/05/2023 22:41

Me too! I can’t stand it. Don’t even like looking at nipples, mine or anyone else’s.

Same, I don’t care for them at all.

Zhougzhoug · 22/05/2023 23:43

Yes! Weird anxious nostalgic feeling. I breastfed for almost 3 years though and was fine about it - didn’t particularly enjoy it, but didn’t hate it.

Divorcedalongtime · 22/05/2023 23:45

I have always hated my nipples being touched. Then I had babies and obviously nipples were for babies. After babies I met one person who turned me on so insanely much that I loved them touching my nipples… now it’s back to can’t stand it again…

thespy · 22/05/2023 23:46

After breast feeding three kids I think I've lost all sensation in mine - so I do find it annoying to have them messed about with nowadays. Pre-kids I quite liked it!

BillieShears · 22/05/2023 23:47

I'm almost jealous. Mine have little feeling at all

EddieHoweisMYmanager · 22/05/2023 23:56

I get almost a white hot anger if mine are touched. Unless I’m super duper turned on and then they HAVE to be touched. DH doesn’t know whether he’s coming or going with them to be fair so he tends to wait for me to guide his hands there so he knows it’s ok.

Housenoob · 22/05/2023 23:58

TulipTuesday · 22/05/2023 23:25

Just want to add I also get the same weird sicky/anxious feeling if I over analyse myself in the mirror or become aware of myself when I’m on my period. Does anyone else get that or just me?

No, but I used to get this sick nostalgic feeling right before a horrific migraine. It's like the feeling I get when someone touches my belly button, but x10.

HumbleHedgehog · 23/05/2023 00:26

WedTheBed · 22/05/2023 22:28

I’m not sure if it’s just me. I’m sure it isn’t. But I hate, and I mean hate having my nipples touched (I know that sounds weird) the good majority of time.

I always have, I’m not sure what triggered it but it gives me a really deep sick feeling in the pit of my stomach.

I never told DP until recently. I’m not sure why.. I think because I felt like it wasn’t normal so I just tried to be.. normal? He’s a ‘boob’ man so I think he’s a little disappointed but since telling him he’s been very respectful.

But it has got me wondering if I’m alone on this. What or why does it make me feel so.. enraged? Sick? Irritated?

as a side note: it’s not just being touched by people, even if I take my bra off when my nipple are erect, the feeling just makes me ‘urgh’.

Please tell me I’m normal 🫣

I love nipples but it wouldn't bother me in the slightest if a partner told me not to touch them Smile

In fact all previous partners had different likes in regards to their nipples from "love squeezing them hard" (she even put clothes pegs on them Confused) to "touching them doesn't do anything for me sexually" and "enjoys a soft tweak but nothing hard" lol. Sorry if TMI. I just wanted to point out every woman is unique in this area. They're just nipples at the end of the day x

BenCoopersSupportWren · 23/05/2023 06:58

Lovethatforyou · 22/05/2023 22:50

I have the same feelings but about my belly button. Worst feeling ever if it’s touched 😨

Oh this is me too, it’s a horrible sensation.

Jifmicroliquid · 23/05/2023 07:13

Im the same. Its a horrible sensation.

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WedTheBed · 23/05/2023 07:58

Well, I woke up this morning to feeling way more normal after reading the comments on this thread😂

I loved breastfeeding, I was sad to have to give up.. I can’t even blame that though as I’ve had this for as long as I can remember, properly into my early teens!

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Redebs · 23/05/2023 08:09

I hate it too. Too sensitive to be touched. Just eww!

I did breastfeed 2.5 babies though and during those times they were much less sensitive.

I think the dislike of having them messed with is probably a biologically protective thing to stop them getting damaged by the other adult during sex.

And Freud had a lot to say about them, unsurprisingly

EmptyBedBlues · 23/05/2023 08:18

BenCoopersSupportWren · 23/05/2023 06:58

Oh this is me too, it’s a horrible sensation.

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Divorcedalongtime · 24/05/2023 12:53

neverenoughchelseaboots · 22/05/2023 23:26

Yes! Even when aroused I detest it. But unlike others, when I was BF I loved the let down sensation, it was almost addictive. When I couldn’t feel it anymore I felt desperate to make it happen. But for me, let down came from inside my boob rather than from the nipple.

Omg yes that was such a gooooood feeling. I miss it too

GreyPaw · 24/05/2023 12:57

So relatable. Can't stand it, and never have been able to. Makes me feel sick and just 'ugh'. I did bf (though it was very difficult to start with) and never enjoyed it but put up with it. I trained to be a breastfeeding peer supporter and volunteered at drop ins when I learned that a hatred of having nipples touched is extremely common. Made me feel much less of a freak.

Redebs · 24/05/2023 13:00

neverenoughchelseaboots · 22/05/2023 23:26

Yes! Even when aroused I detest it. But unlike others, when I was BF I loved the let down sensation, it was almost addictive. When I couldn’t feel it anymore I felt desperate to make it happen. But for me, let down came from inside my boob rather than from the nipple.

Me too. Milk let down was such a rush! Calm and comfortable feeling. I'd forgotten that.

Tg2023 · 24/05/2023 13:03

I'm with you op it knocks me physically sick, I don't mind if dp squeezes my full breast but can not bare just my nipples being touched.
Even if I or anyone else accidentally brushes against them I instantly feel sick.

Tixxxxy · 24/05/2023 13:05

I love my DH touching my nipples, especially the licking and gentle sucking. I have never breastfed, the idea did not appeal at all so I do not have that to compare to.

Esjolaol1973 · 24/05/2023 13:10

No I absolutely hate having nipples touched .Actually makes me feel sick .Also not keen on belly button..makes me feel queasy!