To let dd 13 remove body hair

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DD is adamant she wants to shave her legs. I have mine waxed every 6-8 weeks and remember having so many bloody cuts when I started shaving my legs at 15. I think I'd prefer it if she waxed her legs but not sure she can bare the initial discomfort. On the other hand, shaving means itchy legs, which will drive her mad after a day or 2.

So, which method is safest and most efficient at this age, waxing, wet shaving or a battery driven wet/dry lady shaver? Help!

I don't see why she has to ask permission to remove body hair, it's up to her. I got DD1 an electric shaver aged 11 as she was bothered by her dark leg hair then later she started to use Venus razors. DD2 is more blonde and it didn't bother until she was a bit older and she just uses the Venus razors.

A good men's razor is cheaper and better than any of the overpriced nonsense they push on women. Disagree with Bic - get a proper razor.

Epilating is painful, takes ages and still doesn't get your legs smooth.

Salon waxing is expensive, painful and time-consuming.

Shaving, assuming you have a shower most days is quick and easy.

Isn't it a rite of passage to have cuts all over your legs from razors when you're a teenager? I'd just give her the options and let her decide.

Remind her that Immac or Nair or whatever it's called STINKS. Or at least it did 20 years ago...

Get her a decent razor and she'll have less cuts than me 😂

I think it's worth just giving her the options and exploring it.

I would also add epilation into the mix! I love mine!

my mum took me to get my legs waxed at 13 when I first wanted it. I’m so glad she did as I have continued waxing ever since. Never found it painful

Veet is the fastest option imo

It's her decision. Frankly, I'm amazed she consulted you. When I got to that sort of age, and decided it was something I wanted to do, I just started doing it. Never occurred to me to ask my mums permission!
And fwiw, I've never had any issue with itching when shaving legs or underarms.

Personally, I'd just buy her a nice Venus razor (or a subscription to one of those razor companies), remind her to soap up the area first, and leave her to crack on. Waxing seems like an overly-big deal for something a young teenager would probably prefer to deal with privately in her own bathroom, than lying on a bed with a stranger, and presumably you, hovering over her.

VEET/Nair is easier and less hassle. She won't have to worry about 'strawberry legs' either. Its a good method until she is ready for waxing.

I epilate, my daughter (15) shaves. She has a Venus with soap bars, we make sure we change them before they're blunt. She hasn't had any accidents and is happy. I would not shave my legs as epilation lasts longer and I've been doing it for 30 years now, but she chooses to do this and it's her right.
I have a men's style safety razor for my underarms, much cheaper than Venus and as close a shave.

I don’t know why everyone keeps saying it’s not ops choice it’s her daughters.

you can’t buy razors under 16 and op will be the one paying for any waxing appt!

Because it’s her body. I buy my daughter’s period things, that doesn’t mean I can run roughshod over her and insist she uses tampons since I use them. I pay for my kids’ food but I still buy food they like. What a horrible way to think.

I’ve always shaved or used hair removal cream. I’ve never had a problem with itchy legs. Other than the first few attempts I’ve not sit my legs either.

So if your kid wanted to live on chocolate biscuits and pizza would you buy it blindly or would you have a discussion?

Women's disposable razors are completely pointless. So I agree that if you go that route, buy a decent men's one with replacement blades. Hair removal cream is such a faff, who has time or inclination for that. When my daughter was 13 I bought her an electric ladyshave thing which she used for a while.

@SilentNightDancer "Epilating is painful, takes ages and still doesn't get your legs smooth."

Epilating is not painful at all for me, it takes me 30 minutes once a fortnight and my legs, armpits and bikini line are extremely smooth (until the last couple of days). I have 50% less hairs, no itching and no ingrown hairs.

Yes, the first time I epilated I thought I would never do it again. But after the first time, I don't feel any pain at all, just tingling.

Eh? Why is that a horrible way to think? The poster is simply saying that the OP will have to pay for her daughter’s choice so may wish to explore options with her.
I don’t know why people start throwing insults on these threads or saying “oh it wouldn’t have occurred to me to ask my mum”.
it’s such a small thing and the OP is simply asking for a bit of advice and people piling in saying “it’s up to her don’t even know why you’re getting involved”. Some of us have that kind of relationship with our DDs.

It’s not a comparable situation. You asked why people are saying it’s the daughter’s choice. It is her choice because it’s her body. You implied that since op is paying she should have the final choice of how her daughter removes body hair. I disagree with this.

If you don't "let" her she'll do it anyway. Assuming you don't supervise bathtime?

I was 12 and started shaving my legs in secret after my mum didn't "let" me.

I think at 13 she can decide herself if she wants to or not!

Waxing seems to be useful only if you get your legs out occasionally - what do you do for the month in between?! (Maybe I’m missing something!)

Probably just normal shaving would make more sense if she’s wearing a skirt every day

How is it not the same? It’s your child’s final choice on what they put in their body but if you don’t buy a 13 year old a diet of just pizza they are unlikely to get it. The op isn’t suggesting she will force her daughter to wax but if the op doesn’t book and pay for a waxing treatment or razors her daughter doesn’t have it as an option.

if op decides her thirteen year old isn’t safe with razors that doesn’t make her a monster!

she is THIRTEEN. Op shouldn’t and isn’t ignoring her daughter but thirteen year olds don’t always get to make unilateral decisions without discussion!

Yes it makes re growth finer too.

Up to her, but if you can afford waxing that’s probably best. She can take a nurofen while she gets used to it, and avoid her period. It’s not that bad.

Well the OP isn’t going to be able to stop her daughter shaving her legs - razors are easy to get - so the OP’s choice is limited here. She’s also not suggesting her daughter isn’t safe with razors - just that nicks are nasty.

By 13 to shave your legs or not is pretty much your decision, by default if not design.