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To give ds the master bedroom

53 replies

beaniebelly · 20/05/2023 08:20

Recently moved home; both bedrooms are a decent size, but the master bedroom is notably larger and brighter. I planned to give DS the master room, so he could have a desk/extra storage space - and using the logic that he is going to spend more time in his room than I spend in mine, I only use my bedroom to sleep and get dressed. I’ll have to get rid of my dressing table and another couple of small things which don’t fit in ‘my’ new room though which is a shame.

I’ve mentioned to a few family/friends that I plan to give DS the larger room and it’s raised a few eyebrows. I hadn’t really thought twice about it til anyone mentioned finding it strange. So AIBU to give him the bigger room? Total first world problems I know 😁

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Ladykryptonite · 20/05/2023 08:22

Why does he need extra storage space, I'd take the best bedroom for myself

ipswichwitch · 20/05/2023 08:23

What does it matter to other people if it works for you? If you’re happy then just do it, and never mind what anyone else thinks.

Wildspace · 20/05/2023 08:23

Your logic makes perfect sense. Your house, your choice. Having that extra space for desk etc for him will be helpful. I think you’re being really thoughtful.

Waitingforsummertocome · 20/05/2023 08:23

This is what happened in my home growing up and what I plan to do with DD when we move. It makes sense to me especially as they get older

brawhen · 20/05/2023 08:24

I think your plan is perfectly logical. Master bedroom size would usually assume it is going to be shared by two people, but from your post it sounds like it is just you?

Also, DS won't live at home for ever - you can always swap things about later.

Azandme · 20/05/2023 08:25

Similar situation, my dd is in the slightly bigger room for a few reasons.

Hers has a wider chimney breast which would have stopped me getting my run of wardrobes in.

Hers is at the front, whereas ours overlooks a field.

Hers has an LED streetlight outside, and I need dark.

Who cares what other people think? It's your house, live in it as you see fit.

YukoandHiro · 20/05/2023 08:25

My eldest DD is in the master bedroom on the first floor because we have an attic conversion bedroom. It works well as she has lots of both DDs toys in her room and they basically use it as a shared bedroom. When they are teens we may have to rethink a bit.

YukoandHiro · 20/05/2023 08:26

*shared playroom

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beaniebelly · 20/05/2023 08:26

Ladykryptonite · 20/05/2023 08:22

Why does he need extra storage space, I'd take the best bedroom for myself

He has loads of toys, and seems to pick hobbies which are very space-consuming 😂 at the moment he is really into arts/crafts, so the larger room would allow space for crafty drawers/storage as well as general toy storage.

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beaniebelly · 20/05/2023 08:28

brawhen · 20/05/2023 08:24

I think your plan is perfectly logical. Master bedroom size would usually assume it is going to be shared by two people, but from your post it sounds like it is just you?

Also, DS won't live at home for ever - you can always swap things about later.

Thanks! Yes it’s just me and DS here. You're right, we can always reevaluate the bedroom set up in the future if needed.

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beaniebelly · 20/05/2023 08:29

ipswichwitch · 20/05/2023 08:23

What does it matter to other people if it works for you? If you’re happy then just do it, and never mind what anyone else thinks.

No idea - but in general chit-chat about the move, a few people have seemed genuinely confused as to why I wouldn’t snaffle the larger room 😂 thank you!

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Bunnichick · 20/05/2023 08:29

It sounds odd to me too but you do what works for you.

Orangello · 20/05/2023 08:30

Yes we do it this way, we have the smallest of bedrooms and kids' rooms are literally twice the size. And yes people have commented, but I don't get the logic of taking best for myself just because, when it doesn't make sense. We use our room for sleeping, so all we need is bed and wardrobe. Kids spend a lot more time in their rooms, also with their friends. What's the point of leaving a big nice room empty the entire day and squeezing kids into smaller ones?

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beaniebelly · 20/05/2023 08:31

Azandme · 20/05/2023 08:25

Similar situation, my dd is in the slightly bigger room for a few reasons.

Hers has a wider chimney breast which would have stopped me getting my run of wardrobes in.

Hers is at the front, whereas ours overlooks a field.

Hers has an LED streetlight outside, and I need dark.

Who cares what other people think? It's your house, live in it as you see fit.

Ahh funnily enough, each of our new bedrooms has an awkwardly shaped alcove - the smaller room’s alcove fits my wardrobe perfectly whereas the master rooms one would leave about half a metre of dead space around the outsides, but fits toy/craft storage really well.

the view from your room sounds lovely, overlooking a field!

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beaniebelly · 20/05/2023 08:32

Bunnichick · 20/05/2023 08:29

It sounds odd to me too but you do what works for you.

Do you mind explaining why?

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fizzyfood · 20/05/2023 08:32

One of my children has the largest bedroom, it makes sense as they have more stuff than us and a desk for homework.

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beaniebelly · 20/05/2023 08:33

fizzyfood · 20/05/2023 08:32

One of my children has the largest bedroom, it makes sense as they have more stuff than us and a desk for homework.

A desk was a consideration for me too. DC just has more furniture overall

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Weallgottachangesometime · 20/05/2023 08:34

Given both rooms are a decent size I don’t think it matters. Also if it keeps all his crap…I mean loved hobby items, out of the rest of the house that would be a bonus for me.

Mommasgotabrandnewbag · 20/05/2023 08:35

People are a bit weird about bedrooms.

They get treated almost like a hierarchy rather than being used in the most practical way.

I intend on moving my boys around depending on their age and needs at the time.

Eldest currently has the smallest room as he has very few things whilst youngest has the bigger room as he still has lots of toys and likes to play.

I can see that swapping round in a few years when eldest wants mates over in his room.

mondaytosunday · 20/05/2023 08:38

My daughter has the loft conversion- biggest bedroom by far, en suite, though I have bigger wardrobe.
She's just turned 18 and it made sense. Like you I only sleep in my bedroom. She works - needs a big desk plus space for her artwork. She loves having her own bathroom after years of sharing with her brother (he has already moved out). Plus she's young and I'm not (61) so happy for her to have an extra flight of stairs! She will be at home next year too (Art Foundation course) so this gives her privacy too.
In my old house the guest bedroom had the en suite as I didn't mind sharing and my room looked over the garden, the guest room the street.

Fairowing · 20/05/2023 08:39

I think it sounds great, don’t listen to anyone else! I keep trying to get people to try “upside down living” not sure if that’s the name but it’s where they sleep downstairs but “live” upstairs - not what we’re doing at the moment but for future property maybe!

Whichwhatnow · 20/05/2023 08:40

Why would it be weird? My sister has just moved into a new place with her DS (7) and DP. DN has the (much bigger) master bedroom as he has his train track out, a desk and crafts stuff, big toys eg a space hopper plus a guinea pig cage! Sister and her DP only really need a bed and a wardrobe, their room is just for sleeping/dressing. Makes perfect sense to me.

maddiemookins16mum · 20/05/2023 08:40

Our DD has our ‘Master’ bedroom. It has an ensuite (albeit pokey). She has a small double bed in there plus a sofa bed/TV. It’s meant she can have friends round etc. Plus the 2nd double we have has a nicer view and she doesn’t hog our lovely family bathroom with the better walk in shower and separate bath.

Do what works for you and, top tip, don’t tell others your family business, it has nowt to do with them.

scotstarstrikestwo · 20/05/2023 08:40

I've done the same. We live in a small flat but the bigger bedroom is a good size and I've given that to my son. Fits all his toys in so they aren't elsewhere. Myrtle bedroom has a double bed, chest of drawers and a fitted wardrobe. No room for anything else but suits me just fine

mondaytosunday · 20/05/2023 08:42

@Fairowing I did live in an upside down house. House overlooked the sea and we had a deck outside the livingroom with great views, and stairs at the end down to the garden. If it wasn't for views though, and even if so, not sure I'd want it again. I found that flight of stars to the garden a barrier and we rarely used it. Even the dogs didn't seem to want to go up and down!