How do you feel about PDAs?

[Hellohello48]

Public displays of affection aren't my bag. I'm not the only one I know that. But I voiced my opinion about a family member being gross at the dinner table with his gf to a couple of other family members and was pretty much told I was a prude. What's your opinions? Eating each others faces at the dinner table and then caressing their inner thighs with one hand whilst shovelling chips in their mouth with the other. Am I being unreasonable to comment or what?

There's a certain strata of society that indulges in these and I think they're grim. I also think it smacks of exhibitionism and performative affection e.g. if people don't witness us doing PDAs then how will anyone know how in love we are?

This is a very difficult question to answer because the majority of people will feel they don't have a problem with intermittent displays provided it's not OTT. But one man's eating French fries is another man's shovelling chips.
Tbh l don't particularly want to see any extreme public displays of emotions, whether thats romance, anger, attraction, pride, fawning etc.l'll assume we are talking romantic/sexual attraction so I don't want to see 'snogging' (unless it's on the dance floor/end of party) but handholding, a squeeze of the thigh, hand to small of back/waist I'm fine with.in a more relaxed home environment id be OK with sitting on laps or dropping legs over each other.
For me my barometer would be about how much it was affecting interaction with rest of group, so if s couple are gazing into each others jokes eyes and too touchy/strokey so they don't have eyes for others I'd be irritated. Someone have a kiss on the next table wouldn't bother me. I'd just be glad I wasn't next to the toddler (almost) in the high chair covered in mash ice cream and soil.
Where's your line then?

Holding hands is fine but groping each others thighs? No, go get a room.

It’s the same with kisses. A peck is fine but full on tonguey kisses? Grim. I don’t need to see other people do that

But I voiced my opinion about a family member being gross at the dinner table with his gf to a couple of other family members and was pretty much told I was a prude. What's your opinions?

Small wins.

At least they weren't bent over the table, going at it like a couple from pornhub.

Full on tongue swallowing snogging I just think why do that in public? We kiss each other (not snogging) ,hold hands , cuddle each other , etc but that's it. If I am out watching a band etc and I see people snogging it doesn't bother me in that setting weirdly!

Snogging in public is unnecessary but the hands on the thigh wouldn't bother me, although how would you even see that if you were at a restaurant table?

Oh please do explain more about the 'certain strata [sic] of society' to which you refer...

I hate them, at that level. A sign of major insecurity in my opinion.