How do you feel about PDAs?

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Public displays of affection aren't my bag. I'm not the only one I know that. But I voiced my opinion about a family member being gross at the dinner table with his gf to a couple of other family members and was pretty much told I was a prude. What's your opinions? Eating each others faces at the dinner table and then caressing their inner thighs with one hand whilst shovelling chips in their mouth with the other. Am I being unreasonable to comment or what?

Pda is one of those things that's amazing when you're with someone you love. But is grim and gross when anyone else does it!

It depends on what the PDA is. Handholding, small touches , pecks on the lips/cheek etc. are fine , regardless of the environment.

Full on tongue kissing, dry humping and fondling bits, best kept in private.

Holding hands and kissing I don't have a problem with. Stroking each others thighs in the presence of others is gross and I would have jokingly said something like, 'knock it off'.If they were at their own home, fair enough but when dining with others there is a way to behave and this isn't it.

They don't bother me so much, but I hate seeing a man with his hand on a woman's arse. You know, as they're walking around. He might as well piss on her and be done with it!

We were in a restaurant too - not eating at home.

Rancid and desperate OP you are not being unreasonable. Holding hands in public fine, hands all over each other's arses etc - pathetic. Snogging at a dinner table? They'd be fucking told by me as well - grow up and have a bit of respect.

Holding hands, quick kiss, arm round shoulders? Fine. Anything more is not really on is it. Performative, inappropriate, disrespectful.

I love doing it (respectfully) and I love seeing it.

I love my children growing up seeing my DP and I so much in love after not seeing it between me and their father and I love seeing others people in love.

What a daft thing to say. It's got everything to do with the person trying to enjoy their meal across the table from the people acting this way.
I always wonder when I see these 'keep yer nose out' comments: are they made for the sake of being obnoxious or are they made by the type of person who would behave just as poorly as the person described?

If you mean you French kiss at a restaurant dinner table and rub each other's thighs then I can tell you your kids are not enjoying that as much as you are. This is about context. Affection is fine, foreplay is not.

Over the top sucking each other's faces at the dinner table, i think gross

and making tv noise kissing always gross

Affection is normal with over the top going for think the same as when people keep on going on about how wonderful their new partner is a lot

Are they trying to convince others of something? Of the people I know who put on a performance don't last

Again normal affection to me is different and perfectly fine

Arm round the shoulder, holding hands, quick peck type kiss - fine. I'm not really that bothered by a hand on a thigh either (if they're clad in jeans or something, maybe not so much if it's a naked thigh and the hand is caressing rather than still). Full on snogs with tongues, while you're seated with others at a table - just no. Have a bit of decorum FFS!

No, not acceptable at all to be full on kissing at a dinner table. It's usually a sign of insecurity. If you are so into each other, then the denial of not kissing and stroking during a meal will make the private time later better anyway. Private being the important word.

I think it's nice to see a bit of affection but full on songs in public is too much

I know what you mean, all that bloody noise really hacks me off.

@DeadbeatYoda 😂😂 definitely just meant loving affection!! Did make me chuckle though. Maybe I should have specified

Too much for me, but I guess you just have to look the other way. Sometimes I feel.public displays are about ownership and signalling to others. I don't like that .

Definitely not being unreasonable. My cousin who is 30 is constantly doing this. Caressing his girlfriends thigh, hugging her and almost looks as though we should all think it's really cute.
It's inappropriate. Keep it for the bedroom, nobody else wants to watch the pawing.

That definitely sounds a bit much. I also hate it when couples on public transport start snogging the face off each other.

Haha me too. Was taken back to the little stylus thingy and having to tether it to your (probably) Nokia 6310 while it slowly downloaded the emails

It's chavvy at the dinner table. They're desperately after attention 🤮

Showing my age here, I was wondering why anyone would have a thread about opinions on personal digital assistants....

PDAs in public make me feel queasy. If I’d have been the OP I have said something about the couple groping each other and eating each other’s faces. That’s vile and shows a clear lack of respect for others. Sound like a couple of dogs in heat!

Not a fan of PDA, apart from very specific places we follow the bro code when out and about. I do think a kiss across the table, thigh rubbing etc in a restaurant is innapropriate, but I probably wouldn’t actually say anything.

'Get a room' or 'Oh look, dinner and an x-rated show' are the accepted comments on that type of behaviour.

Making out at the dinner table is for people too young to have a place of their own (or a hotel room) to go to, and too silly to understand not everyone needs to know 100% of the time how sexually attractive they find each other.