To think this is a bit inconsiderate or am I being really grumpy?

[Starsabovetheskies]

We have a cleaner who comes once a week. Recently she changed this to Fridays and I don’t mind this but I don’t work Fridays.

So today she turned up at half seven in the morning. Is it just me or is this a bit - not quite the done thing. I mean, me and kids were still in pyjamas and then feeling like slobs as she’s cleaning …

Yes, that’s too early as people would still be getting ready for school/work at that time.

Surely you agreed a start time? You are the client so it's a no brainier.

Is that the time she would usually come? Does she just come whenever she likes? Too early for me definitely

I'm a cleaner and would never come before 9 unless previously agreed!

Nothing intrinsically wrong about any start time you agreed.

What time did you agree?

We didn’t, and I’m fine with that, I don’t mind if she comes at 10 am, 12 noon or 3pm. But half seven in the morning is ridiculous.

Are you on a wind up? You're the customer, you set the day and time. If your cleaner can't do it you find another.

So she's changed the day and the time?
You do realise you employ her and you set the conditions
Have you spoken to her about it?

Why didn't you tell her it was too early?

You set the day and time. I don't understand why you'd let her in if it wasn't convenient.

@Newspeaker it makes no difference to me if I’m at work if she comes at 11, 2 or whenever. Why would that be being on a windup? It’s just allowing someone flexibility in what they do.

But I would have expected that to be in normal working hours. I wouldn’t have expected her to turn up at half seven in the evening either!

Yeah that's too early for me - I would struggle to get myself & kids ready while someone was there and cleaning? Just tell her it's too early for you. I wouldn't necessarily think she was being inconsiderate or rude or anything like that though.

Just tell her you’re happy to be flexible with timings but not before 9am or whatever suits. If you’ve never told her this, how would she know?

That’s way too early. Just tell her anytime after 9am. That’s fair and reasonable 😊

She's probably an early riser and doesn't see 7:30 as being as early as you do. I would just explain that you're busy getting the children ready for school at that time, so could she come later.

Her coming on the day you're at home with the kids isn't great as you guys will be making mess as fast as she's cleaning it!

Tell her she can come Mon-Thur and from X-Y time and problem solved 👍

I don't understand why you didn't tell her it was too early and ask her to do any other day of the Friday was an issue. Like so many problems on MN you could easily solve this by talking to her.

I suppose it caught me off guard @MuffinToSeeHere . I know on MN everyone is equipped with the right sort of response at the right time but personally I wasn’t. I was up half the night with a toddler and feeling like I’d been hit by a truck.

At the risk of sounding like an arse, she didn’t have a set time on a previous day. I have no issue with that: it doesn’t make a fig of difference to me if she comes before her lunch at 11 or if she comes after her lunch at 2. But there is common sense within that I feel, most of us wouldn’t rock up to do a clean at 8pm in the evening and this feels like the other extreme.

Indeed and only 20 minutes after the cleaner arrived in this instance. She's evidently still there and yet the op chooses to start a thread instead of speaking to her to resolve the issue.

@Whimsocal i know, imagine if everyone just dealt with it? Nasty spiteful little twats wouldn’t be able to get in digs about how shit other people are! And where would some posters on here be then, hmm?

I'm not being a nasty spiteful little twat thank you very much. I'm merely pointing out that instead of starting a thread the most logical thing to do is actually talk to your cleaner. Starting a thread she won't see won't actually solve the blooming problem.

Go downstairs now and explain to her that in further Fridays don't work for you and that whilst you're happy for her to be flexible in when she cleans it cannot be before 9am. She will say ok and the problem will be resolved.