Name changed as I'm very active on one of the other boards, with lots of outing information.
DH today, not for the first time, has driven our kids (7 & 4) a short distance (a few hundred metres) without their seatbelts on. Both kids can put their own belts on, but our 4 year struggles to reach around her car seat to get the plug, so it takes her a while. If we're in a rush we do it for her, but she's a stubborn 4 year old who likes doing things for herself, so if we're not in a rush we let her do it.
We live in a village with very quiet roads, my husband is driving the kids to the farmhouse behind our house. He's travelling on proper roads, not dirt tracks etc. he's driving about 20mph approx. 600m. He gets in his seat, he says, without realising the 4 year old hadn't got her belt on. 6 year old told him, he said 'we're almost there', and kept driving.
My view is: why risk it? This wasn't a one-off misunderstanding, he's done it before. He's choosing to drive the kids without their seatbelts on, and if something was to happen, they could be seriously injured or worse. How crappy a parent do you have to be, to not spend 5 seconds putting the belt on.
His view is: short distance, quiet rural roads, no risk.
AIBU? Am I going out of mind, or is he being stupid and irresponsible with our kids? He's laughing it off saying I'm being daft and he's really got me questioning myself.