Why aren't parents correcting their DC?

[Meili04]

I just saw the DM article about an 11 year old boy being tasered for brandishing a knife over a tantrum in burger king. The mum said they were too harsh. I've seen this in my DDs school their child is a little angel and can do no wrong. If my child is mean to another child I correct the behaviour , if they rude I do the same.
My DC is a human being with faults and isn't perfect 100 percent of the time, no person is.

Why can some parents see no fault in their child? Our responsibility as parents is to bring up DC to be functioning adults who thrive. Treating DC as mini deities does them no favours. I think parenting is becoming too gentle. AIBU?

Let's hope!

Unfortunately our YOI community is full of young lads with knife crime

It's rife

Yes, that's what's needed - more violence that will solve the problem of maladjusted and angry children. Violence is always the answer.

This is what you get when you remove critical thinking from education. People who literally can't reason beyond "I'm bigger than you".

But it wasn’t a gun though was it..it was a taser. He could have dropped the knife but chose not to and suffered the consequence of his actions. Not sure why you aren’t more appalled at the 11 year old with a knife!

Zero tolerance conflicts with boys will be boys it seems, which is why we see so many posts on here about teens who are violent to their mother.

The child is committing a criminal offence. In possession of a bladed article in public, exacerbated by threatening people with that bladed article. Exacerbated by threatening a Police officer/public sector worker.

Its not the job of Police, in the dark when being physically threatened to decide whether or not the person threatening them with a bladed article may or may not be really a threat to Police/the public in the course of the criminal offence.

They're not social workers or mentors or therapists, nor are they trained to be so. It's not their job. It's laughable that anyone thinks it's the role of Police to put their weapons away, squat down and have a chat with a child or anyone that is threatening them/the public with a weapon.

It's the job of the CPS to decide to prosecute the criminal offence or not after the perpetrator has been arrested and if it happens, charged.

The Police are in an immediate emergency situation to protect the public, including them.

So there is no such resource. Why is that, then, do you think? Is it because no one actually knows how to reverse eleven years of getting away with swearing, waving a knife about , running riot late at night? Is it because not many people think that being such a ‘resource’ is a particularly desirable or even survivable career?

BTW, what the apologists seem not to have considered is that the ‘child’ was presumably running around threatening other civilians . We’re the police supposed to wait until he had injured a member of the public before acting to incapacitate him? Are you volunteering yourself or one of your family to be the victim?

The young lad has finally learned years too late that his actions in life have consequences. Hopefully the mother will reflect on her shocking parenting that’s led to her son having a “tantrum” over a minor inconvenience and ended up with him being traumatised. I’m assuming there’s no ND issues or suspected issues because that would for sure have been mentioned. With a bit of luck she might take steps to properly parent her child. Judging by the state of the article I highly doubt it though.

Let's hope so. It might literally be the short sharp shock he needs.

They are told no. But it has no power anymore. No is not respected.

It's been reported that the boy has learning difficulties ( no other details are given).

Usually posters on here are falling over themselves on here to diagnose any misbehaving child and excuse their behaviour. Why is this different? Some of the comments about him on here are disgusting

His mother called the police.

If you've got to the age of 11 and you think tantrumming because you couldn't get a Burger King then brandishing a knife is a good idea, then unfortunately you need to learn (probably for the first time in your life) that actions have consequences.

This hopefully has done the trick, although I imagine this behavior is ingrained and possibly modeled by his parents, so I don't really hold out much hope this boy is going to be conducive to society.

I actually went to school with a girl who stabbed her brother to death with a butterknife. As weird as it sounds cutlery knives can also do damage in the wrong hands.

Where are you moving to and when?

I think the hang 'em and flog 'em brigade found it quite quickly.

They can they are banned from prisons and secure units for a reason. Some wards its given but counted if one goes missing the unit goes on lockdown , whole place/people is searched from top to bottom until its found.

No, the police should not taser a CHILD. Tasers are not tested on children and they have killed a significant number of adults. Should an 11 year old get a death sentence for brandishing a knife? No. So tasing them is not a proportionate response. The police should do their jobs: de-escalate and disarm. Not jump right in with a taser just because you have one.

Tasers are less deadly than guns, but they should be used as an alternative to a gun, not an extra level below a gun. We want the police to kill fewer people not more.

I didn't know that but I can understand why that's the case.
For what it's worth I agree with your post, there's similar behaviour from kids where I live and as ever the mums trot out the excuses and blame everyone but themselves. It's not good for anyone and that includes their children.

Be appalled then. I’m appalled the kid’s first thought at not getting his Burger King was to pick up a knife.

Out of interest; what do you think the police should’ve done?

I have no sympathy for the little shit, yes it was a butter knife this time, the police done the right thing imo, he wont be picking up a knife anytime soon and waving it about will he.

I want to refer the young people i know who carry knives, or own machetes, to people who can nurture and help. There is no such resource.

@Allthegoodnamesarechosen
So there is no such resource. Why is that, then, do you think?

its because we have a government that is totally out of touch with what is happening in this situation and why kids have knives.

The kids I know with knives are lovely boys with insecure home lives and a lot of fear. They have suffered trauma. They carry knives to try to stay safe- misguided as this is.

I would love to work in such a resource if it were funded.

Shitty inadequate parents are the reason for all these shitty kids running amok with no understanding of social and personal responsibilities.
I'm glad he got tasered. Probably the first time he understood there are consequences for poor behaviour.

It’s as if no one has an Idea of what ‘learning difficulties’ might actually mean for an individual. It goes beyond reading.

Be appalled then. I’m appalled the kid’s first thought at not getting his Burger King was to pick up a knife.
he was probably responding to being in a panicked emotional state. We don’t know the half of it.

@hattie43

your comment says a lot about your character.

The use of the word ‘feral’ is quite disgusting.