A friend of mine is 3 months behind me in her pregnancy journey but has recently found it she might be in a similar situation to be with regards to reduced fetal growth and being induced.
She seemed quite upset and panicked so I reassured her everything will be ok and baby will be fine (my baby was born healthy). I described the steps taken for my induction and at what stage I took different pain relief etc. However I did have a traumatic birth (currently having therapy) but I didn't mention all the bits that I found difficult (a not so great midwife, not realising baby's heart rate has dropped, forceps, haemorrhaging etc). Should I tell her? I feel like it will cause unnecessary anxiety but my DH said she should know the risks etc.
I went in for my induction quite relaxed because I had a fairly positive approach to giving birth. Now however,I don't think I ever want to risk going through that again because of my experience and I just feel it won't be helpful for my friend to have the information about my friend. Maybe one day after she has had her baby, I will tell her, but I feel like it isn't fair to do so now. I also do wonder if she will be upset I didn't tell her the full truth.
YABU - you should tell your friend ahead of her induction
YANBU - you shouldn't tell your friend ahead of her induction