Hello everyone.
Married a long time. There has always been a lack of communication in our relationship and it’s been mentioned more than once.
I have more recently started to notice signs that my dh is embarrassed of me.
When out in a group setting he avoids me and never seems to want to interact with me. It’s similar at home but there is just us and dc so it’s less obvious. At home and out he will ignore me and focus on the dc even when it’s not needed.
Even when we are out but not with company it’s as if he will try anything not to walk with me or talk to me.
I noticed today that on more than one occasion he had a seat next to me but walked away and sat there elsewhere. It wasn’t that he was wanting to talk to other people or mingle as he sat with people he hardly knows and was not chatting to them.
I do try start conversations but I get very little feedback or response and it feels very one sided. I do try to make it two way but I get shrugs or grunts as response.
We have been out today and ended up sat together a couple of times and if you didn’t know us it’s as if we were strangers making small talk.
Every comment I make he replies with “alright don’t say that or people can hear you”. The funny thing is I’m not saying anything bizarre or talking loudly I’m very sure of that.
Dh will actively walk away from me when I try chat to him or will interrupt me to answer the dc.
I have been trying my best to reconnect but I feel like perhaps it’s a fruitless struggle.
I see other couples chatting and laughing and showing care and I feel very alone.
I don’t have much family or friends due to various reasons so it’s very hurtful and lonely.
I have my dc who keep me going.
I can’t understand why he is embarrassed of me and I have picked my brains. I don’t think I’m doing anything that would lead to that and I think I look ok.
Has anyone experienced this?
Aibu maybe I’m too sensitive and have high expectations.