Male violence is a big issue but I'm not really sure feminists help by trying to frame women as the main victims. It distracts from what could be perhaps the biggest incentive for men to stand together and sort it out - the fact it has a huge impact on them as a demographic.
I also agree with the posters saying that people tend to view men as less innocent - basically what people call victim blaming. This is usually done by lumping all men together so that if they dare speak out on their experiences people will say "stop moaning, you're a bloke. It's you guys that are responsible."
As I said in another recent thread, this group culpability doesn't really hold up. You can try and lump men into a big homogenous group but they can't simultaneously be the victim and the perpetrator. It's ludicrous to expect a gay male to be culpable for the violence visited on him by a homophobic thug. Or a black male to be responsible for racist violence against himself from white police officers. It's also probably quite pointless talking to Eton schoolboys about knife crime in Hackney, or white middle class accountants about radical Islamic violence.
Violence against men is always dismissed. We hear a lot about the two women a week but nothing about the 80 men a week who kill themselves. If it's mentioned the first reply is always that 'women attempt it more'.
However, this line of reasoning seems to usually be employed selectively because when we talk about women being murdered nobody ever points out that in 70% of cases involving one sided violence the women is the perpetrator. What matters is the severity, the fact that women are actually dying. But when it comes to male suicide it's all about the frequency of attempts, not the fact that 40x more men are killing themselves weekly than are killing women.
But usually you won't even get that far because somebody will say "as feminists we focus on women, not men". I've never understood this attitude. How can you focus on gender equality but only care about one sex? Personally I'd never respond to somebody talking about racism with something like "as a white person I prioritise white people's problems, not black people."
I think what gets me going is when feminists claim to be focused on women rather than men but then invest loads of effort proclaiming how much worse off they are and how comparatively easy men have it. It's like starting a big campaign to tackle police violence against white males. It wouldn't take long for people to point out that black males have it much worse. Imagine then telling POC to pipe down because it's not all about them.
And I don't get all these white middle class university educated women who moan on about the evil straight white males. These are literally the men they usually end up marrying and creating more straight white males with.
These women are second in privilege only to their husbands, and many end up being facilitated in working part time long after the kids have grown up, with the man shouldering the mental load of being the main breadwinner whilst being told by feminists he's the privileged one for being able to have the career. I'd much rather be going to the gym and working in an easy job than having a load of corporate stress, especially if the money is shared and I still benefit from my husband's great privilege of breaking his back until 65yo (by which time many women won't have worked full time for 35 years!).
Obv we also have a lot of disadvantages inherent to our sex too, but everybody already knows and acknowledges these in a way that men's problems rarely are.