Just fed up of being told 'you're quiet/shy'

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I'm at work, I don't usually work this shift but picked up extra. We're rushed off our feet and I am working with 2 ladies I barely know. If we're all sitting together I'll make some small talk etc.
However atm I'm running around and busy, I just want to get my work done.
I did say to them hi how are you, and smiled.
I just went In the office to get something and one went 'you're quiet and shy aren't you' the other went ' yeah, you are?'

I just said 'Oh am I? I didn't think I was '
They went ' yeah, you are'
I said, 'I just get on with my work really. I don't really know what else to say.'

One went 'there's nothing bad with it'. I said 'right ok' and walked off.

Obviously you do think it's odd/peculiar as why have to point it out? We're all different, I just want to do my work, I've got 35 sets of medication to hand out. I'll never be rude to anyone, but I'm at work.

Of course this isn't the first time I've had this but I'm just sick of it. It's the first time I've tried to stand up for myself. I'm just fed up with it. I get it's an extroverts' world and I can't suddenly transform into a very outgoing loud person.
I've accepted I don't have many friends and that's fine. Just leave me alone because every time you point it out, especially in front of others I just feel like shit, like I do now.

Havent read the whole thread but this resonates with me - apart from the fact that I work in a tiny space with the same few people four/five days a week.

I like them and have a lot of affection for them but I struggle to keep up the constant flow of chat they all have. I’m not cerebral, I’m down to earth and like a chat and a laugh but I can’t keep it up for eight hours a day.

I’m thought of as boring and quiet and even prudish. I’m not, I’m just not fake and can’t laugh at the same jokes day in day out as heartily as everyone else does.

I find the conversation quite inane at times. It’s a big problem for me as we are mostly women in 40’s and 50’s.

Just be you and don’t worry about other peoples opinions!

I have had the same before, but I usually just say ‘I’m not shy at all, just don’t have much to say.’ To me shy is like my oldest dd - often she would want to say something but if she’s in an unfamiliar setting she feels nervous to say it or can’t think of how to say it. I would never feel nervous or worried to say it, I just don’t have much of anything to say most of the time, or I keep stuff to myself.

I think crying in the toilets over it seems a bit much. It doesn’t sound like they’ve been overly horrible or anything, just annoying. Are you struggling with anything else?

Sorry to quote you but I do this too! The person always thinks it’s their influence that made me start swearing, like they’ve corrupted me or something

My manager constantly says things like oh I know you’re shy quiet. Just because i can’t get a word in edge ways on team meetings sometimes. Some extremely non self aware extroverts on my team. I don’t see it as a bad thing though, you can still be an interesting and fun person even though you don’t arrive with a fanfare like some people.

I had a new neighbour who moved in across the road from me. She was extremely loud and talkative and, by (hopefully) being a polite person, I let her speak without interrupting her. However, when I did try and get a word in edgeways she just spoke over me. Then she suddenly announced to me that I was a very "nervous" person because I didn't say much. I should have just said "it's because I can't get a word in as you never shut up and let other people speak". I find it's people who have a lack of manners, who decide they are qualified to pass opinion on other people's personalities.

Ask them why they are such loudmouths.

Yeah this is what I get too. Its like nope I just didn't show you the true me to start with incase you think I'm a weirdo 😂

People love to sound clever when they point out 'oh, you're tall!' Like I've never noticed. I used to cringe with embarrassment. Now I just point out 'oh, you're short aren't you!' It's so pathetic 😂

I work occasionally with a woman who is the complete opposite of me. Very talkative, confident etc. I always feel under pressure when around her. I often just want to sit back and chill out a bit but she constantly talks. It's hard going when an extrovert and introvert mix. I always feel guilty that I am not as chatty as her and that she thinks I am rude.

This post is old but resonates so much with me.
Every job I have I feel this way. I always get oh you are so quiet etc. With this job I have now had 4 years I have just come back off maternity and there is a new girl there, she said oh the others said you are really quiet but I don't think you are though, I didn't think I was either in this job, I talk etc and felt confident. The people who work there are extroverts and I'm an introvert so stand out. I always feel like the outcast and I hate it. I don't know what else I can do. I work hard and talk when needed and dont gossip etc and I feel like the weird one because I don't. I never say to them your so loud it's rude. It does get me down alot.

I don't blame you at all OP. This kind of thing annoys me. A LOT.

It's been said to me in several workplaces and in my case - I do believe it was part of bullying

It's almost like people think they are superior because they are louder. I also hate how loud people are seen as mentally stronger than quiet people.
I've often heard loud people being described as outgoing, bubbly and life and soul where as with quiet people it's more negative. People can't seem to accept that we are all different.