I’ve been with my BF for 2 years but known him 3 as we work together. He split from his 3 years ago- has barely spoken to her since but does sometimes see her in social situations as they have same uni friends a couple times a year. They get on ok but don’t seem to like each other.
Anyway, BF found out last night that his friend is now dating his ex and has been for a few months. BF has been absolutely what I would call devastated for the past 24 hours. Going from upset to angry, saying he feels disgusted and betrayed. That both of them should go f themselves. He doesn’t want them seeing each other and he wants to put a stop to it. That it’s going to cause him anxiety and pain if he ever sees them together.
I sort of let him get on with it last night thinking by this morning he would feel better but this morning we were suppose to go to a street party with friends and family and he refused to go saying that he’s “depressed” and “hurt”. Refusing to even come out and socialise and has stayed home.
I went out without him and again have just messaged asking if he wants some food and he’s said “he can barely eat”.
I don’t really know how to react to be honest. This isn’t a close friend of BF and his ex is hardly around and I feel a bit confused and miffed he’s acting like this.
I’m not sure how I’d feel about my friend dating my ex but I can’t imagine cancelling my whole weekends plans for it!
So AIBU if I go home and tell him to get a grip? We are all 34 btw! Not teenagers!