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Strip club on stag do

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preemi · 06/05/2023 10:25

Just that really, and I'm sure other threads have been done in relation in the past.

Always thought I wouldn't be bothered. Now DP is due to go off on a stag where they're attending one. Apparently I'm not as cool with it as I thought.

What's everyone else's stance on it?

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aSofaNearYou · 06/05/2023 14:15

I wouldn't be happy about it and I wouldn't be happy if my DP didn't prioritise not making me uncomfortable over saying no to his friends.

Needanewnamebeingwatched · 06/05/2023 14:19

WalkingThroughTreacle · 06/05/2023 14:14

I think it's grim and firmly believe that men who feel likewise should simply stop going along with it. My stepson got married a couple of years ago and I was invited to the stag which was to be in Amsterdam. I declined the invitation and explained to him my reasons why - strip clubs, sex shows and hash cafes simply not being aligned to my values. Turns out it was really the best man's idea and my SS wasn't that keen either but was just going along with it. I got a call a few days later to say the venue was being changed to a UK outdoor pursuits centre with a pub crawl after. I was very proud of him.

If your husband thinks it's OK to ogle other women performing naked then I would seriously question his morals. If he isn't OK with it but can't find the backbone to decline the invite I would question his strength of character. If he thinks the sex industry is just victimless, harmless fun then I would question his intelligence.

Really love this post

Men need to just say no, I'm not supporting this

SallyWD · 06/05/2023 14:21

I certainly wouldn't enjoy the idea but at the same time I wouldn't care a great deal.

grinner83 · 06/05/2023 14:29

It wouldn't bother me. DP went on a few when he was younger (we've been together 18 years). To be fair, he wouldn't want to go now because he'd feel like a dirty old perv 😂 But if it happened I wouldn't care.

Hobbi · 06/05/2023 14:37

My DH has also FaceTimed me from the pub with a group of friends who opted out of the strip club. There's no way he'd part with the entrance fee and the price of drinks 😂. He would find it beyond horrifying and awkward to have a lap dance, again including spending money to have a stranger gyrate and gurn for him. He also came home early from a European trip that started to become a bit sex touristy. I don't know if all strip clubs are also lap dancing clubs these days.

MrsSkylerWhite · 06/05/2023 22:35

Ahsoka2001 · Today 14:06
Depends whether he gets a private dance or not surely”

So you would be happy with the man who supposedly loves you watching (possibly trafficked) naked young women potentially forced to perform?
Why? Why is that ok for you?
And it’s not a “dance”. It’s a fuck.

Hobbi · 06/05/2023 22:45

MrsSkylerWhite · 06/05/2023 22:35

Ahsoka2001 · Today 14:06
Depends whether he gets a private dance or not surely”

So you would be happy with the man who supposedly loves you watching (possibly trafficked) naked young women potentially forced to perform?
Why? Why is that ok for you?
And it’s not a “dance”. It’s a fuck.

It's a dance. Don't approve myself, but in a regular strip club, it's a dance.

TheRealityCheque · 07/05/2023 10:44

Absolutely mental.

Approve or don't approve, it it's not a fuck - it's a naked dance.

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