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AIBU?

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Sil

27 replies

PeacefulPottering · 05/05/2023 04:16

Sil checking I've left the shared Abnb okay. We both paid for it. She went into my shared bedroom with her brother to check we left it ok. We did. Am I being unreasonable to think she was a cheeky fucker and overstepping boundaries.

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SargentSagittarius · 05/05/2023 04:18

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You’d already vacated the room? Wouldn’t really bother me.

How do you know? Or were you all still in there and you saw her go in?

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PeacefulPottering · 05/05/2023 04:20

We saw her go in after we all vacated the property.

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PeacefulPottering · 05/05/2023 04:22

She deliberately went in as she has said i don't have the same cleanliness priorities!

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Lazylikeasundaymorning · 05/05/2023 04:25

Is it her airbnb account it was booked through (and therefore she will be the one that gets negative feedback or additional charges in case of any problems)? If it was my booking I’d check over the whole place before leaving - my own room included!

takealettermsjones · 05/05/2023 04:27

Last person to leave has a final scout round and checks every room. It's just good sense. YABU

IrregularChoiceFan · 05/05/2023 04:30

I always check all the rooms when leaving and, shock horror, I also strip people's beds if they haven't bothered to. Your stuff wasn't in there, what's the problem?

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PeacefulPottering · 05/05/2023 04:31

It was booked in her name, fair enough. But we have booked countless Abnb over the years. She knows we aren't slobs, it was paid for by both families. She was looking for something to cause a problem

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PeacefulPottering · 05/05/2023 04:36

Also ,she has form for vacuuming, dusting, literally freaking out about any little thing being our of place . We paid £45 for one night and £20 for the cleaning. We left our bedroom almost as we found it.

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PeacefulPottering · 05/05/2023 04:40

The AIBU was she said I don't have the same cleanliness priorities as she does. Then went into mine and her brother's bedroom and checked it over.

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Oysterbabe · 05/05/2023 04:41

I would check every room too.

takealettermsjones · 05/05/2023 04:45

Almost as you found it? So what was different?

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PeacefulPottering · 05/05/2023 04:49

takealettermsjones · 05/05/2023 04:45

Almost as you found it? So what was different?

Absolutely nothing

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mischlerischler · 05/05/2023 04:49

I think YABU, I would also check all the rooms before leaving if I was the last one in.

You are overthinking it.

Violetcrush · 05/05/2023 04:50

If it was booked on my account I’d check too

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PeacefulPottering · 05/05/2023 04:52

Okay, thanks for the feedback, im. overthinking it, probably am. You don't know my sil though! . Cheers x

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ZekeZeke · 05/05/2023 05:06

This is your second post about this.
She accused you of leaving a coffee ring stain in the bathroom.
Move on. Next time don't share!

ChellyT · 05/05/2023 05:28

PeacefulPottering · 05/05/2023 04:16

Sil checking I've left the shared Abnb okay. We both paid for it. She went into my shared bedroom with her brother to check we left it ok. We did. Am I being unreasonable to think she was a cheeky fucker and overstepping boundaries.

Absolutely a cheeky fucker but let it go. I can only imagine the hamster wheel spinning in her head? Christ! Talk about micro managing other grown adults, who has time for that shit? Your SIL that's who... sit back have a coffee or glass of wine and salute not giving a fuck

Dracuuule · 05/05/2023 05:53

She doesn't sound like someone you find fun to go away with.

Wallywobbles · 05/05/2023 06:02

We all check every room. It's normal.

Glassfullofdreams · 05/05/2023 06:05

PeacefulPottering · 05/05/2023 04:31

It was booked in her name, fair enough. But we have booked countless Abnb over the years. She knows we aren't slobs, it was paid for by both families. She was looking for something to cause a problem

It looks like you're looking to cause a problem, not her.

GoodChat · 05/05/2023 06:07

PeacefulPottering · 05/05/2023 04:52

Okay, thanks for the feedback, im. overthinking it, probably am. You don't know my sil though! . Cheers x

Stop going away with her then

SargentSagittarius · 05/05/2023 06:29

PeacefulPottering · 05/05/2023 04:52

Okay, thanks for the feedback, im. overthinking it, probably am. You don't know my sil though! . Cheers x

You haven’t started this thread for any productive reason.

We don’t know your sister in law, so unlike you, we have no idea of her ulterior motives.

In the situation you describe, you’re being unreasonable, to anyone coming at it cold.

But you clearly don’t think you are, so what do you want out of the thread? We’re not telling you what you want to hear.

user1492757084 · 05/05/2023 07:00

She has a cleanliness problem, as you said, so don't take it personally.
The house was booked in her name and if she found anything not to her standard she would have recleaned it so it doesn't really affect you.
I can see why you find the comment irksome but regardless of whether you stayed together or not she would still have that same opinion about you because SHE has a cleaning addiction.
Her problem; hope she can get help for it if it causes her too much anxiety.

rookiemere · 05/05/2023 07:07

It was booked in her name, she has the right to check.

I had my VRBO rating trashed because on our last extended family holiday DH and I had covid and were in no fit state to hang around after everyone had left and ensure the place was acceptable.

DNephew left the kitchen a mess and the house keys in the wrong place, resulting in me having to field anxious calls from the property owner.

YABU.

IfIGoThereWillBeTrouble · 05/05/2023 07:46

She quite reasonably checked the property to make sure there was nothing that she would be responsible for. If this doesn’t suit you, stop sharing accommodation with her and either book a hotel room of your own or a separate AirBnB.

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