How soon did you realise you wanted another baby?

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DS is 6 weeks, and already I have a strong urge to get pregnant again (I won’t! At least, not this year).

Is this just a weird hormone trip? With DD I have a clear memory of sobbing and making DH promise me we wouldn’t have any more when she was this age so it’s very surprising.

Did you feel this way? Did it pass?

Straight away. We didn't use any contraception but because of breastfeeding I fell pregnant when ds was 15 months.

I was definitely planning number 2 quickly because it took such a long time with no1. Not sure if it was because I was addicted to that poas mentality! The urge remained until I had horrible Labour with no3 and that was that. No more baby pangs. I can't fathom how people cope with more than 3 children- I'm horrified and in awe in equal measures!

Me and DH had always planned on having just one baby and we’d made that decision before even TTC for our first.

When baby number 1 came along we didn’t feel any differently about our decision.

However when DS was about 18 months old I started to get the urge for another. I missed being pregnant, I missed the newborn phase and wanted DS to have a sibling.

My husband was still against having another and it took about a year of discussions until he finally agreed we could TTC for a second child.

When the second child was about two years old I then started craving another child and I initiated discussions about having a third baby. My husband booked himself a vasectomy very quickly 🤣

I have no idea how you can crave another baby after only 6 weeks, lol, you must have a really lovely one who doesn’t cry and who sleeps well, lol.

Give yourself a few months or so and your hormones and thoughts may settle. Or maybe they won’t as some women really do want another baby quickly after a birth and fully embrace those feelings and start TTC again.

My mum was pregnant with me 5 months after giving birth to my sister. She was clearly crazy but it all worked out 👍

Have you spoke to your partner about how you feel?

As soonas I held my first
Ds in my arms I knew I needed another one. As soon as ds2 was in my arms 15 months later I knew I was done.

When I am pregnant..:) due my 5th baby soon and would be happy one day to welcome another one.

I have been waiting for someone else to post something like this!

My little boy is 8 weeks old, first baby and within a week of him being born I was desperate to be pregnant again. I wondered if it’s hormones but the feeling is very much still here!! Baby isn’t even the easiest, very refluxy and sleeps max 3.5 hours in one stretch a night, but still want to be pregnant again already.

DH is firmly in the one and done camp at the moment, partly as we had a mmc before baby and so pregnancy was a hugely anxious time that I didn’t enjoy. I want to do it again for so many reasons, but one of them is definitely to try and be less anxious and enjoy it more.

it’s good to know I’m not alone!

Having just one child on purpose is lame, siblings are awesome and when the child grows up and parents are one day gone they wont be completely on their own.

As soon as I held DS I wanted another, as soon as I held DD I wanted another. As soon as I held my youngest I thought, thank God never again! And that's how i know we're done 😁

I always knew I would want a second and I remember holding DC1 when he was v tiny thinking that I needed to do it all again

Dc2 is 5 months. I would have another in a heartbeat,but I have had a lot of IVF and I know I am lucky for my two children. It would take a miracle.

You are talking nonsense. My DC rarely talk to each other. No falling out, but since an early age they just have nothing in common. When we are gone, they won't see each ever again.

My eldest was almost 5.

I was a walking corpse until that point.
Knew I couldn’t cope and would not survive if I got another like him.

Then we couldn’t for years. Shit show really.

Now have 2, HUGE age gap but it’s bloody amazing!

I agree.

My husband and his brother (4 year age gap) have nothing to do with each other. They are both in their 40’s and they would only see each other at large Christmas family gatherings but apart from that there is no contact. They don’t call or text each other or anything. His brother wasn’t even at our wedding.

As children there was never anything ‘specific’ that caused them to grow apart so much, they just ultimately don’t like each other.

I find it really strange as I’m very close to my sister, but all sibling relationships are different.

@Bloopsie that's an incredibly insensitive thing to say because many people have secondary infertility or another reason why a second child hasn't happened. My friend has an only child because her son was stillborn. Siblings aren't the be all and end all.

DS1 it was a vague down the line idea, I fell pregnant when he was 7 months snd was super pissed off

DS2 is a week and DH told me no more, I'm super upset about it!

I have two. When I was pregnant with my second I was sure I was done.
however now I really want to try and have a third, but the time isn’t right for us so I will see what next year holds. I think the desire is entirely biological and I’m not sure if it will fade

Immediately after DD1 was born. I was still being stitched after an emergency ventouse and PPH. We were always going to have two though, and I had no urge at all after DD2 was born.

Not until my eldest was 2 and sleeping better. I definitely wouldn't have coped until then so there was no desire for another at all!

When I had my first the idea of having another didn’t even cross my mind, in fact for a few years I was sure that I was done with just the one. The urge for number 2 started when my eldest was about 5, but it took a while to conceive so eldest was 8 by the time youngest was born.

With my second I was broody and desperate for a 3rd from being about 8 months pregnant onwards. I thought it was just hormones and would fade, but it hasn’t. 3 years on and I’m still broody, but DP isn’t, so I don’t think we’ll have another.

Utter garbage. That pov is one of many possible outcomes many of which are nowhere near as rosy.

Within six months. Bad news is it never went away, good news I also have a brain and decided more than 3 kids would be too much. I still yearn for more but we have a good life now.

By the time our first was 4mths old I really wanted another, DS1 was such a gorgeous, contented, easy baby and lulled us into a false sense of security! I was pregnant by the time DS1 was a year old, 21 mth gap. So I had two under two.

DS2 arrival was a bit of a shock, very unsettled baby, screamed day and night for the first 7 months. Before he was born we were thinking about a 3rd, no way, we stuck with two.

My two are 21 & 20 now, DS1 is still chilled, calm, quiet DS2 is very driven, talkative, noisy. They are best friends and very close brothers.

Really pleased we had a small gap between our two, in alot of ways it makes life easier, as you don’t forget the stages, they like the same tv, toys, attractions etc. but of course you do feel like you are constantly pregnant, or feeding, and of course tiring. But at least I didn’t need get DS1 to school, it didn’t matter of we were still in our pyjamas in the mornings.

I wanted to straight away and didn’t (obviously had to wait until six week check) then I decided to wait for until four months and got pregnant 5 months post baby and all went very well

it was the right decision for me

DS was about 18 months when I wanted a second one. I have always wanted 2 or 3 but after DS, for a very long time I felt happy with just the one. Took a while for me to want more than one again!

@Bloopsie how offensive to state that someone with one child is lame and somehow inferior for their life choices

When DS1 was a toddler. Up till that point I was very much thinking that we'd have one and see how it went. He was an easy baby and an easy toddler and DS2 arrived when DS1 was 3 1/2.
Was always pretty sure two was my limit and DS2 didn't sleep properly until 3 and was just generally awkward about everything so any desire for more quickly died. He was an incredibly cute toddler though.