How soon did you realise you wanted another baby?

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DS is 6 weeks, and already I have a strong urge to get pregnant again (I won’t! At least, not this year).

Is this just a weird hormone trip? With DD I have a clear memory of sobbing and making DH promise me we wouldn’t have any more when she was this age so it’s very surprising.

Did you feel this way? Did it pass?

With my first I wanted another but he had so many health issues and the birth period was so traumatic and then the subsequent hospital visits etc that I wasn’t ready for 6/7 years. With my dd I felt much more ready straight after birth, but also couldn’t imagine having to split time between two tinies and breastfeeding both, so I waited. I’m considering number 3 when dd starts nursery. But hormonally I had that urge early on.

I was super broody for a while after birth with both mine. It's the hormones, and a very common thing. For me it tailed off towards 6 months, I think it lassts longer with Bfing because the baby hormone levels stay high. DD's sleep was awful which put me off for a while, and then started feeling ready for another when she was 2ish.

I always knew I’d want a 2nd. I did get very broody again for a 3rd, but it passed fairly soon.

This is really sad, did they not bond in the childhood?

Your situation is an expection every person I know inc myself aren in touch with the siblings and the option for tour children to come together will be there of they wish to.

@Bloopsie there are many reasons an individual may choose to just have one child. Referring to it as lame is insensitive and as other posters have said, there’s no guarantee the siblings will get on. My husband’s siblings live in New Zealand and we never see them so he is for the most part like an only child

Took two years after DC1 who was a difficult baby. Wasn’t really ready but knew I didn’t want an only child. Was super broody very soon after DC2 as it wasn’t such a shit show second time around. Due to age, finance and DH’s health we stopped at two. I was very sad at the time but really happy with the decision now they are teens and I have my life back.

Straight after giving birth…

@Bloopsie a nasty and ignorant post. Just because you can push them out at a rate of knots you shouldn’t judge. It took us six year and several mmc to have one. And we have had four failed efforts for a sibling. Cheers for making us solo child families feel lame failures.

I had PND after my first was born. It was also a traumatic birth. She was almost 3 before I considered another.

3 years after first one. Never again after second one.

A year and a half. After I'd left exDH.

My eldest was about 4 months when I started to feel the urge for number 2. He was (and is) a terrible sleeper and an unsettled baby so God only knows what my hormones were thinking. My husband held out for a bit and there's 18 months between him and our daughter. We always knew we wanted two so were very happy and had no urge for more. Then of course life laughed so when our "big ones" were 11 and 13 a new baby came along and blessed us. "The baby" is nearly 18 months now and we talked a lot about how he might feel a bit like an only child and whether we should try for another but we love our family as we are and having another child just so he has a sibling closer in age seemed like a bad idea. His brother and sister absolutely adore him and he worships them so I hope that continues when they're all adults.

Not just me then! It’s very odd as like I said the thought of having DC2 filled me with horror for about 2 years after DD was born. Now DS is here I just want to make our ‘pair’ a gang of 3! I asked DH last night and he said no way so that might be the end of it already, I’ll check again at Christmas and if he still says no that’ll be that - career wise it wouldn’t be a good idea to have another in a couple of years.

How is it sad? If they aren’t friends they aren’t friends.

My Dad & his brother hated each other, to the point they were physically fighting each other from their teens til my Dad moved out. Then the only time they’d see each other was at Christmas when they both happened to be at my Grandmother’s house at the same time. When my Uncle was dying, my Dad went to see him at the request of my Grandmother, Uncle told him to fuck off.
It’s no more sad than any other two people not liking each other.

What’s sad is having an expectation that because you’re related by blood that you’re bound to have an amazing relationship, people don’t work like that. I have two siblings and while we don’t not get along, I have very little in common with either of them and never have, I didn’t miss out on anything because of that.

I was dead broody when I had my second. It went off like a switch when he was about a year old. We didn’t have any more.

I was pregnant 9 months after my first. I wanted to have my babies super close together. 11/10 would absolutely recommend.

Well I think it’s lame to comment negatively on other people’s family size choices. Most people will have a partner, friends and or a child/ren of their own when their parents pass away so won’t be completely on their own with or without siblings. And I know quite a few situations where a parent has passed and siblings have made things worse, they are sadly not always “awesome”.