To be impatient with my baby?

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My baby is 15 months and 1 week old (born three weeks early if that's relevant?) and still not walking.

I'm getting worried and impatient about it!

We're going on holiday at the end of the month with a baby the same age (actually a month younger) who's been walking since he was 11 months old. Makes me feel even more worried.

Please be kind, I have a tendency to worry a lot.

AIBU to worry yet?

Don’t compare they all do different things at different ages.
If yr child isn’t walk by the time they r 18m contact yr HV, the fact they are cruising sounds like there is nothing to worry about.

Try not to worry, my eldest walked at 15 months and I remember panicking but it's fine your baby will get there (and you'll probably rue the day you ever felt impatient about them getting up and about 🤣)

Try not to compare babies, I compared my daughter and it made me feel awful, I had post natal anxiety that made me feel neurotic about everything. I've since had a baby with a disability that I just can't compare to others and I think this put things into more perspective for me. Your baby will get there, it's not a race ❤️

Anything up to 18 months is completely normal. My DS didn’t walk until 20 months and both the GP and health visitor were unconcerned (though they did give him a check up at 18 months to make sure he could weight bear and his muscles felt normal).

He’s 2.5 now and runs everywhere. You’d never guess he started walking later than his peers. Try not to worry.

One of mine walked at 9 months and one at 16 months. Both girls and nothing wrong with either of them. The one that walked later was steady on her feet from the get go. You have nothing to worry about.

My daughter sat up at 7 months , rolled at 11 months, pulled to stand at 14 months and walked at 17 months. She’s 17 years old now. I was very worried. She was also completely silent until about 2 1/2 and finally said her first word at 3 years old with very unclear speech until she was around 4. She’s very creative and musical though! She was diagnosed with dyslexia in year 7 which made sense and looking into it later it seems being late with milestones can be an early indicator.

Don't worry, I know easier said than done but all babies are so different, I've only understood this as it goes with my now 3 yr old and still learning 😆
My baby born in October 2019, my friends baby born November 2019, and when we shared our childrens development from babies stage with each other it's sooooo different... Different in what our babies were interested in playing as well. Mine was especially when learned crawling (at 6-7 month) she was absolutely everywhere, super inquisitive, whilst my friends baby only just learned to sit up and stay still at 6-7 months, mine was walking at 9 months, hers started walking 18 months, but whilst my child is highly spirited, her child is quite serious, quiet, very concentrated :)) we both live in different countries, when we reunited, our children were 2.5 yes old, they weren't much different, they played with toys together, but still he was more reserved. Now my friend got baby girl, she's 1 yr old now and she's walking now, so my friends children 1 and 3 yr old are so different from each others development:) hope that helps :)

Don't measure your child against what others are doing, only against what they are doing. Are they rolling over? Have they progressed to sitting up? Have they moved to crawling or shuffling? If there's no progress you should worry, if there's progress then don't because it'll happen.
This is true of everything from potty training to dressing to writing and cycling.
My kid walked at 18months.

That's still within the 'normal' range and if you contacted the Heath Visitor they likely wouldn't be concerned at this point.

My DD was 14 months when she first took a few steps but was 15 months when she propley walked any distance.

Could definitely be concentrating on communication. My daughter was the same she knew quite a lot of words by 15 months. I know it's hard not to worry x

Same boat just a month ago- baby has took steps but didn’t want to walk any more

now she is running…and running into things and tripping. Was easier before 😂

My two DS were 17 months and 18 months before they walked. They were both just really happy crawling and I think were more into learning words at that point. Now at 15 and 18 they both have a huge vocabulary and can walk very well 😆

So well on his way. I think YABU. Babies walk when they are ready and your baby is showing all the signs of almost being there. Both mine went from where yours is to all of a sudden just walking, it's just a confidence thing that will come when it comes. Give you baby a chance to develop when he's ready.

Btw, parenting becomes much harder when they can walk/ run, you may regret being in such a hurry.

My first baby, dd, never crawled. She only bum shuffled. She never cruised either and the health visitor was starting to make noises about referring her to someone.

Then, one day, when she was 18 months old, she actually just stood up and walked across the room. Never stopped after that

It's so hard not to worry. My eldest was walking on his first birthday and my second was 10mths. My 3rd is 13mths and has only just started taking his first steps but expecting by end of the week he will be walking. HV told me to ring if he wasn't walking by 18mth but he was standing and taking his hands off and standing for quite a long time he just wouldn't walk. He's finally doing it though and I'm sure your little one will be soon enough x

Our little boy took his first steps on NYD (aged 13.5 months), he then got sick and didn’t attempt to walk again for another 6 weeks or so. I was beginning to get desperate for him to walk not least because everyone was asking if he was yet. I’m convinced he wasn’t too fussed as he was a speedy crawler, could cruise from 9 months, climb the stairs from 8.5 months and could happily push carts etc around the house. At 17.5 months he’s now the most confident mover, getting around quite easily, climbing and running. It’s easy to say not to worry, but your HCP won’t intervene just yet. Be positive and encourage standing / cruising where you can! Plus a holiday without the threat of them running into the pool might be nice 🤣

My son was born at 37 weeks and couldn't walk until he was a month off being 2. He couldn't crawl until he was 18 months. There was nothing wrong with him he just didn't want to/couldn't be arsed/forgot he'd got legs.

My DS will be 15 months next week and still isn't walking. I was a little worried as my DD walked at 8mths and by my son's age was running and climbing stairs.

He does seem to be making slow progress (can stand briefly unassisted when he feels like it) and yesterday he walked a few steps holding my hands.

I think he just doesn't want to do it. Why walk when he can crawl across the room in seconds or be carried. He stands up a lot more now than last month so I guess it'll come when it comes. I try not to worry too much.

Btw, parenting becomes much harder when they can walk/ run, you may regret being in such a hurry.

I completely disagree. When my first started walking I was easily able to put him in an all-in-one and a pair of wellies and go to the park. Much trickier with a baby who wants to crawl around on wet, muddy grass

Both of mine were late walkers. They are both quite cautious kids and neither even tried until they were ready to do it, they didn't go through the toddling, falling stages. Once they were on their feet they were steady and walking everywhere. My eldest never really rolled over, went straight to sitting up and I think I read that rolling gives the muscles practice for walking so maybe linked?

My eldest didn’t walk until just before 18 months. At 12 she won a national championship in an endurance sport.

Never sure what to make of those two things together…

Do not worry at all! My son was a super late Walker (19 months) and I was told it to come back if he wasn’t walking by 18 months; however, I was also told by a doctor that he would walk late as he’s tall. My mother in law in NZ is an RTLB and she said that it’s actually great for coordination if they walk late and it always amuses her when parents brag about their child walking early. A lot of renowned athletes were late walkers apparently! I hear you though - I was definitely self conscious but I needn’t have worried. He started walking just before 19 months and is a rather brilliant football player… Probably a coincidence but sharing to ease your anxiety! X

My son didn’t walk until 18 month. He was also born 3 weeks early. He is 7 now and I always find it funny that I ever worried about him not walking. He’s never still 🤣

Does your DH, or your boss, constantly compare your height, weight, gym performance, vocabulary with that of other women born the same year?

Of course not, that would be ridiculous. So don't do it to tiny people.

It's absolutely pointless to measure any individual against any other individual; normal variations are far wider than any two persons can represent.

It's of no benefit to babies, and I advise any parent to make a conscious effort NOT to do it; break that habit or compulsion for your own sake.
Then you won't spend the next 30 years torturing yourself because your offspring hasn't got the same exam score, job, income, hobbies, sex partner and car as your friend's kid.

My son started walking at 15 months to the day. He had never really shown any inclination- he’d not done the pulling up on furniture or the flailing toddles between people - but at 15 months he just got up and walked pretty confidently and never looked back 🤷‍♀️ Everyone learns differently. I wouldn’t worry 🤗

One of mine was 17 months. Walked confidently and a long way instantly.

the other did a few steps at 14 months and stumbled about for a few months.

both walked confidently at the same sort of age.

You say baby has taken a few steps that's good. Just keep encouraging it and I bet they will soon. Some can be lazy. My brother walked two steps them knee shuffled for months lol 🤣