Partner puts dog above me

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So background I’m heavily pregnant, not exactly going to be able to do much but want some reassurance that I’m not insane. Dog belongs to partner from before our relationship.

Partner:

• Despite me asking since falling pregnant wont put the dog in the living room to sleep - I don’t want the dog upstairs at night because baby will set dog off and vice versa and I want the dog to not associate the change with the baby.
• let’s the dog sit on anything in the house including all of my blankets, let’s the dog chew on them and baby’s the dog
• washes the dogs paws in our FOOD BOWLS when I’ve complained enough about why there is mud trekked around the house and then leaves them outside the house for me to collect up
• Leaves the dog with me for over half the week and says I can’t leave the dog alone EVER

i love this man and some of this isn’t new but the washing paws in food bowl has driven me completely insane and I’ve stormed out.

am I overreacting? I know the bowl will get washed but I think it’s completely gross.
I feel like I am being completely disrespected.

washes the dogs paws in our FOOD BOWLS when I’ve complained enough about why there is mud trekked around the house and then leaves them outside the house for me to collect up

To me this is passive aggressive bullshit.
He's using the food bowls and leaving them for you to pick up because you dared question the muddy paws in the house.

Him also demanding you don't leave the dog alone ever is so fucking controlling.
If he's not there half the week then he needs kennels or a dog sitter. What did he do before he met you?

I agree, this man will make it clear to the dog the it (the dog) comes before the baby, that means your baby isnt safe with the dog around.
This vile man is behaving despicably because you are incapacitated, vulnerable & unable to stop him.
=BAD MAN

yep, the dog idiots/didiots are here!

He is not a man worth loving, he’s a twat.

It doesn’t seem like you’re going to be his priority op: did he say anything would change? Why are you with him?

I think he is letting you know that the baby will be your problem and his baby will be the dog, furthermore that his 'fur baby' comes above humans, as symbolized by the act of washing it's feet in the food bowls that you eat out of.
He sounds strange & very bad news OP

I would be very concerned about the safety of the baby if left alone with him and the dog, he won’t keep the dog in a separate room etc