For context, DH is the assistant manager for the local amateur league men's team in our town. They usually train one night mid week and have a game every Saturday during the season. He is also a massive Man City fan and HAS to watch every single game either at home, at a friends or at the pub. He will go to the match if he manages to get tickets. My issue is not with any of this as I've always appreciated it's his hobby.
My issue is that our nights and weekends revolve around football. We hardly get any time as a family on a weekend as Saturday he's out from around lunchtime till normally 7/8pm, depending on where they have played and how long they've stayed at the pub afterwards. Sunday it will be "let's go out for a nice day but we need to be home by 1pm so I can watch the match...".
DH is very hands on with the kids and always gives me the opportunity to do something for me but this still always seems to revolve around football. I'm finding things harder now we have 3 children, the youngest being 1 and feel resentful football seems to come before us.
DH is taking next week off work with the bank holidays but I can't take any time off as another colleague has next week off and there isn't enough staff to cover (slightly peeved as I use all my annual leave for the school holidays but that's a different thread altogether...)
It's my birthday on Thursday and DH mentioned tonight he is playing football this Saturday, next Tuesday night, next Thursday night, next Friday night and next Saturday... apparently it's the end of the season and they need to cram some important games in. I mentioned it was my birthday and he said oh I thought your birthday was Wednesday and I'm sure we could just do something another night.
Obviously we could but I guess I'm annoyed that he has the week off work whilst I'm at work then he'll be rushing out the door to play football and drink with 'the lads' as soon as I walk through the door whilst I'm left to do bedtime and also spend my birthday night home on my own.
AIBU?