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Got covid and banished to bedroom

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Quitelikeacatslife · 27/04/2023 08:17

I'm feeling a bit sorry got myself as have tested positive for covid and do feel rubbish. Everyone else in house tested negative. Kids gone to school DH works from home . He's now saying I need to stay in the bedroom. He's brought tea and toast , very nice. I'm happy to get some rest this morning and will probably have a shower etc but I want to veg on sofa later. He works in lounge (has an office but doesn't use it) I don't want to pass bugs on but the thought of not moving freely around for next few days is making me feel worse . AIBU to go into kitchen (I could wear mask) and to ask him to give me lounge?

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coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 27/04/2023 14:47

There is no way anyone would be telling me to isolate in my own house.

If I had a partner who was that paranoid, they'd be free to isolate themselves from me if they wanted to, though Grin

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Quitelikeacatslife · 27/04/2023 14:50

I'm still here in bed, had a shower and still feel rubbish . DH brought me nice lunch up and he's gone for a walk so I've made a cuppa. I've actually amused myself without tv so far (can't take tv off the wall and install up here!) so will be as considerate as I can to not infect my family. It is still a very transferable illness. I think was bit emotional this morning and felt trapped but I will survive and make decisions as I go during the next few days . It is after all fair to include them in discussions over it
Is still 5 days off at my work (school)

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Quitelikeacatslife · 27/04/2023 14:53

Lcb123 · 27/04/2023 14:34

Just get on as normal. Why anyone tests now is beyond me.

I'm very glad I did test or my colleagues, and children at school and people I would have seen tonight could have got poorly and at best had a rubbish bank holiday , possibly worse .

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Grumpypotamus · 27/04/2023 15:00

It’s not 2020..

Nanny0gg · 27/04/2023 15:11

Grumpypotamus · 27/04/2023 15:00

It’s not 2020..

Whatever the illness, it's nice to try not to share, because it does upset other people's plans if they catch it.

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Quitelikeacatslife · 27/04/2023 15:38

Grumpypotamus · 27/04/2023 15:00

It’s not 2020..

No it's 2023 and I still feel rubbish with this illness. Thank goodness I'm vaccinated or could be worse. Regardless it's not nice to pass on

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HydrangeaFairy · 27/04/2023 15:44

When either of us has a virus we usually sleep in spare room so as not to disturbthe other. Other than that we wouldn't do much (and I am immunocompromised). However in your case it seems reasonable to stay out of the room while someone is working. He should make space in his study for tomorrow.

MasterBeth · 27/04/2023 16:24

ChristmasKraken · 27/04/2023 14:29

Or, you know, the more recent website here which is:

"There are no coronavirus (COVID-19) restrictions in the UK.

If you have COVID-19 you should try to stay at home."

https://www.gov.uk/coronavirus#:~:text=There%20are%20no%20coronavirus%20(COVID,COVID%2D19%20by%20the%20NHS.

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The post I was referring to said there was no guidance to isolate in 2022, not now. There was - in fact, it was law.

ChristmasKraken · 27/04/2023 16:34

MasterBeth · 27/04/2023 16:24

The post I was referring to said there was no guidance to isolate in 2022, not now. There was - in fact, it was law.

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Fair enough, but self-isolate only meant from the rest of the world. Guidance for at home was to avoid communal areas as much as possible and clean loads. Never a law to lock children in their rooms.

BashirWithTheGoodBeard · 27/04/2023 17:00

coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 27/04/2023 14:47

There is no way anyone would be telling me to isolate in my own house.

If I had a partner who was that paranoid, they'd be free to isolate themselves from me if they wanted to, though Grin

Yup.

Grumpypotamus · 27/04/2023 17:07

Quitelikeacatslife · 27/04/2023 15:38

No it's 2023 and I still feel rubbish with this illness. Thank goodness I'm vaccinated or could be worse. Regardless it's not nice to pass on

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I don’t mean that you can’t feel rubbish, of course you can, my mum was just now really ill for 5 weeks. I just meant that now you don’t have to isolate, you can go to work with covid if you feel ok. Feel better soon, it’s crap.

crossstitchingnana · 27/04/2023 18:39

I think it's selfish to mix with family. I had it recently and spent 5 days in my bedroom, only going to the bathroom. Tbh that's all I wanted to do, I was happy to sleep!! When I needed to leave the room I wore a mask. When I started to feel better I sat in the lounge, masked, but never near to anyone.

ShowOfHands · 27/04/2023 19:19

Not everybody is allowed to work with Covid. Both DH and I have to test and if positive, remain off work for 5 days.

OP, I really do feel your pain. I'm currently freezing. In a few minutes, I'll be sweating. I have spent the day dozing.

MasterBeth · 27/04/2023 19:34

ChristmasKraken · 27/04/2023 16:34

Fair enough, but self-isolate only meant from the rest of the world. Guidance for at home was to avoid communal areas as much as possible and clean loads. Never a law to lock children in their rooms.

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If you have the space, avoiding communal areas as much as possible means isolating in specific rooms. That's obvious.

Covid is spread by airborne transmission. Keeping in separate rooms reduces airborne transmission. It's not rocket science.

ChristmasKraken · 27/04/2023 19:38

MasterBeth · 27/04/2023 19:34

If you have the space, avoiding communal areas as much as possible means isolating in specific rooms. That's obvious.

Covid is spread by airborne transmission. Keeping in separate rooms reduces airborne transmission. It's not rocket science.

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But it still wasn't the law to do so.

MasterBeth · 27/04/2023 19:53

You seem to like going round in circles

It was the law to self-isolate in your home for up to 10 days in early 2022 in England.

It was guidance to avoid communal areas wherever possible.

So it was perfectly reasonable for a willing teenager - who I assume had all the regular teen technology to entertain them - to isolate in their room in order to not pass on a highly infectious, potentially serious virus to their family.

Skybluepinky · 27/04/2023 20:36

Protect yr family and stay put.

Mariposista · 27/04/2023 21:03

ChristmasKraken · 27/04/2023 16:34

Fair enough, but self-isolate only meant from the rest of the world. Guidance for at home was to avoid communal areas as much as possible and clean loads. Never a law to lock children in their rooms.

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@ChristmasKraken I agree. I cannot fathom those who forced their unwell child to be unwell by themselves, away from comfort, cuddles and other love you give when they are ill from their parents.

Yogazmum · 27/04/2023 21:11

Someone I know whose husband caught Covid banished him to the bedroom for a week, left his food on a tray outside the room & made him FaceTime his kids who were downstairs in the lounge 🤣🤣
It was all pointless as they all caught it as they shared the only family bathroom so chances are you’ve already infected DH & the kids before you tested +ve.
If you feel unwell OP then stay in bed. Once you’re feeling a bit better then I would just be living as normal. If you had flu or a cold you would do that. Just use common sense. If you hadn’t tested then you probably would just think you had a heavy cold.

FabFitFifties · 27/04/2023 21:15

I'm an NHS worker, and it's business as usual with covid now. However, at home, where it's my choice, I would take steps to protect my son who has not been vaccinated. Partner is vaccinated and can decide for himself - if he wanted me to exercise caution I would.

watchthebloodycat · 27/04/2023 21:29

I'd absolutely love for DH to banish me to the bedroom and see to DC. And to bring you tea and toast?! This genuinely sounds like my dream come true.

I should be so lucky.

tigger1001 · 27/04/2023 21:37

MasterBeth · 27/04/2023 19:53

You seem to like going round in circles

It was the law to self-isolate in your home for up to 10 days in early 2022 in England.

It was guidance to avoid communal areas wherever possible.

So it was perfectly reasonable for a willing teenager - who I assume had all the regular teen technology to entertain them - to isolate in their room in order to not pass on a highly infectious, potentially serious virus to their family.

I disagree. It's never been reasonable to expect a child - even a teen, to isolate away from everyone else in the house for a number of days.

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Quitelikeacatslife · 27/04/2023 21:42

Look I may be a bit delusional as I'm still feeling ill but please can we drop the idea that I locked my tiny unwell boy in his room. He's nearly 6ft tall, this was ages ago, he didn't feel unwell but had tested positive so we followed the advice at the time, and that was his choice too as he's quite moralistic about these things. I still interacted with him but we didn't mix. He had school on line during the day (that's how long ago it was they were still offering dial in) and in the evening he had books Lego and oh the internet.
So I'm still in bed, got an iPad on the go , will see how the weekend goes. I don't want anyone else to be ill. Yes I was weepy and annoyed this morning but actually I'm happy to isolate.
I can't really enjoy the rest as I feel pants

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Beachbreak2411 · 27/04/2023 21:56

Yabu. He’s working. Don’t be selfish!

MasterBeth · 27/04/2023 22:08

tigger1001 · 27/04/2023 21:37

I disagree. It's never been reasonable to expect a child - even a teen, to isolate away from everyone else in the house for a number of days.

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All teens are not children. An immature 13 y.o, maybe not. A sensible 19 y.o., absolutely fine.

I isolated in my spare room and it was boring, but completely doable. Facetiming with people in the next room for a few days is hardly becoming a hermit.

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