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Got covid and banished to bedroom

138 replies

Quitelikeacatslife · 27/04/2023 08:17

I'm feeling a bit sorry got myself as have tested positive for covid and do feel rubbish. Everyone else in house tested negative. Kids gone to school DH works from home . He's now saying I need to stay in the bedroom. He's brought tea and toast , very nice. I'm happy to get some rest this morning and will probably have a shower etc but I want to veg on sofa later. He works in lounge (has an office but doesn't use it) I don't want to pass bugs on but the thought of not moving freely around for next few days is making me feel worse . AIBU to go into kitchen (I could wear mask) and to ask him to give me lounge?

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LittleBearPad · 27/04/2023 08:46

Ask him to bring you the TV or laptop and watch something.

I hunkered down in the spare room last year - had my lunches/dinners etc brought to me and copious cups of tea. Once I felt less shit it was great.

DangerNoodles · 27/04/2023 08:48

You let him confine your DS to his room for 10 days? Sorry but that is shocking, the time to confront your DH about his ridiculous rules should have been when they were affecting your child.

I've changed my mind, you should stay in your room, if those were the rules for DS, you should follow them too.

Schabernacker · 27/04/2023 08:49

It's weird that so many people assume that other people have TVs in their bedrooms.

If I were you, OP, I would just go about my business as normal and ignore my husband. Though why on earth did you do a Covid test? Your children will be at school with a load of other people who have Covid anyway.

Schabernacker · 27/04/2023 08:49

As for shutting your son in his room for 10 days... I'd find it hard to remain married to someone who did that.

VincentVaguer · 27/04/2023 08:49

HaveYouSeenTheTime · 27/04/2023 08:21

Unless anyone has immunodeficiency in your home, nobody needs to be banished to anywhere. Just wash your hands and don’t cough in his face. Normal respectful behaviour will suffice.

Erm, this.I mean, personally I'd love a day in bed reading, but if I felt well I'd be up and gardening or watching TV. I'd make sure I was back in bed when the kids came home so that dh had to deal with that 😃

VincentVaguer · 27/04/2023 08:50

Quitelikeacatslife · 27/04/2023 08:33

Yes last year poor DS was in room for 10 days!

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Wtf.

Harebrain · 27/04/2023 08:51

No need to stay in your room or mask up. I wouldn’t be hugging the children or kissing them but otherwise it would be life as normal. Your husband is being ridiculous.

Newyeardietstartstomorrow · 27/04/2023 08:53

It's unacceptable to lock a child up for 10 days. Where is your dh sleeping?

Schnooze · 27/04/2023 08:53

I think it’s sensible to stay away from others but you do need a tv or source to watch tv.

I think dh shouldn’t commandeer the lounge when others need it, given he has an office.

Two separate issues imo.

weightymatters73 · 27/04/2023 08:54

Newyeardietstartstomorrow · 27/04/2023 08:53

It's unacceptable to lock a child up for 10 days. Where is your dh sleeping?

😂is your memory that short?

Schabernacker · 27/04/2023 08:54

Newyeardietstartstomorrow · 27/04/2023 08:53

It's unacceptable to lock a child up for 10 days. Where is your dh sleeping?

He'd be sleeping under the patio if he were mine.

BashirWithTheGoodBeard · 27/04/2023 08:55

Quitelikeacatslife · 27/04/2023 08:33

Yes last year poor DS was in room for 10 days!

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Erm, what the fucking fuck?

Zwicky · 27/04/2023 08:56

It's weird that so many people assume that other people have TVs in their bedrooms

Well she’s posting from something. Laptop, phone, iPad - all fine to watch tv. Even if she doesn’t have streaming or a tv licence she could watch a movie on YouTube.

My teenager is currently confined to his room with a horrible virus. Tested negative for covid but either way I don’t want it. I have no cover at work this weekend and the BH (I am already the cover) and if I go down we cancel patients. I’ve been quite strict at other times too depending on work commitments or holidays or people coming to stay but most times I just let the virus rip through the household on the basis that we are all exposed at school/work and you can’t avoid everything all of the time.

Original poster
Quitelikeacatslife · 27/04/2023 08:58

DS is teenager, not a tiny child and that was the guidance at the time, we were all told to isolate for 10 days back then. He had remote schooling to log on to as they were still offering that as an option then. And teenagers spend most of their times in their rooms given the choice , so not as bad as it sounds. No one is suggesting that now and I don't want them to get it . DH is just bit OTT about it and as people have said, likes having his whole domain during the day.

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BashirWithTheGoodBeard · 27/04/2023 08:59

Your DH sounds awful.

SittingOnTheChair · 27/04/2023 08:59

We stay home if someone has Covid but noone stays in thier room! That's madness.

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Quitelikeacatslife · 27/04/2023 09:00

I'm on my phone now, not used to watching tv on it (I'm not a teenager) might give it a go later if I get bored of Mumsnet lol

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stealthninjamum · 27/04/2023 09:03

I think it’s unreasonable that your dh doesn’t use his office but I don’t think it is unreasonable for you to stay in the bedroom. I hated Covid and even though I only had one bad day where I couldn’t get out bed I wouldn’t want to go through that again just because dp didn’t want to stay in the bedroom.

Dd2 got norovirus after Xmas and dd1 gladly isolated in her room to not get it because dd2 has autism and couldn’t cope with being isolated. Dd1s a teenager and enjoyed it. So if you were vomiting it would be reasonable to isolate, I see covid or the flu as similar.

JustKeepSlimming · 27/04/2023 09:05

mdh2020 · 27/04/2023 08:24

I enjoyed having covid and being isolated in the bedroom for 5 days, reading and watching Netflix on the iPad. Other people brought me meals and drinks and no one asked me to do anything. I’d say make the most of it.

Me too! I was sleeping for most of the time, but in between I just lay there and enjoyed some podcasts. Obviously different if you're feeling really rotten, or you have the worry of someone who's vulnerable, but otherwise I'd make the most of it.

Letsdance8188 · 27/04/2023 09:08

I'd just wander in and get comfy on the sofa. Surely if he's the one who's concerned, he's the one who hides away? People go out and about and carry on their lives with covid now, I can't imagine being banished to one room.

SunnySaturdayMorning · 27/04/2023 09:11

I would tell him if he’s so paranoid and anxious about catching it then he can be the one to quarantine himself.

I would not be shutting myself off or wearing a mask in my own house because my partner had gone crazy over a version of the flu.

seratoninmoonbeams · 27/04/2023 09:12

Any reason you're still testing?

Minfilia · 27/04/2023 09:14

Just go about your life OP.

when I had covid DH and I just sat at opposite ends of the living room and he slept in the spare room. Nobody else in the house got it. I still cooked family meals and used the house as usual, I just wiped things down more.

AgnesX · 27/04/2023 09:14

Never mind you having COVID, your DH IBU for hogging the house. If he's got an office he should use it if other people are at home. The selfishness is dreadful.

Newyearnewmeow · 27/04/2023 09:15

He sounds like a selfish pain in the arse.
I would be telling him you will be moving around the house and if he doesn’t like it he has a whole office room to himself which he chooses to not use, ever!
Let him bloody isolate in there if he’s so paranoid.