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to say that beeping won't make me move any faster you twat.

41 replies

ChocChipHandbag · 25/04/2023 08:52

On school run this morning. There's a right turn into a busy road. I've done that particular turn literally hundreds of times and am very good at judging the gaps to pull out. This morning some asshole in a minibus behind me starts beeping to "encourage" me to pull out sooner.

The same asshole stayed behind me and beeped again for observing the 20 limit (residential road, school morning!) and again when I pulled in to let a wide vehicle come through a narrow part with cars parked on both sides.

I'm sorry, but I will be the judge of what is safe for my family and just because you may be less risk averse than I am doesn't mean you can dictate how I drive.

Why do people do this? What makes them think that a horn in my ear is going to encourage me to move? I've been driving 30 years but an inexperienced driver could easily get flustered by it and pull out under pressure when not safe.

I know for a fact that I was driving relatively cautiously, but not unreasonably so. I am now going to get 100 responses saying "Driving slowly is just as dangerous as driving fast, you must have been in the wrong, you don't even realise how bad a driver you are, over-cautious drivers are a menace, go on an advanced driving course to learn how to drive more confidently". Trust me on this, my driving was absolutely fine.

So AIBU to want a sign that pops up in my back window for these occasions that says "Fuck off you twat!"?

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Malarandras · 25/04/2023 08:54

Some people are just idiots who think they rule the road. You did the right thing ignoring the twat! A sign would probably wind folk like that up a lot - might be fun I guess!

AtomicBlondeRose · 25/04/2023 08:55

Oh, I had someone up my arse today when I was already driving at 60 on a single carriageway A road through the countryside - safe to drive at the speed limit but bendy/bumpy so not many places to overtake. I was also behind two other cars going the same speed! Eventually he pulled out and did a risky overtake of all three of us. Ended up sat right in front of us at the traffic lights at the bottom of the hill a couple of miles on though. If we’d have all been pootling at 40 I could understand but not when we were all doing the fastest safe speed already.

SnowyPetals · 25/04/2023 08:55

I would pay good money for one of those signs! I live on a 20mph road. I get arseholes beeping at me all the time because I indicate and slow down to turn into my driveway, and they are going too fast on my tail. Somehow this is my fault!

OnlyFannys · 25/04/2023 08:57

I hate it when people do this, the only thing it will encourage me to do is slow down because if they are that erratic there is more chance they will cause a crash and I would rather be going at a slower speed if that happens

LadyWhineglass · 25/04/2023 08:59

Oh, I thought this thread was about me.

I was on the school run this morning and had just come out of a 30 mph zone School drop off area and had moved into the 40 zone. There is a nasty little lane up ahead and a farm vehicle (covered utility truck) pulled out to turn right in front of me as I was driving along the main road. I braked to avoid him, beeped, and he stuck two fingers up at me.

Sadly for him he pulled out of the Big Posh House Farm Estate so I will be having words with Lord Whineglass later.

WalkingOnTheCracks · 25/04/2023 09:05

Yep. Doing 27 in a 30 and some arsehole beeping and flashing. Happens a lot in the ‘burbs of South London.

I like your idea of a pop-up sign.

I also like my idea of a rear gunner.

BreviloquentBastard · 25/04/2023 09:11

Someone did this to my brother on our village road, got right up his arse and beeping because he dared to do 20 in a 20 on a busy school morning. Van Driver followed him the whole way swearing and gesticulating at him to pull over - funnily enough when Brother did pull over and unfold his 6'5" self from his tiny car, Van Driver suddenly became much more reasonable. I think because Brother has long curly blonde hair and a diddy Fiat, Van Driver thought he was a woman.

Apparently Van Driver locked his doors and had a very sullen conversation through a one inch gap in his windows when Brother actually approached him. This should give you an idea of the kind of micro penis that behaves like this. All mouth and no trousers, as they say.

AluckyEllie · 25/04/2023 09:21

@BreviloquentBastard oh that’s satisfying. I always think men who drive like that, trying to intimidate people must have sad pathetic lives and it’s their only way of feeling powerful. Twats. Hate them. Hate that they put me and my family at risk. I like the idea of a rear gunner activating if they get too close!

WhatNoRaisins · 25/04/2023 09:24

It's a stupid thing to do. If there is a nervous, hesitant driver in front of you then that sort of behaviour is only going to make them more nervous and take even longer surely.

ChocChipHandbag · 25/04/2023 09:26

BreviloquentBastard · 25/04/2023 09:11

Someone did this to my brother on our village road, got right up his arse and beeping because he dared to do 20 in a 20 on a busy school morning. Van Driver followed him the whole way swearing and gesticulating at him to pull over - funnily enough when Brother did pull over and unfold his 6'5" self from his tiny car, Van Driver suddenly became much more reasonable. I think because Brother has long curly blonde hair and a diddy Fiat, Van Driver thought he was a woman.

Apparently Van Driver locked his doors and had a very sullen conversation through a one inch gap in his windows when Brother actually approached him. This should give you an idea of the kind of micro penis that behaves like this. All mouth and no trousers, as they say.

I love this story! It's lucky for me that there was nowhere I could just stop and block minivan twat without disrupting all the rest of ten traffic because I really really wanted to go and shout at him.

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ChocChipHandbag · 25/04/2023 09:26

WhatNoRaisins · 25/04/2023 09:24

It's a stupid thing to do. If there is a nervous, hesitant driver in front of you then that sort of behaviour is only going to make them more nervous and take even longer surely.

Exactly. They are both impatient and very stupid.

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Creamcrackersandricecakes · 25/04/2023 09:29

Someone asked about this exact scenario on a speed awareness course I was on. The instructor said his way of dealing with it was to completely ignore the beeper, whilst simultaneously slowing down further. His advice was never speed up and never get into an altercation. If they want to tie themselves up into angry, stressed knots, let them get on with it.

MrsMoastyToasty · 25/04/2023 09:35

A lot of these drivers suffer from BCSD (big car small dick) to quote from the film Personal Services.

WhatHoJeeves · 25/04/2023 09:36

Our road joins a very busy main road at a strange off-set crossroads. I was behind another car, waiting to turn right onto the main road in rush hour, and the traffic was constant, no gaps. A man behind me kept beeping and in my rear view mirror I could see him waving his arms and glaring and shouting. He suddenly roared past me and the car in front on our left and dangerously pulled out around us, turning right into the main road with all other cars having to brake dangerously for him. Insane.

Blamunge · 25/04/2023 09:37

I’m a disabled driver. Someone beeped at me repeatedly to get a move on in a crowded car park, and in my distress I actually did move my car forward to let him past, and I broke a pedestrian’s leg. Then he squeezed past and fled the scene. Now I just ignore twats who beep impatiently, but it’s still very distressing for me as a disabled person.

RoxanaRoxana · 25/04/2023 09:37

Urgh, yes. Also people who beep at pedestrians crossing a zebra too slowly when they are, for instance, 8 months pregnant and shepherding a toddler as happened to me recently.

WhatTheHeckyPeck · 25/04/2023 09:39

I was driving through he lane going into the village where I live and some bloke behind was flashing his lights and beeping at me to go faster ( was doing 30 but the road is a classed as national speed limit bizarrely). he soon realised why going any faster is idiotic when I went around one of the bends and came face to face with a stonking great tractor coming the other way. The wanker behind me looked very sheepish as he reversed the 50 metres it took to get to the "passing place" in order for the tractor to pass both him and me. He stayed well back after that, but I did have a little chuckle to myself.

bigbazooka · 25/04/2023 09:39

There are some real idiots out there driving. It's shocking! You did nothing illegal OP.

Nocaloriesinchocolate · 25/04/2023 09:40

There’s a road near me that I use every day that is not so much tarmac as potholes. Locals know to travel at much less than the speed limit because of this. Idiot stranger tailgated me, clearly getting so het up, then shot past me when it wasn’t really safe and ended up in a pothole so large speleologist (sp?) could train in it. Karma!

StressedToTheMaxxx · 25/04/2023 09:46

All that's like that do is make me go slower.

DannyZukosSmile · 25/04/2023 10:11

I know this is going to piss a few people off on here and people are going to throw shade on me (coz the bad drivers, the dickheads, and the tailgaters WILL slate me for it,) but I do not give a flying shiny SHIT...

When people beep me to go faster or drive up my arse, when I am doing the speed limit, (or maybe 5 miles per hour below it ...) I go slower. SLOWER... The closer you get to me, the more you harass me and hound me, the more you bug me, and the more you wave your fist in your windscreen, the slower I will go ....

I will not be intimidated, I will not succumb to demands to go faster, (and break the SPEED LIMIT,) I will go slower, I will annoy you more and more and more, and you will arrive even later to your destination, than you would have if you just left me alone, and let me do THE SPEED LIMIT.

Oh @ChocChipHandbag YANBU obviously! Like you, I have been driving many years (around 30,) and am a very confident driver. I will NOT be intimidated by wankers and dickheads who demand I go faster because they want me to, even if it means breaking the speed limit.

No idea why these arseholes think they have the right to intimidate and bully people into breaking the speed limit. Doesn't work with me, as I said, I just go slower, and slower. They're absolute fuckwits if they think they can bully or intimidate ME!

And anyone thinking of attacking me or questioning me or berating me for doing this, don't waste your time, because I DO NOT GIVE A SHIT ABOUT ANYONE'S OPINIONS about me doing this. And I will NOT respond to your posts.

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 25/04/2023 10:21

YANBU. The other day a bloke beeped at me for not letting him out of a side road. When he hadn't been at the junction as I passed it and due to the angle you can't really see people approaching it.

I don't know what he thought he was going to get out of that, so I gave him a thumbs down and a sad face just to wind him up. Prick.

Miloticc · 25/04/2023 10:26

BreviloquentBastard · 25/04/2023 09:11

Someone did this to my brother on our village road, got right up his arse and beeping because he dared to do 20 in a 20 on a busy school morning. Van Driver followed him the whole way swearing and gesticulating at him to pull over - funnily enough when Brother did pull over and unfold his 6'5" self from his tiny car, Van Driver suddenly became much more reasonable. I think because Brother has long curly blonde hair and a diddy Fiat, Van Driver thought he was a woman.

Apparently Van Driver locked his doors and had a very sullen conversation through a one inch gap in his windows when Brother actually approached him. This should give you an idea of the kind of micro penis that behaves like this. All mouth and no trousers, as they say.

I’ve just posted a thread similar to this, I’ve had blokes kicking off at me because I’m a woman but I don’t think they’d do it if it was my DP driving!

Miloticc · 25/04/2023 10:28

YANBU! I can understand being mad if someone’s doing 30 in a 60. But normal responsible driving is making people absolutely raging. I got beeped at this morning myself for not letting someone out of a junction… because the car behind me was letting them 😳 but they wanted to be another car ahead

Gtsr443 · 25/04/2023 10:29

A very conspicuous dashcam back and front really helps I've found. As soon as the wankers know they are being filmed they back off.

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